Hi guys,
Rocker_C here. I have had a few emails from her in the past few days, I just couldnt kep myself from writing one back. I called her a liar, and she went ape s**t at me. I spoke to her ex gf(yes she also told me a short while after we broke up she was a lesbian), which hurt even more, anyways her ex is one of my friends and she told me some things that my ex had told her about me. Like the reason apparently she left me was because her parents hated me and she went along with it and dumped me, but the thing is I actually believe this. Her parents are the sort that are snobs if you get me. They see me as if im a poor guy, when im not. Anyway.. Ye just to tell you guys she never actually did cheat on me.. she was lying about that too. She was playing huge mind games with me, and it worked because shortly after me and her broke up I had a nervous breakdown. Not nice at all.
She also made me lie to her parents and I then had to convince her sister who is one year older than me (who i'd never met before in my life) to believe that I was in the same school as her and in the same high school year. But then even her sister started treating me like crap too.
It's really getting to me because she also was saying to her best friend that I was gay. I'm not of course or I wouldnt have loved her in the first place....
Ye shes done quite a lot of bad to me, but it's just a mear fraction of what Ive been through in my life. Bullied, beaten up, taken racist comments because I was english in Wales etc. not a good time so far.. I only hope that the future is a lot brighter than that of the past.
Run away from this one! She has major character issues, and probably severe emotional problems, too. Even if she wasn't really cheating on you, at best she's an abusive liar. Physical and emotional abuse is an absolute deal breaker and is just as unacceptable whether the culprit is a woman or a man. This woman has no business being anywhere near your sensitive areas, or anyone else's. You can do better. You must, even if it means that you will be alone. But you've had other girlfriends, so you have established some base for meeting them. Find another, but use a different matchmaker. Try the local jail? (just kidding) _________________ You should get to know me better. No one's ever what they seem.-- Shirley Manson
I had to change my phone number two times to get rid of my ex. I also had to delete her phone number. I had no power once we started talking, so I needed to cut all lines of communication. It hurt really bad. She was my ex-fiance, but after about a year, I got over it. My romantic feelings for her died. Now I am free.
I was doing a bit of research last night and came across a link that helped me realise something about my ex. This may sound extreme but it is really true. I found out shes a sociopath or a pyscopath. Heres the personality traits of a pyscopath/sociopath. She fits this almost perfectly..
Profile of the Sociopath
Glibness and Superficial Charm
Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims.
Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right."
Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests.
Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
Incapacity for Love
Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common.
Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them.
Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others.
Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.
Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts.
Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively.
Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily
This was really shocking to discover about her but it all makes sense now. I also discovered that some people with this condition can be dangerous and even murderers.. very scary thought. I think I got away just in time to escape with the rest of my confidence..
I still find it real hard to not talk to her even though she never talks to me still but I can see now a really good reason to run as fast as I can away from her.
Joined: May 13, 2008 Posts: 2261 Location: Arizona
Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 10:59 pm Post subject:
She certainly exhibits some sociopathic behaviors; I'm glad you now moving in your own direction and comfortable with the progress. It is hard, but you are taking care of the most important person in your life right now - you.
M. _________________ He thrusts his fists against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts.
From my heart and from my hand, why don't people understand my intentions...?
Well I'm sure you already know my views on the matter - you can do an awful lot better than this... I know that a sorta dark shroud somewhat smothers people when their confidence hits the ground, but you are a very strong person man. I know this to be true.
Good luck dude. You really need to keep as far away from her as possible.
Talk to me on msn or send me a pm if you have any difficulties or concerns dude. _________________ I am paradox...
hey there guys. Im really finding it difficult to get her out of my head. It's really bothering me. I just want to find a way inside me that says that I am free from her and that she doesn't matter anymore but im totally fixated on her. I keep looking at pictures of her and nearly just before typed a message to her on facebook. But luckily I thought twice about it and deleted what I was goin to type.
It's getting to me a lot. It's almost like she's part of me still and that even though I want to move forwards I can't because I still love her.
its effecting my sleep too. I don't get to sleep until like 7am now. I stay awake looking at pictures of her and listening to music that reminds me of her.
Please help someone. You guys inspire me a lot and I can trust every single one of you on here to give me good advice.
Joined: May 13, 2008 Posts: 2261 Location: Arizona
Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 12:41 am Post subject:
Rocker_C wrote:
hey there guys. Im really finding it difficult to get her out of my head. It's really bothering me. I just want to find a way inside me that says that I am free from her and that she doesn't matter anymore but im totally fixated on her. I keep looking at pictures of her and nearly just before typed a message to her on facebook. But luckily I thought twice about it and deleted what I was goin to type.
It's getting to me a lot. It's almost like she's part of me still and that even though I want to move forwards I can't because I still love her.
its effecting my sleep too. I don't get to sleep until like 7am now. I stay awake looking at pictures of her and listening to music that reminds me of her.
Please help someone. You guys inspire me a lot and I can trust every single one of you on here to give me good advice.
You're in a tough place... in my mind, the next step requires a tough decision. Find new patterns and routines. Put the pictures away and leave them there; explore some new music, or rediscover your old tastes. Break away from that which continues to impress her absence upon your life. You are already aware that you are better for your decision; the next step will be to gain comfort and acceptance of that decision.
M. _________________ He thrusts his fists against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts.
From my heart and from my hand, why don't people understand my intentions...?
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