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rpm2004
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:04 am    Post subject: I met a girl... Reply with quote

On myspace.com,then I found out she lived near me...we chated online for hours.I eventually called her and we talked and laughed for 3 more hours.A week later she invited me over,I spent the night (not like that) and we watched movies and got a little drunk.She told me she had a "thing" for me (as in she liked me) all of this seems like good news,RIGHT?.But the further it goes the more scared I am that I'm gonna screw things up...I just keep getting more and more nervous.When it was harmless fun I was relaxed and funny but now I know this might go somwhere I shake like a leaf everytime I am around her

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berta
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

thats great Smile
i dunno if i have any help available. just be urself, be honest and dont try and act NT. is she AS?
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rpm2004
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

berta wrote:
thats great Smile
i dunno if i have any help available. just be urself, be honest and dont try and act NT. is she AS?
no,but she knows I am and is ok with it
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midge
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Something just like that happened to me once, where I met someone (it was here on WP actually) and was having a great time talking to him, and we both discovered we liked each other after which point I became very nervous and scared that I would screw something up (I could barely eat for about a week after finding out). I decided to come right out and tell him about how nervous I was, and it turns out he felt the same way. Maybe if you were up front with her about your feelings? Another thing that I found has worked extremely well for us is that we decided to be as open and honest with each other about things as we could, right from the start-one way this has helped us in that we have always been clear in terms of where the relationship is going, so we didn't worry as much about moving too fast, or too slow, or anything like that. Also, remember that you've been yourself with her so far and that she likes you for that, so there's no pressure on you to be any different Smile If you are anything like me there will continue to be times that you feel nervous and afraid of screwing things up-I still get that way even though he and I are now engaged-but sometimes you just have to go with it, as scary as that can be, and be honest and be yourself and trust that everything's gonna work out. Also, I know a mistake I've made when I got scared was trying to push him away from me, but luckily he was very understanding about it. This has the potential to really hurt someone though, so if you find yourself on the verge of doing this, be open with the person about your fears instead. Sorry if I used too many cliches there Wink Good luck with everything, I really hope it works out for you.
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rpm2004
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2005 2:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

ok,I'll try that.Thank you
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