AS+AS Relationship? Will it work?

Sundy · Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 2:30 pm Post subject:

I’m in the early stages of beginning a relationship with a guy who is very likely an aspie. I ran through the diagnostic criteria and they seem like they were written for him (except I haven’t seen his stim yet). The things he does and says make it so obvious to me that he has AS. Perseverative thought, narrow interest speeches, lack of appropriate eye-to-eye gaze, etc. I haven’t told him this yet, because I think it’s too early in this relationship. I’m not sure if it’s something he wants to know about right now anyway. I haven’t even told him that I have it.

If I was an NT, I’d say I was crazy about him, but since I’m not, I have to say that I’ve developed a very unique fondness for him that is a little new to me.

The funny thing is with him is that I always knew he was attracted to me from the day we met. I recognized something in him that was in me. We’re the same kind of different.

He’s 23 and I’ll be 26 in two weeks. He’s at the age where his peers are engaging in all kinds of debauchery that will be unacceptable for them to maintain when they get to be my age. He wants to engage in these activities, but I think his AS prevents him from doing so. Which is fine with me. He also isn’t exactly sure what he wants, but he’s finding out that there is something interesting between the two of us. I make it very clear to him that I see him because I like him, not because I want him to spend money on me, give me rides, or buy me drinks. He keeps trying to see other girls that from what I understand, aren’t really interested in him. But I’m actually willing to wait until he comes to his senses. He seems very interested in having me around and I’m not pushing him into doing anything until he’s ready to. I’m very patient with this one.

Anyhow, I’m wondering how many of ya’ll have had an AS+AS relationship. If so, how did it go?