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 Topic: I dont know how to show I care about him in a realtionship |
thatone
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 Forum: Love and Dating Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:47 pm Subject: I dont know how to show I care about him in a realtionship |
I was on the NT version of that a while ago but didn't know he was AS at the time. People like to feel needed and that they have improved your life somehow by their presence.
A few suggestions: Cal ... |
| Topic: Do you miss someone right now? |
thatone
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Forum: Love and Dating Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 1:11 pm Subject: Do you miss someone right now? |
| I miss my bf so much...I want to be with him all the time and he wants to be with me...sometimes...which is apparently AS related but is really hard for me. I do like him more than social constructs a ... |
| Topic: Do you think your condition is apparent to others? |
thatone
Replies: 57
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 7:59 am Subject: Do you think your condition is apparent to others? |
| No one would ever know my bf had AS, he's just quirky like many of you have said. And I realize it becomes an issue where you don't want people to view you through a filter but when I found out I bare ... |
| Topic: How can I comfort him? |
thatone
Replies: 9
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Forum: Love and Dating Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 11:41 am Subject: How can I comfort him? |
| DH (with AS) and I have been married 15 years. When he is annoyed at something, sometimes he DOES need to vent. And sometimes he does need to process... so I ask him the leading questions. Did you ... |
| Topic: My dates don’t hiding their desperateness |
thatone
Replies: 21
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Forum: Love and Dating Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 11:28 am Subject: My dates don’t hiding their desperateness |
| Seems they are open and honest about their desire to date....they must find you attractive and hope you will pick up on that interest. |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
Views: 450
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 10:43 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
It is kind of a negotiated love, and it doesn't sound so romantic, but it might be worth the effort.
Z
Thanks for explaining it to me...this is probably the biggest issue in our relationship, hi ... |
| Topic: Do we get very upset easily? |
thatone
Replies: 30
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 10:21 am Subject: Do we get very upset easily? |
| This applies to my bf as well. Gets extremely upset over things and I think it becomes worse as it goes on because he feels he is not being understood. |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 10:11 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
Im not sure if that makes sense.
That makes sense and no I don't do that specifically because I thought he may be pressured to do something--and most of those happened before I knew he had Asperger ... |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 10:04 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
| I can't offer any advice as to whether he really loves you or not. I just know this about myself: the more someone is disappointed in me and pushes me to change, the more I shut down, even if I love ... |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 9:56 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
Has he been going through any tough times lately? Has there been anything that's really been stressing him out?
Yes, he's generally stressed about work and that has gotten worse, but his behavior ... |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
Views: 450
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 9:38 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
| How long have you two been together? If it hasn't been long, that is really cruel of him to say and do. If it has been a little while, it's still rather rude. Have you tried telling him exactly how ... |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 9:13 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
| Yes, he has real issues with obligations. In arguments he has said things like 'and you expect me to talk to you everyday' and I think what?? Don't you want to talk to me if you like me? I also think ... |
| Topic: Being treated like a child as an adult. |
thatone
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 8:57 am Subject: Being treated like a child as an adult. |
| I guess I really need to do some work understanding Aspies because he didn't seem like he was talking to you like a child at all. I can't even see which part of his comment you are upset with. To me h ... |
| Topic: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
thatone
Replies: 15
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 8:39 am Subject: AS and holidays/birthdays/special events |
| Hi, I'm new and had good sucess in the love&dating section that I thought I would try here. I am an NT and my bf has Asperger's. He says to me often "I don't do holidays". But he is the same with ... |
| Topic: How can I comfort him? |
thatone
Replies: 9
Views: 471
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Forum: Love and Dating Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 2:51 am Subject: How can I comfort him? |
| So when you say "yes I do" I find that hard to believe because you are you and can't possible understand every single thought that goes through my head during any given situation, how that affects wha ... |
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