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^ I second Anemone. I realise this is a dormant thread and I'm a n00bie, but a guy just posted a really incensed reply to 'Where Men Stand' and it really ticked me off. I would like it if there was less of that sort of thing, and less sexual comments. Or even none. I don't think it's bigoted or sexist to want a safer zone.
I'm not saying 'ban' or 'men's opinions don't count' rah rah. I would like it if the men saw that it said 'Women's Discussion' and politely left us to it. Or at least tended to refrain from posting. I would be willing to respect theirs also, by the way. I agree this should be a safe zone where women can talk about sensitive stuff or things we have in common without having to worry about men insisting on getting in on it.

Ps. Talking to men can be great. I like to do that in 'General'

activebutodd - if you request that women reply to your thread only, in most cases the request will be respected. I receive little feedback regarding issues in this forum - if there is a problem, please contact me and/or another moderator and we will be glad to address the situation appropriately. There have been rather stellar contributions in this forum from men; there have also be equally abhorrent ones as well. To throw the baby out with the bathwater is an extreme stance, in my opinion.


M.

Sorry, I don't mean to sound extreme. It's just a of a sore spot for me sometimes and I was reacting a bit.
Oh, I thought that the 'can just women reply' was implied, but it's good to know that it will generally be respected if I ask for that specifically.
Thank you makuranososhi!

I think the rules should be the same. If a woman posts a topic that she does not specify "No male replies" then I think it is fair game. I think some topics go without saying that it should be women only. But there are many "women issues" that I think males can offer advice on. For instance "Do you think I'm overweight?" Well if you get a lot of pre-teen girls together talking about this, one is bound to die of anorexia nervosa before prom, whereas a male can offer good advice here and sometimes more applicable advice, because really what women are trying to look good in front of other women?

To not allow men in here is unconscionable and reprehensible.

As an Aspie I can say that I along with countless others like me have been discriminated throughout our lives. It is not fair to me or any other member here to once again be excluded in a forum that claims to be inclusive of all.

The issue here is are men willing to respect this one place so women can discuss issues relevant to women . No men cannot be banned and some men may have productive points and opinions however there is the ENTIRE DISCUSSION FORUMS for that. Men comprise the vast majority of diagnosed aspergers cases and therefore are fully represented in this site and others, I am a woman with moderate + asperger (ect)where can I go? I was so excited to see there was a womans discussion and a place to gauge whether my experiences are aspergers related , I do not feel this is a safe place to do that as long as men are so liberally posting here . So I propose that in the beginning men are asked to respect this space and refrain from posting unless they fully believe their replies will be helpful, constructive and relevant to the poster .

Those requests are posted atop the forum; if there are issues, one can always contact a moderator to deal with the issue. While problems do occur in the Women's forum, they also happen throughout any forum. If you are not comfortable, then the best suggestion I can provide is to look at other options for forums dealing specifically with ASDs in women; otherwise, please contact one of the moderators if you are concerned about any behavior in the Women's Discussion forum.


M.

I do have some things I would like to talk about, which I do not want to discuss with men - things men could know nothing about. I have tried this elsewhere, and go useless, irritating replies from men. I gave up in the end.

If it was a forum for black people only, I would not post. If it was a forum for gay men only, I would not post. I would assume that sometimes people need space to be themselves, without intrusion.

This is a post above here somewhere about anorexia nervosa which shows very plainly why people need to be allowed their own, closed groups to share experiences that others cannot understand (anorexia has NOTHING to do with "looking good", and as one who has at times suffered from it, I do not welcome this sort of statement).

There are forums elswhere on this site where men talk in the very vilest terms about women. I would not go near them. We need somewhere where no one is bleating on about fat ugly b*****s.

To all those men saying that "women only" is unfair - how would you feel about NT people barging in here and pontificating about Asperger's Syndrome? Isn't it "unfair" that we exclude people who are absolutely ignorant about it?

What does it matter to a man if women are talking about the menopause or the problems involved in putting in tampons in public toilets or how they fel about wearing bras and not asking for his opinion? Are we supposed to spend every second of our lives looking after men and soothing their feelings? We have worries of our own.