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patrick6
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 Posted: Mon Jun 16, 2008 7:40 pm Post subject: Do you get jealous when.... |
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A person who you never expected to find a girlfriend starts dating a girl?
It makes me jealous like you wouldn't believe.... I have a couple friends who I never expected to find girlfriends, who are dating or engaged to someone.
Doesn't this make you really jealous and angry inside? |
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jawbrodt
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No, because I know it's my fault for not having a girlfriend. 
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t0
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| I don't experience jealousy. My emotions are limited to happiness, sadness, and anger. |
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Aalto
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| Hahah, I do really. I don't but merely envy them being in a relationship, but also the intimate company of either two, in a way. |
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Aspie1
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Not at all. Sure, all my friends found girlfriend before me. I've always been ugly, so it's not like I can find one easily. Also, a lot of my friends are better-looking than me, so it's only natural for a good-looking guy to have a girlfriend. The few relationships I had were with a girl I didn't even find attractive, but dated anyway because she showed interest in me. So I've experienced a relationship, and the only benefits I see are strictly practical: security and convenience (i.e. always having someone to do things with). Now, don't get me wrong; I treated her very well, took her to great places, and genuinely cared about her.
So back to the original topic. I'm more jealous of the security and the convenience than anything else. Whenever my friends told me about the "romantic feelings" they had, it was no different than trying to explain the inner workings of TCP/IP to a high school cheerleader.
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Fuzzy
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I dont quite feel jealousy.
And what you are feeling would be envy, wouldnt it be? Jealousy would be specific to a person, such as if they were dating someone you liked.
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Rynok
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I get jealous when they find a boyfriend and then decide they no longer need to hangout with me, because "they have each other and that's all they need".
I'm glad they found someone and wish I was as lucky, but seriously...you don't need to ditch the friendship on top of that.
Edit- Good point, jealous is probably not the right word. "Envious" that they have a relationship and "saddened" that the friendship is so fickle. |
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ToadOfSteel
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I don't feel jealous if a woman I had any interest in goes out with another guy... I just kill any interest I have...
As for a friend I never expected to get a girlfriend getting one, that just means there's more hope for me... |
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veruniel
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| Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 5:57 am Post subject: |
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| Not really. Usually those people take up with girlfriends I would never, ever want. |
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Pandora
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I used to get jealous when other girls found boyfriends and I couldn't but now I realise everybody else doesn't lead a charmed life and just because a guy is good looking and seems nice doesn't mean he is like that in private.
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sunshower
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I guess (aspie girls perspective) they just seemed to be in a world I couldn't understand or enter, no matter how hard I tried. But I'm so glad I kept trying, because finally I got my first boyfriend (and only so far) last year when I was 19.  Then again, I'm lucky because I know I am attractive, which can sometimes counterbalance my "weirdness" if the guy is daring enough.
Also, now I am single again I appreciate it so much more than I ever did before, because I realized that being single is a really liberating experience, especially for an aspie. This is because when I was with my boyfriend, I loved him very much, but I had to constantly watch myself to make sure I didn't cross any invisible lines, or embarrass him in any way. When you're with someone there's so much more at stake than when you're single if you do something wrong because you're not only hurting yourself, you're also hurting somebody else.
So yes, I do sometimes get jealous, not of their boyfriends or their being in a relationship, but of them being able to be in a carefree relationship where they somehow magically know what their boyfriend wants from them just by looking at him.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 17, 2008 8:06 am Post subject: Re: Do you get jealous when.... |
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| pat666rick wrote: | A person who you never expected to find a girlfriend starts dating a girl?
It makes me jealous like you wouldn't believe.... I have a couple friends who I never expected to find girlfriends, who are dating or engaged to someone.
Doesn't this make you really jealous and angry inside? |
how the hell can that make you jealous? If they have a girlfriend then good for them
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Zane
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Yes. But it bugs me less and less. Why? Because I see them fall apart just as easily as they got started. I however am choosy and pick girls who will last....
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pbcoll
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It's been a very long time since I met anyone that I didn't expect to get a girlfriend. If anything it's the opposite, for example I was surprised to recently hear of a certain guy that he's never had a girlfriend (you guessed it.... he's too nice). I used to get very angry at myself and very envious, now I still get somewhat envious but mainly just sad.
A girl that her bf left her, it made me extremely angry at myself because I knew that I couldn't get her even if I tried, and I in fact avoided her. But I think now it would sadden me only.
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kitsunetsuki
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| I think it would be envy more accurately. |
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