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Age1600
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 Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:35 am Post subject: How is your eye contact? |
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I must say my eye contact consists of either, no eye contact at all, or I stare lol. I've had many nts literally give me no eye contact because I just stare at them haha. My boyfriend pointed this out yesterday that my eye contact can either consist of me forcing it(which is when I stare haha), or me just looking at the ground. How is everybody elses eye contact, do you avoid eye contact, do you stare, do you actually make eye contact?
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Bopkasen
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:37 am Post subject: Re: How is your eye contact? |
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| Age1600 wrote: | | I must say my eye contact consists of either, no eye contact at all, or I stare lol. I've had many nts literally give me no eye contact because I just stare at them haha. My boyfriend pointed this out yesterday that my eye contact can either consist of me forcing it(which is when I stare haha), or me just looking at the ground. How is everybody elses eye contact, do you avoid eye contact, do you stare, do you actually make eye contact? |
Time for an eye exam.  |
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SilverProteus
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:38 am Post subject: Re: How is your eye contact? |
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| Age1600 wrote: | | I must say my eye contact consists of either, no eye contact at all, or I stare lol. I've had many nts literally give me no eye contact because I just stare at them haha. |
Happens to me as well. All the time.
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silentchaos
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:44 am Post subject: |
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| If i try to make eye contact i end up looking at them for a second or two then something else. It just makes it worse so i don't even try anymore. |
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Kaleido
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:47 am Post subject: |
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Eye contact can be stressful, I mess mine up, so I am being kind to myself and not trying to fake it any more.
I agree it can turn into staring and sometimes it turns into making remarks about someone's face 
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DevonB
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:47 am Post subject: All in the eyes |
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I learned a long time ago to force myself to look at people. But it's really hard and tiring. Thing is, I'm never sure if I'm looking at them too long, or long enough. So I'll glance at them and make sure they recognize that I'm making eye contact, and then I look away in relief. Then sometimes I wonder distractedly how long it'll be before I have to look at them again...lol...
Sometimes I find I just can't look at people. No matter how hard I try, my eyes just slide over their face...I can't make them stick.
Other times...well, I'm told I stare. I'm really intense...and my partner will poke me, or take my hand to remind me of what I'm doing. It's embarassing because I don't know that I'm doing it...and I don't recognize that it's bothering the other person. I"m in deep observation mode.
I still have to remind myself to try and cover, you know, behave like an NT.
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Lightning88
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:48 am Post subject: |
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I don't have a problem with eye contact. I don't think I really ever have.
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Scorpio82
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:54 am Post subject: |
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| All my life, people have been telling me to look at them when I speak, so I've eventually made a habit of it. Unfortunately, now I stare at them too much. It creeps people out. |
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Danielismyname
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:56 am Post subject: |
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Depends on the context.
Listening: away to the side (I can look at my mother when she talks, but that's it)
Talking: away to the side and at the ground; I used to stare above people, the lights above them especially (I still do it now and again)
Distance: I'll stare everyone down if I feel like it
I'll tell you what I find extremely rude, people who hold your chin and try to force your head up when they stand in front of you to make eye contact; an auntie did such to me the other month. Naturally, she couldn't move my head. |
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Kaleido
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 11:56 am Post subject: Re: All in the eyes |
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| DevonB wrote: |
Sometimes I find I just can't look at people. No matter how hard I try, my eyes just slide over their face...I can't make them stick. |
Yes, I am the same, some days I force myself to look but then cannot sustain it at all and as you say, I slide. I find that funny because it sounds funny and its so true  |
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Age1600
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Danielismyname wrote: |
I'll tell you what I find extremely rude, people who hold your chin and try to force your head up when they stand in front of you to make eye contact; an auntie did such to me the other month. Naturally, she couldn't move my head. |
Omgosh yes! I never gave any eye contact growing up, looked either at the ground, the ceiling, the other way...anything, after my brother got killed in a car accident when I was just about to turn 15, all his friends did exactly what your auntie did. Grab my chin forced me into eye contact, said its wrong not to give eye contact, and since I was only 60lbs yes 60lbs haha, they treated me like I was 5, and told how wrong it was  . So basically I was forced into eye contact from the ages of almost 15 to the age of 17  . So now if I do look, I just stare like I'm looking through the person.
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Kaleido
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Age1600 wrote: | | I was forced into eye contact from the ages of almost 15 to the age of 17 . So now if I do look, I just stare like I'm looking through the person. |
That makes me cringe so I can understand the staring through someone. |
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batista90
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Age1600 wrote: | | Danielismyname wrote: |
I'll tell you what I find extremely rude, people who hold your chin and try to force your head up when they stand in front of you to make eye contact; an auntie did such to me the other month. Naturally, she couldn't move my head. |
Omgosh yes! I never gave any eye contact growing up, looked either at the ground, the ceiling, the other way...anything, after my brother got killed in a car accident when I was just about to turn 15, all his friends did exactly what your auntie did. Grab my chin forced me into eye contact, said its wrong not to give eye contact, and since I was only 60lbs yes 60lbs haha, they treated me like I was 5, and told how wrong it was . So basically I was forced into eye contact from the ages of almost 15 to the age of 17 . So now if I do look, I just stare like I'm looking through the person. |
thats so sad what happened......i never havent been broblems whith eye contact 
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Social_Fantom
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| Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 12:42 pm Post subject: |
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I have to remember to look people in the eyes, I forget sometimes. When I do maintain eye contact, I only do so for a few seconds at a time to keep from staring. Sometimes though I don't even look them in the eye, I look at their teeth, nose, or forehead. And sometimes I only look at one of their eyes instead of both.
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victorvndoom
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