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Mikomi
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 Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 2:43 pm Post subject: AS Adults: Verbalizations When Stressed? |
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I notice when I replay a stressful phone conversation or social interaction in my head, I vocalize as if to dissipate the stress it makes me feel. It's usually just nonsense stuff or a song I have in my head. Sometimes I get in my car and sing really loud to my music.
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Sora
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I do something like that, but when I am angry+stressed directly by a social interaction or a change in routine or something else. I just make noise as in humming a horrid loud sort of melody, but that's me totally when stressed. I also have to try to restrain myself from saying something nonsensical but rhythmical. It's hard to notice whether it's only in my head or if I said it out loud when I'm stressed like that.
I was just wondering about this exactly yesterday at work, so it's awesome to see a topic about stress and verbalisation on WP today!
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I go around saying stuff like stupid stupid stupid..bad bad bad....ooh.....ohhh....the horror.......Rawwwwwrrrr........stuff like that over and over
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| Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 3:32 pm Post subject: Re: AS Adults: Verbalizations When Stressed? |
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| Mikomi wrote: | | I notice when I replay a stressful phone conversation or social interaction in my head, I vocalize as if to dissipate the stress it makes me feel. It's usually just nonsense stuff or a song I have in my head. Sometimes I get in my car and sing really loud to my music. |
uh, uh, uh. .. my supervisor comes over when she hears me uh, uh, uh, she asks me if I need a minute or want to go home. uh, uh, uh. . . .
boy do I ever want to go home, but only if I could instantly be on my exercise ball giving little bounces as I uh, uh, uh, . . but since 'going home' would involve getting there, with all that is involved, I usually just shake my head and take a minute or two in the restroom and have a glass of water and an asprin and go back to work. They used to let me use a darkened room, but they turned that into a 'mommy nursing room' and it's a State Law it has to be used with that. I don't mind, really, because I vividly remember one place I worked where the nursing mommy was hunched down on the floor (because that was the where the only electric plug was) using her electric breast pump and I thought it was HORRENDIOUS there were no facilities for that.
then I go back to work. But the uh, uh, uh, is wonderful for me, and I feel better after each 'uh'
Merle
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| Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 3:39 pm Post subject: |
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2 kinds- 1st kind is more anxious, fast constant talk, with pacing or rocking, words very fast and tripping slurry, no time to breathe, something like- stupid girl, bad girl, hate girl, abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz (x10)
2nd kind is more rage, vibrating with anger, fist and teeth clenched, too mad to speak properly, with occasional screamed staccato words-- KILL. HATE. PUNCH. KICK. KILL.
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When extremely stressed, I curse under my breath like a drunken trucker, and it gets louder and louder the more stressed I get. I have been known to go outside and scream at the top of my lungs in order to 'purge' the anxiety, too. Usually after that I will calm down.
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Right now the word is "b*tch," and sometimes "f*ck." I'm a little stressed about a situation involving a woman, and notice that I do it out of the blue. I have a feeling I do it without realizing it, and people might have seen/heard me... 
The words have nothing to do with the situation, they are just what happens to be said...
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I hum sometimes, on the same tone, when I'm stressed. But I'm much more likely to attempt to curl into a ball than do anything else.
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I think I must hum when I'm anxious whether in a store shopping or different social settings. For me when I feel the anxiety it seems my brain is forming the words and sentances, but my mouth is stumbling over the verbal exchange. I hate that as it makes me feel like I am less competant then I personally believe I am  |
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pakled
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mainly the things I'd like to say (if I didn't mind losing my mind or job)...just muttering in general... |
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thejackal221
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| I know it might sound Cliché but I take deep breaths over and over again until I de-stress. |
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sinsboldly
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| thejackal221 wrote: | | I know it might sound Cliché but I take deep breaths over and over again until I de-stress. |
Clinche (see when I write it it doesn't make the little accent ague!)
But you are right!
Getting my body oxygenated works pretty good when having an adrenaline cascade
Merle
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All the time, I swear and curse, I have mostly learned to keep it quiet but sometimes I can be sitting on the bus etc. thinking through something stressful and will come out with some word louder than intended. I guess that is what one would call coprolalia, it's sort of involuntary but also in a way I swear at myself to block out thoughts. It's very much an involuntary thing, but I know I'm doing it when I do it.
Edit to add: once in school I was put in detention for humming in a maths class, apparently it was distracting other pupils. I hum a lot. My mum tried to explain to the school that if I were humming it meant I was concentrating, but this was back in the '70s and there was no tolerance, I was just seen as disruptive |
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I do this, sometimes without even noticing I do it.
Sometimes it can be really strange... like the first half is some words I heard in the interaction, and then the second half is a swear word, or a phrase totally unrelated to the interaction but that comes from a common list of phrases or sounds that seem to be used that way (for some reason "not another one" is a common one for me, for instance). Often each is repeated over and over and/or then mixed into each other.
So it can end up with something like "was standing here standing here standing here not another one not another one A$*HOLE was standing standing A$*HOLE not another one standing another standing another standing another A$*HOLE STANDING A$*HOLE another one another one another one STOP STOP STOP another one stop it right now eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee".
Oddly it seems to occur mostly in private, it's (must be unconsciously) suppressed in public.
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When I am remembering embarrassing memories I'll find myself saying something random and nonsensical to try to divert my attention elsewhere.
In RL, when I am in a conversation and I'm nervous it's painfully awkward. I use "um" a lot, and I look at something and start fiddling with it. I feel like I have to "dig deeper" to find the wrods to use, because if I don't nothing really comes out other than random noise.
When I'm really annoyed and I'm with my parents or by myself, I just make noise. Angry noise, but it's nonverbal.
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