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BazzaMcKenzie
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 Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 2:25 am Post subject: |
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^^ How old are you?
I have a theory that posters impression of you is in part derived from the avatar you pick. My avatar is Barry McKenzie (cartoon and then film character). Previously I used a pic from the movie "Cool Hand Luke"
"the man with no eyes" - I liked the reflected horizon. Anyway, a girl said it made me seem evil so I stopped using it. I mention this as I wonder whether your avatar may not help people "connect" to you. IMHO a picture of a person is best for an avatar, but that's just my opnion. Anyway, I would also suggest you don't change avatars very often. I quickly scroll through posters, skipping by ones I don't know or don't like. If you change the avatar too often, it makes it harder to recognise you.
Just a thought, for what its worth.
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velodog
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| Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 2:35 am Post subject: |
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| spudnik wrote: | | I do like this forum alot, but sometimes its kind of hard with the negative stuff, I try to talk with people but I never really know what to say. or if I offended them, I sort of feel like retreating into my shell again, whenever I have to deal with confrontational people, especially if I have to be also, its like a shock to my system, since its not part of my nature to get into peoples face. I am thinking of taking a break for a while but the problem is I don't really have a life outside of my home, and no friends or family here where I live |
I'm probably not the best person to discuss this since I have engaged in a few pissing contests on this Forum, but Spudnik I think you are a good influence here since you come across as a very nice guy. I have only seen you get noticeably pissed once, when someone made a joke in poor taste that you didn't like and you came back swinging. I laughed at that joke but felt bad for doing so when it became apparent that it did piss you off. So I apologize for my part in that situation. Not everyone notices everyone else since there are so many people on this Forum but of the people who do respond to your posts, I believe that it's much more positive to you than negative. I have been posting a lot less lately, partly to get out more and because I have picked up another job, but also because I have a bad habit of not ignoring contentius posts. I also came here, in good part, to make friends and overall I am not doing it very well. |
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KateShroud
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Age: 22
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Location: Austin, Texas, United States, north America, Earth, Milky Way Galaxy
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| Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:12 pm Post subject: |
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| BazzaMcKenzie wrote: | ^^ How old are you?
I have a theory that posters impression of you is in part derived from the avatar you pick. My avatar is Barry McKenzie (cartoon and then film character). Previously I used a pic from the movie "Cool Hand Luke"
"the man with no eyes" - I liked the reflected horizon. Anyway, a girl said it made me seem evil so I stopped using it. I mention this as I wonder whether your avatar may not help people "connect" to you. IMHO a picture of a person is best for an avatar, but that's just my opnion. Anyway, I would also suggest you don't change avatars very often. I quickly scroll through posters, skipping by ones I don't know or don't like. If you change the avatar too often, it makes it harder to recognise you.
Just a thought, for what its worth. |
So am I rarely noticed due to lack of an avatar according to this theory?
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BazzaMcKenzie
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| Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:18 pm Post subject: |
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^^ sorry, who are you - lol
No, but when I scroll though a topic with a lot of posts, I could easily pass you by without noticing you.
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KateShroud
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Age: 22
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| Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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| spudnik wrote: | | Sometimes I don't think this place does any good for me in regards to healing, sometimes it feels better just not trying to reach out and talk without all this confrontational behavior on WP, I am not equipped to deal with rude people who seem to thrive on conflict, I have so many things happen to me this past year, losing my dad and most of my family, all I ever wanted was to make some friends who may have something in common with me. I just don't know what to think or do, I feel like I am fooling myself, I actually feel worse about myself. |
Spudnik, it really saddens me to hear that, but unfortunately you're describing most of the human race. I really can't understand why either. No one who loses someone close needs some bully to post something that makes them feel even worse. I'm afraid of losing my dad, and that stuff should be taken very seriously. Humans aren't all evil though, so just try to be selective when chatting with the people on here.
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MsTriste
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| Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:25 pm Post subject: |
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| KateShroud wrote: | | So am I rarely noticed due to lack of an avatar according to this theory? |
Possibly. Some of us are very sensitive visually and not so good socially, so the presence of an avatar can help you remember who's who, and be remembered more easily. Plus with 19 trillion members now (just THINK of the advertising revenue) member names aren't always that easy to recognize. |
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KateShroud
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| Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:28 pm Post subject: |
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| BazzaMcKenzie wrote: | ^^ sorry, who are you - lol
No, but when I scroll though a topic with a lot of posts, I could easily pass you by without noticing you. |
Oh then maybe I'd like an interesting one that describes myself. Hmm lets see. I like Star Trek Voyager and things that spin in circles. I'm not sure how I'd pick one out without eyesight. Guess I'll have to enlist my husband.
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BazzaMcKenzie
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| Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 1:08 am Post subject: |
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Why Kate, do you get the feeling you are rarely noticed?
A lot of WP members feel that. There are topics about it
btw - when I said (above) "who are you" - it was meant as a joke.
