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Stealth
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| I really like your style. I think you're pretty. |
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dragonboy
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 3:19 pm Post subject: |
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i think your pretty 
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KatieMiller
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| LePetitPrince wrote: | | a girl DOESN'T need much social skills to get a bf, the shyest girl of the world can get a bf if she's attractive, Poeticromance is not a guy for god's sake! What she needs is to be more attractive, so giving her tips to become more attractive (physically) would be more useful that giving cliché advices such as 'be social' , a useless advice to an aspie nonetheless. |
That is absolutely not true. The prettiest girl in the world may attract a lot of guys but attraction alone does not a relationship make. Trust me, I know this from experience. Besides, being shy and being aspie are two completely different things. They sometimes overlap, but they are separate.
Dating and having relationships is just as hard for aspie girls as it is for guys. Seems like a big misconception that we have it easier or something.
Improved looks do help, as does the self-confidence that comes with them. But social skills are the big one. Not just talking to people as an alternative to shy silence, but the actual social skills that are so difficult for all of us. You're right that "Be social" is useless advice, but I don't know if anyone said that. What is excellent advice is to commit to learning social skills and understanding other people. You can still be shy and have good social skills.
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LePetitPrince
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Location: Beirut , Lebanon
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 3:45 pm Post subject: |
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| KatieMiller wrote: | | LePetitPrince wrote: | | a girl DOESN'T need much social skills to get a bf, the shyest girl of the world can get a bf if she's attractive, Poeticromance is not a guy for god's sake! What she needs is to be more attractive, so giving her tips to become more attractive (physically) would be more useful that giving cliché advices such as 'be social' , a useless advice to an aspie nonetheless. |
That is absolutely not true. The prettiest girl in the world may attract a lot of guys but attraction alone does not a relationship make. Trust me, I know this from experience. Besides, being shy and being aspie are two completely different things. They sometimes overlap, but they are separate.
Dating and having relationships is just as hard for aspie girls as it is for guys. Seems like a big misconception that we have it easier or something.
Improved looks do help, as does the self-confidence that comes with them. But social skills are the big one. Not just talking to people as an alternative to shy silence, but the actual social skills that are so difficult for all of us. You're right that "Be social" is useless advice, but I don't know if anyone said that. What is excellent advice is to commit to learning social skills and understanding other people. You can still be shy and have good social skills. |
You are right in some points but for her in order to have a relationship she needs to get a boyfriend first! So she needs to ATTRACT guys and to do so she needs to be attractive (or rich).
Help her to get passed the 1st step and then you can give her plenty advices about social and communication skills improvements. |
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GreatCeleryStalk
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Attractiveness is subjective to a certain point. There are certain morphological characteristics that most humans might find attractive, but there's a huge variance between cultures and a further variance between individuals.
Physical attraction is important, but it's not the only factor (or even the most heavily weighted factor) in attraction. In my experience, if you find the person to be intellectually stimulating as well as physically attractive, she's going to win out over someone who may be more aesthetically pleasing.
It seems like you're also assuming that because you don't find her attractive that no one else will either; I don't know if that's an Aspie thing or what, but it seems like a fairly flawed assumption. |
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viska
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| This pic has major myspace angles going on. Anyway, purple hair is cool. I'd like to dye my hair again but I work for The Man. |
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Veresae
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 11:10 pm Post subject: |
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| You've got a good nerdy style (the purple hair's great) but truthfully I don't find your face attractive. Sorry. >.> Other dudes do though, so don't feel down. ^_^ |
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Yoshie777
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You look great! I like you just the way you are! 
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sgrannel
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| KatieMiller wrote: | | LePetitPrince wrote: | | a girl DOESN'T need much social skills to get a bf, the shyest girl of the world can get a bf if she's attractive, Poeticromance is not a guy for god's sake! What she needs is to be more attractive, so giving her tips to become more attractive (physically) would be more useful that giving cliché advices such as 'be social' , a useless advice to an aspie nonetheless. |
That is absolutely not true. The prettiest girl in the world may attract a lot of guys but attraction alone does not a relationship make. Trust me, I know this from experience. Besides, being shy and being aspie are two completely different things. They sometimes overlap, but they are separate.
Dating and having relationships is just as hard for aspie girls as it is for guys. Seems like a big misconception that we have it easier or something.
Improved looks do help, as does the self-confidence that comes with them. But social skills are the big one. Not just talking to people as an alternative to shy silence, but the actual social skills that are so difficult for all of us. You're right that "Be social" is useless advice, but I don't know if anyone said that. What is excellent advice is to commit to learning social skills and understanding other people. You can still be shy and have good social skills. |
Are you saying that you have so much experience with the attraction aspect that you now take it for granted, and are possibly even jaded with it? The fact that you're saying "attraction alone does not a relationship make", shows that it IS easier for the women, or at least for you. You apparently can afford to nitpick about this and that, which means you are several steps ahead of where many guys are. All of the women I know who are staying out of relationships, are doing so voluntarily, usually because they're unhealthy, jaded, or both. Learn to appreciate what you have, and take care of yourself so you don't end up like that.
Don't say "no, no, no" to everyone you meet, and then complain about how life is so boring and lonely. You gotta start somewhere, and nobody is perfect.
Personally, I could find a way to have fun with attraction, with the possibility of developing a relationship, as long as there aren't any major problems.
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Thomas1138
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Agree with everyone here. Nice blue eyes and the glasses and hair both work for you.
| KatieMiller wrote: | | That is absolutely not true. The prettiest girl in the world may attract a lot of guys but attraction alone does not a relationship make. Trust me, I know this from experience. |
Heh, SOMEONE'S got a healthy opinion of herself. |
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zombie
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weather1man
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lol you guys should post on that TS site, they are harsh. anyway, you look cute. Not really my type, romantically, but I'm sure we'd be good friends. Hit me up sometime, if you want to chat.
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Pikachu
CB operator, Callsign 26-TM-082
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Location: On top of a hill next to a golf course (0 golf balls have broken the back windows on the house)
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Poeticromance, I'm not sure this thread is helping to identify whether you are attractive or not...
here's what I see from the photograph..
1) Hair: unique styling, suits you well I think
2) Glasses: again I think they suit you, though I'd know better if it was a picture with you directly facing the camera
you don't seem intimidating as such, I've not seen many posts by you so can't go on any kind of personality there but I'm sure you're sweet and a lot of guys do like you and find you attractive.
all in all you look pretty, and I am sure the guys your age see that too
these are my honest views
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D1nk0
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Hey Poeticromance, where did you go(from this thread  )? I think you should try dyeing your hair jet black. Also, I cant help but wonder how you'd look in (buddy holly)glasses  . I Really you should go for the Enid-from-Ghostworld look. |
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KatieMiller
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| Thomas1138 wrote: | Agree with everyone here. Nice blue eyes and the glasses and hair both work for you.
| KatieMiller wrote: | | That is absolutely not true. The prettiest girl in the world may attract a lot of guys but attraction alone does not a relationship make. Trust me, I know this from experience. |
Heh, SOMEONE'S got a healthy opinion of herself. |
oops. Totally not what I meant to say. How embarrasing; I apologize.
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