Do you ignore people whom you're mad at?



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MissConstrue
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16 Apr 2009, 3:45 am

I've come to the conclusion that if I don't involve myself in that person's drama, it's better that way. Never could deal with haughtly people and arrogance that I see too much of in everyday life.

Use to blow up at my friends and whoever pissed me off or did things behind my back. Now anymore I ignore them.

Sometimes I wonder if that's the best way to cope with anger and people is just walk pass them like they don't exist. I think this is the best method I've found so far for my strategies in dealing with anger.

Do you think this is the best way to deal with people?


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16 Apr 2009, 4:29 am

I read somewhere that the word emotion means energy in motion. Anger as an
emotion can be destructive to one's well being if not properly dealt with. Freezing one's
anger is a coping mechanism. I suggest dealing with your anger..but continue avoiding the
people who have made you angry.

It is best to learn healthier strategies in anger management.



16 Apr 2009, 8:17 am

I hear ignoring people is a form of bullying and that is disallowed at my job. :(


I tend to do this when I'm mad and stick my nose in the air.



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16 Apr 2009, 8:36 am

I ignore them with a few sarcy comments along the way


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16 Apr 2009, 8:53 am

I find ignoring people as the best method of staying away from, as you say, their drama. I've come across people however, who when they see you ignoring them, they will do anything to get a reaction, especially one of anger.

I won't lie, my meds have helped me keep my anger in check. I act as if they are invisible to me, and being aware of when they are trying to get a reaction from me makes me think twice before letting my emotions get the better of me. This is the best way to break loose from the grips of people who want to use or manipulate you. No matter what situation arises or whatever their mood, if you show only one method of behaviour in return, they have no power over you.



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16 Apr 2009, 10:26 am

I ignore people I am mad at as well. I remain perfectly calm, cool, and collected. I don't yell, scream, or use violence. I just sit there, listen to my music, and think peaceful thoughts.
If I need to say words, I say them calmly. (Example: "For goodness sakes, will you please just shut up?")
I believe that is the best method.


I hate it when people tell me that "bottling up" my anger will make me explode. I am not "bottling it up!" I am expressing my anger in a very appropriate manner. It just doesn't happen to use violence and yelling.

Besides, the times that I have "bottled it up", I've found that after a while, it just fades away into nothing after I've forgotten what made me upset or when I've used logic to resolve it in my mind.


It's the people that never "bottle up" their anger at all, who are constantly hitting and yelling, that are always exploding. Well, gee, why is that? :roll:


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16 Apr 2009, 11:07 am

Usually, I ignore those I am angry with.

Mostly because I don't want to risk what I might do if I don't remove myself from their presence until I cool down.



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16 Apr 2009, 11:33 am

I frequently ignore people I am angry with..often because I don't know how else to deal with them....the problem is that sometimes it is difficult to stop ignoring them. As a result, there are some people I have continued to ignore for years...Often I am not particularly angry with them anymore...I just can't break the cycle. It might be increased in instances where there is a mutual disagreement and they ignore you as well.

In fact, if people are angry with me...my retaliation might be to ignore them...and that will set up a cycle of aversion too....

There is a girl who I used to be friends with...and we had a disagreement over something trivial...she was setting up an art show for her friend at our venue, and demanded to be reimbursed for supplies that she had purchased as part of the decorations for the art opening...but we felt we did not need to reimburse her, since we had given her the use of the gallery and full creative control...and what she chose to do was her responsibility. We did not ask her to buy $30 worth of candles...she chose to....She raised a big stink...and now it has been about 4 years since the incident and when we see each other in public, we each pretend that the other does not exist.

So..probably not the healthiest way to deal with being angry at someone.



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17 Apr 2009, 5:32 am

Unless we're very close (as in first degree relative close), I can't do anything but ignore them. My anger (which is displeasure more than anything) becomes locked up inside and there's nothing I can do to release it. After a while I'll get over it and things will continue as always. Not very healthy.



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17 Apr 2009, 12:45 pm

I suppose I do. I don't ignore them if I have to talk to them, but I do if I don't have to I ain't gonna say a word to them. The problem is I'm like that with everyone too because I suck at getting a conversation started. If there's some drama going around me about other people(even if it's about people I like) I stay completely out of it and don't say a word.



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17 Apr 2009, 12:54 pm

I ignore to the point that they are invisible to me.



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17 Apr 2009, 1:00 pm

MONKEY wrote:
I ignore them with a few sarcy comments along the way


Also when it's my best best friend I'm mad with we both go "old married couple" on eachother and I ignore him or tell him to shut up lol.


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17 Apr 2009, 10:35 pm

I normally ignore people that I'm mad at & then what can happen is that after everybody has calmed down things go back as they should which means that the friendship could start over again or you go your separate ways (mind I tend to replay situations in my head)


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18 Apr 2009, 12:10 am

If i'm mad at someone, I deal it out with them. I can't stand being mad at someone for to long, as it becomes draining. The sooner things are dealt with the less stress on me.



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18 Apr 2009, 7:09 pm

silentbob15 wrote:
I ignore to the point that they are invisible to me.


same here



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