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KateShroud
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| Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 3:36 am Post subject: |
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| I know. No offense taken. I just wasn't sure what the exact purpose of an avatar was. Now I know. |
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WeirdLou
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| I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but I'm looking for some kind of positive encouragement. I never understood negative people and how some people can be so down when they've got so much going for them. It irritated me. But now, I feel like I'm at the bottom of the barrel. I'm on the verge of getting fired from my first professional job. Unfortunately to get another job in my profession, I'd have to move to another state again. Pretty much whenever I change jobs I'll have to move to another state. This makes it hard to make friends and create a social life. I'm just getting to the point where I'm happy with my personal life and now I'm afraid I'm going to have to start over again. I just bought my first house and now I have to try to sell it. And I really don't want to go. I love my job and I've got some great coworkers and a couple of amazing supervisors. I want to have a home and family but thats hard to accomplish if you're moving all the time. I see this as my future. I'm working so hard and have made so much progress but its not enough and I'm still so far behind I don't see myself every being able to appear NT at work. I don't know how many times I can handle this. Even if I can I don't know if I want to. This isn't the life I want. I don't see it as being negative and depressive. Its just the facts and I'm being logical. I tried talking to friends but try as they might they just don't understand how I can be about to get fired and how I see it happening again. Someone please see a flaw in my logic. Tell me you've been here before and you've figured it out. Knowing there are other people feeling the same as me doesn't help. I want to hear something positive. I want to know someone has been here before and made it. |
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BazzaMcKenzie
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 1:59 am Post subject: |
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| WeirdLou wrote: | | ... But now, I feel like I'm at the bottom of the barrel. I'm on the verge of getting fired ... |
are you sure?
I had a job and my annual review was overlooked. I got it into my head that they thought I was too expensive and didn't really want me, so I took another job. When I gave notice they begged me to stay. Overlooking the annual review was just an oversight. I now wish I had stayed there.
Are you sure you are on the verge of getting fired? How? Why?
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WeirdLou
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| They told me I was. Three of my supervisors have been working with me to get me to "be more cordial with coworkers" and "market myself" to our top two supervisors. This started about 3 months ago. One of the three told me that one of the top two has decided I've become a waste of time and she is fed up with it. He said she wants me gone but has to find a reason to put on the forms so from now on I should do everything as if my job depends on it. In other words the first time I screw up I'm gone. One of the others told me if it was him, he would start putting out resumes now. They've been known to fire people previously because they didn't like them. They figure they can teach you what you need to know but if they don't get along with you there is no hope of fixing that. It is the way they hire also. There are no technical questions, just personality. |
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BazzaMcKenzie
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| Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 7:25 pm Post subject: |
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maybe its time to start reading the sports pages of the newspapers so you can talk about football/baseball or whatever at the water cooler.
Taking an interest in football was one of my best career moves.
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LTP
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I've been feeling depressed . Been contemplating suicide to be honest; I have picked out a date and method and a criteria for what will be the last straw. Oddly enough my atheism has been the only thing that has kept me alive so far. I find the fear of nothingness stronger then my depression but who knows how long that will last. I have been medicated and taken counseling before but it doesn't seem to do much for me. I'm hesitant to take more psychiatric medication after a scary experience with topomax. It made my memory hazy and lowered my verbal skills for a few months after taking it. I could not read at the same rate and my comprehension went down the drain. Books I had no trouble speeding through beforehand were a real struggle to get through. I would be talking to someone and then would have the words in my mind get"lost". This side effect of the medication is only now being inspected and my doctors had no idea at the time when or if they would fade. I thought I would be dumb forever. My intellect and creativity are the only parts of me that I value and I would quite literally rather be dead then lose them.
I just feel so lonely and worthless sometimes. I've always been able to lock my emotions away with logic but they keep bubbling up now and I just don't have any experience dealing with them. I can't even pin down what I'm feeling or why just this vague sense of hopelessness. I would like to talk to the people I'm close to but the thought of opening up to them and having my feelings squashed prevents me from doing so. My shrink told me depression always goes into remission but I have felt this way since second grade and I'm tired of waiting.
I'm not sure what I expect to accomplish by posting this. I'm not sure anyone can really help me. I'm already starting to regret making this post but I needed to vent somewhere. I apologize for the length and dreary nature of my reply. |
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5thelement
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:36 am Post subject: |
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LTP -
you said 'I'm not sure what I expect to accomplish by posting this' - you have already accomplished something, I too feeling depressed and was lurking with - 'should I post my woes or not?' - your post has helped me - just by the fact that you kind of said what I couldn't actually say myself - the bit at the end of the post - that's what I would probably have put - the way I'm feeling right now anyhow
| Quote: | | 'I'm not sure what I expect to accomplish by posting this. I'm not sure anyone can really help me. I'm already starting to regret making this post but I needed to vent somewhere. I apologize for the length and dreary nature of my reply.' |
- but hearing it from someone else I do not feel the same - we tend to forget that other people feel exactly the same and that we are not alone.
I hope this makes sense? - mainly I just feel that there has to be a place like this where people can vent / talk / discuss - when the chips are really down - but without too much 'dire sorrow' and negativity . Professor P's initial post that started this thread is / was most needed.
LTP - I hope you are feeling better - please don't forget how important your creativity is! |
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