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Phoenix
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Location: new england
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if he can't read yet, do a picture schedule- have him help make it....you can find pictures out of magazines, or online.
for example, find a picture of your vcr ( or take a photo of it) to use on his schedule for movie time..
i reccomend you make his schedule using items that can be velcroed to a board vs. glued.....this way, if your schedule changes ( and i'm sure it will ), you can schedule things in such as: errands, the doctors, a special trip etc.... |
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Tortuga
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| This is interesting to me as my son has never gotten into anything in a major way. I guess, it's partially a personality difference and might not be ASD-related. My son is almost 10, but he never made messes. |
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mariposa
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Joined: Apr 30, 2008
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| Posted: Wed Jun 25, 2008 8:00 am Post subject: What has worked for us |
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We struggled with this for YEARS despite working on putting things away/ asking for permission since toddlerhood.
This year, at age ten, my very high IQ HFA daughter is just now starting to not tear up the house. We have posted rules, and she is on a point system. She has to have a balance of 50 points to be allowed to access Club Penguin or use video games. This has helped us a lot. One of the rules is that she may NOT touch, without permission anything that does not belong directly to her. She is finally learning this.
The other thing is that I decluttered the house. There is very little left to get out and get into. I have gotten rid of most anything that is not used on a weekly basis. Seasonal items, such as holiday decorations, are in the attic. There is a stiff penalty for going in the attic (she used to get into things there and make huge messes)-- she loses all of her points and has to start back at square one.
Since instituting this system, her self- esteem has SOARED. She feels great about earning points. She LOVES having her accomplishments recorded in her little point book, and when she breaks a rule, she feels good that she can restore herself quickly be earning the points back (we have a list of tasks she can choose from to earn her points back).
She no longer wrestles with huge guilt about things ("I broke the storm windows when I was using them to build a giant glass bridge in my room," or "I feel terrible that I took apart my brother's robot and now it doesn't work anymore."
She can release that guilt by doing the tasks and feels fully restored and reconciled back to the family-- not that she wasn't before-- BUT she didn't BELIEVE us that she was forgiven.
These things have allowed us, for the first time in 9 years, to have order in our home. YEA! BTW: I don't think this system would have worked before this year. She had to be ready to be able to generalize the rules, which she was not able to do before this year--- she was just not developmentally ready before this year to make progress in this area. |
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