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ProfessorX
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1st to Raisedbyignoracne, I can fully understand how it feels when you have people pretend to act nice and all around you for, I've had that in my own life, even these days I'm somewhat unsure of various people's motives whether it's in terms of physical actions or verbal & non-verbal movements as well.. In many ways, you must suffer great from all the psychological tormentation you've had to endure all these past many years..No, I'm no therapist or the like, but sure as hell know what it is like to be treated as if your nothing more than a ragdoll to be thrown away be various people and all..
Pekkla, your quite right bullyism is not physical.In fact, I grew up around a father whom acted like Darth Vader from the sense he had mentally abused my mother,brother,sister, and myself therein; there are days when I sometimes feel not very pleasant overall still, I try to not become so eternally unpleasant wherein; I'd upset someone.Anyways, I do sincerely hope that your son does not have to endure the treatment and pain that many people in the autistic spectrum have to endure as it relates to bullyism... |
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LolaGranola
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Surely. It got so bad that I flunked the eight grade. I would have stayed back the second time if I wasn't sent to an alternative school. I just couldn't take it anymore.
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Tory_canuck
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Age: 24
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Location: Red Deer, Alberta, Canada
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| pekkla wrote: | My 13 year old aspie son has been bullied since first grade, and its gotten worse in middle school, which I know happens even to NT kids. Everyone seems concerned about the physical bullying but not so much about eh psycholgical bullying, which is much worse. Even his dad seems to suggest to me that maybe our son is "whining" when he talks about it. This is crap. I am an aspie too and have lived with emotional abuse and the mind games by many people most of my life. The net result for me is rock-bottom self esteem, because even though I intellectually know the teasing has no basis in fact, I feel there is something "bad", "inferior" or "wrong" about me. I'm afraid that's what me son has to look forward to.
He has another tendency that I have--which is to seek out the wrong people, try to be friends with people who don't like him. He gets used and manipulated. He is very naive. How can I teach him to not be so naive when I can barely avoid falling into the trap myself? |
I was like that too when I was younger.I basically tried to hang out with anyone and anything that I could just so I wouldnt have to be alone for a period of time.I was eventually backstabbed and mistreated by that same group.There was also those who pretended to be nice, then turned around and backstabbed me.
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EL60
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Age: 22
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Location: Geelong,Victoria (Australia)
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at High school i got picked on consistaly was like a prison there the bullies were like oh hes our target lets get him, which i got bullied non stop for 6 years i called very nasty words from Spastic, Reatard and a very nasty word it hurt me to the point i feel ashamed of stepping out of my own home now  thanks to bullies i hope they get bad karma and get whats coming to them. see me going around saying bad stuff about people NO i dont |
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Alraune144
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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Age: 25
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Yep, I became violent over the years until I stabbed someone almost killing him.
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Tory_canuck
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Location: Red Deer, Alberta, Canada
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http://redensignforever.blogspot.com/2009/07/reliving-past.html
An excerpt from my blog
| Quote: | Reliving the past......
To many, high school is one of the most memorable times, but to others, it can be one of the most traumatic……
As someone who was bullied for 8 straight years, my school years were a living hell…I am in college now, but even then, I cannot escape the past. There are times whereby I find myself reliving the past…….
During my school years, there were those who would openly harass and bully me, and then there were those who would pretend to be my friends, take advantage of my trusting personality, then use anything I say against me and spread nasty rumours. The second was worse than the first. At least with the first, I stood a chance and could easily kick the living crap out of the perpetrators. I found it harder to deal with gossipers since they have no sense of honour and would run and hide instead of owning up to what they had done. Gossip was the same as an underhanded guerrilla attack and just as cowardly. There were also those who would humiliate me in front of the whole class and get basically the whole class to taunt and pick on me all at once during class.
These memories have never left and I am still haunted by them. I feel guilt, shame, and a sense that I missed out on a lot that I should have been able to enjoy in those years. My mind is on constant alert and I am always on the defensive against any future potential bullying. No matter the situation, I can no longer trust anyone and always feel the need to defend myself against such. There are times when certain situations would trigger flashbacks of the past and cause me to rigorously be on the defensive.
Just recently, a college classmate was asking a few questions, and those certain questions triggered my mind into it’s original defensive mode…I found myself being defensive against someone who wasn’t even in Vegreville during those hellish years, but because of my mind being on permanent alert, she ended up in the crossfire between the past and present.
The guilt, pain, shame, and anger will never go away, nor will the memories. They are stuck there. I don’t know if I ever will be able to trust anyone ever again. That part of me died back in high school….a casualty of past wars. I have found it hard to make friends with my classmates. I don’t know if it’s them, or if it’s me being withdrawn and being on permanent alert based on being reminded constantly of the past. |
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GreenPele
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Yes, I remember Elementary and Middle School. The kids sadistically tortured me and the teachers seemed to think I deserved it. It also didn't help that my Mom is a Chaos Junkie who doesn't know how to make things better. One time I got stabbed in the arm and got sent to a Special Ed school, which was actually the best thing that ever happened to me. The kids were all nice and the teachers understood my quirks. Then on my senior year I decided to attend 12th Grade full time at the High School, not because I wanted to, but because my teachers pushed me to do it. Going back to a school of narssasistic sociopaths was suppose to be a "Great Reward". But when I went back to High School everything changed, I was stronger and no longer let people think they could do what they wanted to me because I would get justice myself if no one else would. I hated the year I spent in High School because I liked the people at the Special Ed school more, but at least I got through it and proved to myself I can handle the "real world" now.
I would say the Bullying and Torture I experienced as a child has made me a stronger and smarter person. I just needed a lifeboat to float safely on.  |
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Ahaseurus2000
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Yes. PTSD, depression and social anxiety.
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