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velodog
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 Posted: Sun Jun 22, 2008 8:34 pm Post subject: My Grandmother Died This Morning. |
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| I went to Nevada on Friday to visit my Grandmother at my Parents house. She had been in bad shape before taking a trip to New Mexico with my Uncle two weeks ago and come back in very bad shape. Last week she spent some time in the Hospital and was released to resume living at my Parents house. Friday night we took her back to the Hospital and checked her in at 9:41 pm, tests were run and it was determined that she had a blood clot around an Aortic Aneurysm. This caused her considerable pain and she was not very lucid or able to define where the pain was. She was given 3 milligram doses of Morphine every two hours which did not help a whole lot but was better than nothing. My Brother and Sister came in from N. and S. Calif respectively on Saturday Night to visit her on Sunday, but they were not able to because the Hospital Staff called at approx. 4:21 am to let us know that she died. I have lost two other Grandmothers, and while those losses were bad this one is who I was closest to. She is 96 years old and I would not have been happy to lose her otherwise, but seeing her hurt so bad for her last weeks of life really SUCKED. She was a school Teacher who made sure that I could read well at an early age and she inspired my oldest Aunt to go into Teaching as well. That Aunt was a Biology Professor at DVC and taught my generation about Evolution and appreciation for California Marine wildlife, including Seals/Sea Lions, so my Grandmothers influence was very noticeable on the whole family. She will be missed, I am pleased that my Mother and Aunt made the decision for a DNR order since the Medical people could not have done anything but prolong her suffering. I love her and I am starting to miss her now. |
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Wow I'm going through the same thing right. My grandma is getting worse as time progresses. I was very close to her and can't stand the thought of her going.
I hate the thought of pain one can be in before the inevitable. In a way at least she's free from that pain. I don't have words that can describe or put to what you're going through. I lost my other one not too long ago and couldn't even cry. Just cherish the memories you had with her. I find it comforts me instead of just thinking about their death.
This must be hard for you right now. For me, it's strange to be losing any family members. The closest was my great grandmother so it's shocking when it happens. Just remember too that anything can happen to anyone and it sounds like you all did what you could do.
Another thing you could do is make a memorial service to her. I have in my own ways to mine just so I don't feel like their forgotten. Sorry for your loss, I guess it's so different when it actually happens to someone close.
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velodog
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| Thanks MissConstrue, I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with the same issue. We are having a Memorial probably next Saturday. I know from experience that I haven't hit the bottom of the sh** barrel yet, but one good thing about being my age is that I have dealt with loss before. Don't let this upcoming loss mess with your serenity. |
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Thankyou velodog I won't let it.
Goodluck.
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My condolences, Velodog.
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My thoughts are with you.
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My sympathies, velodog and MissConstrue - give yourselves time to feel and to take care of your needs. I never knew my grandparents, and you are fortunate to have had them in your lives.
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| Thanks for the kind thoughts everyone. Zonder you made a good point, my family was fortunate to have her with us for this long. |
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You have my sympathy.
Your story is similar to my grandma's when she died. In an odd way I was relieved for her when she died because she was suffering so much toward the end.
At least your grandma lived a long life, helped people, and is no longer suffering. take some comfort in that. |
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I am so sorry, both of you.....your grandmother's seem very special.
I never really knew my grandparents and I have no parents. For some, a grandparent can be more influential - a link to your ancestry. You'll always remember her (both of you).
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So sorry, Velodog.
My grandmother died ten years ago last month and I still miss her and think about her. In a way it is like she is still here.
Hang in there. |
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My best wishes to you both.
One of my daughters wears my dad's army dog tags from World War Two. She was around him some when she was a baby and he was very old. In spite of all that's lost, something remains and continues.
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| my sincere condolences to you. |
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velodog,
I'm so sorry to hear about this, and so soon after your post about losing your friend. I can't imagine how hard it must be . . . I wish you strength, optimism, and a persistent sense of humor (helps me get through anything!).
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| Spacedoubt wrote: | You have my sympathy.
Your story is similar to my grandma's when she died. In an odd way I was relieved for her when she died because she was suffering so much toward the end.
At least your grandma lived a long life, helped people, and is no longer suffering. take some comfort in that. |
It is a relief that she is no longer suffering. Your second point is correct as well. I appreciate the support here, and I'm now gearing up for the endless hugs that will have to be endured at the Memorial Servicve. I actually like hugs from those I am close to, but for some reason many people feel that before, during and after Funerals requires a hug everytime you see a person - even if it is only five minutes later. |
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