I will not call him...he will only call me
I will not ask him to come over, he will only do so if he chooses
I will focus all my emotional energy on art and music.
that's that...

I have been the same way with the very few girlfriends I have had. Therefore since you and I are so similar I can't offer any good advice, except to ask you to ask yourself do you really like him? If not find someone better, or someone who makes you feel more.