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JerryHatake
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 Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 8:52 pm Post subject: Should I tell her about this development again |
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Well my feelings for my friend, Michelle are back and stronger now. I know she has a boyfriend and all but I can't get rid of this crush and feelings on her. I'm just hopeful something good happens. Maybe if we hang out a bit maybe something then happen between us. I'm just so confused to what to do.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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zee
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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She has a boyfriend, so I wouldn't "do" anything. But if you like her company, I don't see why you can't hang out together. Are there any activities that you both enjoy
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matsuiny2004
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 9:47 pm Post subject: Re: Should I tell her about this development again |
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| JerryHatake wrote: | | Well my feelings for my friend, Michelle are back and stronger now. I know she has a boyfriend and all but I can't get rid of this crush and feelings on her. I'm just hopeful something good happens. Maybe if we hang out a bit maybe something then happen between us. I'm just so confused to what to do. |
Just let your feelings go and reamain friends. I had the same problem. They are not worth following. |
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JerryHatake
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 10:07 pm Post subject: |
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You both got a point to let it go. I'm just worrying too much about things. Being friends is important. I'm always hopeful about some things and this is one of those if something happens randomly.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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matsuiny2004
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If you are lookign for a real relationship you could try online dating 
just an idea |
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Ikari_Gendo
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| Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 3:28 pm Post subject: |
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Jerry Hatake,
Our emotions can cloud our judgment, especially when they are unfamiliar emotions. We all want to bask in the warm glow of those feelings of love, and for those of us who don't experience emotions the way NTs do, this is all the more so.
Back off. For right now, just back off.
This is not the same as give up, but accept the fact that right now, you are not the one for her. Continue to hang out with her if your feelings don't make that too uncomfortable. Let her see your good points but don't try to force yourself into her life.
In short, do not try to curl around that dying ember and suck the last warmth out of it to ward off the cold world outside you. Later in life you will be more used to these feelings and will be able to enjoy them when they happen and let them go when they are done.
Until then, they suck. I know. Been there. Done that. Repeatedly.
I don't know if this advice will do you any good, but it's the best I have to offer.
Your friend.
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JerryHatake
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| Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 4:54 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks for advice everyone so far.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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JerryHatake
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| Posted: Thu May 08, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject: |
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I'll be patient about my decisions and if she and her bf break up, I'll the chance then.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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JerryHatake
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| zee wrote: | She has a boyfriend, so I wouldn't "do" anything. But if you like her company, I don't see why you can't hang out together. Are there any activities that you both enjoy
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That I don't but we figure that out I guess. Maybe go to the movies, pool, mall and other things I can think of at the moment.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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JerryHatake
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Well here is a shocking development for everyone. She just broke her bf for good. I was quite surprised when she told me. There is some good news from this shocking news. She see us being even better friends years down the road which really makes her smile. I'm letting her have some time to herself so she can recovered and there might be a chance for us after while. For now she just going to have fun with life at the time being. Patience is a virtue I guess and being patient was a smart choice for me after all. Though I do feel sad for her for what happened because I know how it is feels like when it happened to me earlier this year.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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JerryHatake
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| Posted: Thu Jul 17, 2008 10:55 am Post subject: |
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I guess this thread of mine has died very quickly spite me reviving it like earlier this morning.
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"No one is the same you can't compare yourself to other people because everyone is different" - Michelle
"Everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard that is to believe sometimes, it is so true!" - Michelle
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