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stevechoi
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Don't you love how meltdowns always happen at the worst time, in front of the most important people? Then everyone thinks your crazy?
If I could have my meltdowns in the shower, or while I'm watching TV alone, and get it out of the way, that would be great.
Maybe in a perfect world... |
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cerasela
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The meltdowns that I have now, unfortunately, don't happen in public anymore(they are just internal and they are probably damaging my heart, because of the amount of adrenaline that they beat my body with), I wish I would just have them directed at the person that caused it. It usually happens when you try to do a good job, concentrate and some moron just comes in and starts trouble. I am talking about work...at my old job, in hospital, I worked with a bunch of insensitive people (insensitive to patients...that really always upset me to the point that I would feel sick inside), so you're trying to work, mind you, with sick people, that need all your care and concentration and all of a sudden, some fat (fat because of laziness and glutony), ignorant, ugly, mean, stupid co-worker just jumps in and starts some out of the blue trouble, because they KNOW that you have buttons that they can push...and I think that they do that because of envy, there is an air of serenity that all aspies and autistics have and SOME NT's (I think that the ones with IQ under 60), so SOME NT's can not figure out where that serenity comes from and they are just crazy with envy and why not screw somebody's day, if their day is always screwed? I always feel happy inside, regardless, I always try to make sense thru logic of bad situations and I don't think that I ever take out my frustrations on others (except the poor immediate family...that I know I am guilty of, but they understand me better now and give me space to calm down).
My point here is that an "exterior" meltdown might be good for your health, in public, directed at the moron that caused it, why have the kind of meltdowns I have, the ones that "beat" my organs with adrenaline? Let it out, just don't say the forbidden words ( that can get you in big trouble with the law, you all know what they are, they can't be slurs) and do not get physical, walk away before you hurt someone/or before someone seems like they want to touch you physically...Yes, it can cause you to lose your job, but if it would be the right job for you, you would not have to deal with that sh** to begin with... Every kick in the butt is a step forward in the future (an improvement in your life), that's how I see it now. I have had a lot of those. 
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JCJC777
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My system crashes caused my wife huge pain, and it was that which gave me the motivation to escape Aspie - http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com - so in that way maybe somehow they eventually proved a blessing, because life is so good now.
Very best JC |
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LadyMahler
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Location: Cape Town
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| JCJC777 - that's a good bit of writing you have done on that site, thanks. Definitely recommended if someone wants to ease themselves into the NT world. My opinion is that aspies do get joy through friendships and connectedness and if that is what you really seek, it is within your grasp. It just takes practise and patience from all parties involved. |
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cerasela
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| Quote: | My system crashes caused my wife huge pain, and it was that which gave me the motivation to escape Aspie - http://unlearningasperger.blogspot.com - so in that way maybe somehow they eventually proved a blessing, because life is so good now.
Very best JC |
Excellent information, it will save me some grief (and other people as well, because I know what a pain in the butt I can be) as I learn how to control myself better. I have ended in very poor situations (community service for cursing in court, elegedly, other things and places I can not even mention...  ) because of my inability to deal with every day "absurd" NT situations...but I feel like I am making progress every day.
Thank you, JC!!!
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Frosty
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MELTDOWNS MELTDOWNS! OMG!
We have all been there, I tell myself, it will pass. Also super tips around here is helping me to avoid the total reaction or meltdown. I do think it is a form of breaking with reality, and I am amazed how much stress I can take before the fall.
Bless all you folks out there. 
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Pandora
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| itw wrote: | | thyme wrote: | | Yes it does, it must be the build-up of stress chemicals that cause them. Usually, I have shut-downs instead of meltdowns which are just as bad for the person experiencing them. My Mom would have threatened to put me in a foster home if I had a meltdown so I learned to keep it all instead. I had that instilled into me at a young age to feel guilty if my inability to handle my own problems caused my loved ones any kind of distress. |
I'm sorry to hear that you have to hide your meltdowns. I think a lot of us have had to at some point in our lives. Be it from a parent, boyfriend, husband or friends. Most of the reason I hide it was because I had no idea what was going on. Now that I know I have aspergers, I've been more open. The people who are most understanding about it are the ones that really matter. Still, it's easy to feel inferior. Society makes it a point to label those who can't handle things as losers.
I also have shutdowns. They are basically, for me, really bad meltdowns. Last time I had one of those was a few months ago. My husband and I were on a business trip in Orange County, Calif. and he literally had to lead me back to our hotel room one night. This was after 4 days of over-stimulation. I couldn't talk to anyone or look at anyone. I just basically kept my head down and let him lead me back to the hotel. At least I knew what was wrong with me. I didn't use to have that knowledge in the past and I just thought I was psycho. |
The meltdowns have got worse for me in the past few years but now at least I have some idea what is causing them and now I know I am not just mentally ill, childish, or a loser (though I still think some of those things sometimes).
Emotional overloads, PMS, and hot humid weather are the main causes of the meltdowns I have. It's not always possible to forecast exactly when one will happen because I can feel quite calm but if somebody says the wrong thing, I can still blow up if there is a high level of background stress which I've suppressed any reaction to.
I hate it when people say "getting upset won't help you". HTF would they know? Are they in my mind? No they aren't so they don't know. They use it as an excuse to be unhelpful and disobliging.
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JCJC777
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| Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2008 2:54 pm Post subject: Meltdowns |
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It was very, very certainly the overload from complex social situations that caused my system crashes. I have just come through a very complex Christmas and New Year (extended family, friends, childrens partners), historically my highest risk time of the year, with no system crash - I just keep on dumping that data! Wonderful.
Very best, JC
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Pandora
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It's really like trying to plug too many appliances into a power board. There eventually comes a point when putting one more in causes the whole fuse board to blow.
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