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nannarob
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| slowmutant wrote: | Do you think it's possible, Merle, for you not to have this tough front put up? If this pains you, then why not learn how to be friendlier and less off-putting?
If your facial mask misleads and frightens and you want that to change, I'm sure you could learn to emote normally. |
You are making strange comments for an aspie.
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darkstone100
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Joined: Mar 05, 2008
Age: 19
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 8:46 am Post subject: |
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| most people think i'm sad or depressed, although i'm just fine. |
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sinsboldly
Free Range Aspie
Joined: Nov 22, 2006
Age: 57
Posts: 7059
Location: The Emerald Forest
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:14 am Post subject: |
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| nannarob wrote: | | slowmutant wrote: | Do you think it's possible, Merle, for you not to have this tough front put up? If this pains you, then why not learn how to be friendlier and less off-putting?
If your facial mask misleads and frightens and you want that to change, I'm sure you could learn to emote normally. |
You are making strange comments for an aspie. |
ah, but he would be hard pressed to define 'normally,' though.
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YowlingCat
Lick a Cat - Get a Hairball
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Joined: Feb 12, 2007
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 4:23 pm Post subject: |
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I frequently am asked "Are you OK"? ???
People think I am angry when I'm not. This happens at work. When I told a higher-up that I had Asperger's, she replied, "Oh, you should tell "Zelda". She thinks you're angry with her". But she (the higher-up) was aware of Asperger's, and noted, "That explains a lot, since you can't read faces". That was some relief, but I also wondered who was misreading who.
People think I overreact.
I am repeatedly asked to smile. I had a local Irish pub owner tell me that a European woman would tell someone to go to hell it that were said to her, but that's American culture.
Many people, usually women, take an obvious, instant, strong dislike to me, and are hateful and sarcastic from their first interactions with me. I am at a loss as to what causes this. These same people tend to bully me.
I can't tell when people are telling the truth.
I freeze when confronted with anger and am not able to fight back. This got me raped. |
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hartzofspace
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Joined: Apr 15, 2005
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Location: On a retrograde asteroid
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 5:18 pm Post subject: |
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| YowlingCat wrote: | | I frequently am asked "Are you OK"? ??? |
I hear this, a lot.
| YowlingCat wrote: | | Many people, usually women, take an obvious, instant, strong dislike to me, and are hateful and sarcastic from their first interactions with me. I am at a loss as to what causes this. These same people tend to bully me. |
Same here!
[quote="YowlingCat"I can't tell when people are telling the truth.[/quote]
I freeze when confronted with anger and am not able to fight back. This got me raped.[/quote]
Unfortunately, same here!
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sinsboldly
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Location: The Emerald Forest
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| hartzofspace wrote: | | YowlingCat wrote: | | I frequently am asked "Are you OK"? ??? |
I hear this, a lot.
| YowlingCat wrote: | | Many people, usually women, take an obvious, instant, strong dislike to me, and are hateful and sarcastic from their first interactions with me. I am at a loss as to what causes this. These same people tend to bully me. |
Same here!
| YowlingCat wrote: | | I can't tell when people are telling the truth. |
I freeze when confronted with anger and am not able to fight back. This got me raped. |
| hartzofspace wrote: | | Unfortunately, same here! |
ooh! ok. so that is what happens? I thought I must be wanting the sex because I didn't fight back, I never considered I couldn'tmove, I just know that I didn't move. WTF??? oh my goodness. . .I didn't even figure that out! wow. thanks, girls. now I know.
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NoriMori
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: May 19, 2008
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| Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 1:18 am Post subject: |
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What has often happened to me is:
thoughtful, mislabelled as either angry, sad, or generally in a bad mood
This happens ALL THE TIME. Because when I'm thinking hard, my brow furrows and my eyes glaze over, making me either look irritated or depressed. Often I'm thinking so hard that I don't even realize it -- I have no time to think about how my face looks!
In fact, in elementary school a lot of the teachers couldn't help but notice that I had problems with social skills. So one day, in grade eight, when I couldn't find any of my friends, I just sat in the corner of a wall outside during recess, and I started daydreaming. But then my math teacher saw me, registered my face as sad, and came up to me and said, "You know, in high school, students are a lot more mature. And it'll be a lot easier to meet people you can relate to," or something like that. And then she walked away. She didn't even ask what was on my mind! So of course that made my previously neutral mood drop like a rock, as I realized that I was so much of an outcast that even my teachers were sympathetic...
-.-" Damn teachers... |
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NoriMori
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: May 19, 2008
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| YowlingCat wrote: | I frequently am asked "Are you OK"? ???
People think I am angry when I'm not. This happens at work. When I told a higher-up that I had Asperger's, she replied, "Oh, you should tell "Zelda". She thinks you're angry with her". But she (the higher-up) was aware of Asperger's, and noted, "That explains a lot, since you can't read faces". That was some relief, but I also wondered who was misreading who.
People think I overreact.
I am repeatedly asked to smile. I had a local Irish pub owner tell me that a European woman would tell someone to go to hell it that were said to her, but that's American culture.
Many people, usually women, take an obvious, instant, strong dislike to me, and are hateful and sarcastic from their first interactions with me. I am at a loss as to what causes this. These same people tend to bully me.
I can't tell when people are telling the truth.
I freeze when confronted with anger and am not able to fight back. This got me raped. |
I am also asked "Are you OK?" This is the typical question in the aforementioned case stated above. I also have been taking Karate for about a year and a half. For the first few months I avoided being too "happy," as I thought this would seem disrespectful, but after a while Sensei said to me, "You should smile more often!" That caught me off guard, because I thought being serious was a good thing. |
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