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aspiesmom1
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Joined: Jan 20, 2006
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Location: Texas
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Dear AspiesParent:
You mentioned your son is 15, but not his school year. When he gets to be a junior in HS, check your blue pages for your states Rehabilitation Commission, or Assistive and Rehabilitative Commission, something along those lines in the state office listings. This agency is there to help your child transition from high school to wherever he is going next - work, college, etc. They provide vast resources, and it is unwise to miss out on their help.
As for the immediate and day to day issues, while it appears much of your son's issues may be related to AS or sensory issues, keep in mind that having a child on the spectrum doesn't give us a free pass from the usual teenage angst, it just may be compounded or shrouded by the other issues.
Some of the quotes you have provided of your son's choice of language seem to indicate he is picking up his verbage from books and movies, as some of it is quite dated. (I'm on the border of my third teenager so I hear all the "lingo" lol) He may be looking for an identity to copy or emulate, as he is too unsure of himself and uncomfortable in communicating to be himself. In other words, instead of being a "little professor" at 15 he's choosing to be a "little hippie" or other character. This way he doesn't have to think about the language and communication, he simply repeats what these characters say. And as a teenager, naturally, he's doing things to get a reaction - any reaction - out of his parents and other adults.
IMHO I think an in person face to face support group might be a bit much for a 15 year old. Unless it is a family oriented group in which parents or other family members are welcomed and included - again it's just my .02.
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AspiesParent
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Joined: Apr 23, 2006
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| Posted: Mon May 01, 2006 8:49 pm Post subject: |
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OH! MOM! Did you think telling me about wrongplanet that you think i wouldnt find your own posts? U want me to post here? Sure i can post here. Why tell these folk you dont know the problem with me and such? U know exactly what the problems are. YOU KNOW, MOM! OH! YOU KNOW! Why not start telling the truth? Why not stop preaching your distress to these people? Make them and their parents feel so sorry for you?
If U want me to stop rages then why dont U and dad just leave me alone? Why don't U? You never told them about how dad and U try to pull me out of my room to do crap I dont even like. U know dad expects me to waste my life cutting grass and crap. I hate that crap. Just leave me alone. Let me do what I want. And just leave me alone. U never told these folk how U try to run my life. Never did? DID YOU?
I like to use my computer. I like to read. I don't like to live normal live. It sucks. It sucks big time. Im not fit for this human world. I am an alien to it. YES! I FAKE BEING SICK! I DO! I FAKE IT JUST TO GET PEOPLE OFF MY BACK!
I know about AS. Want me to post things here? Sure. I'll post things here. I imagine lots of fun I could have here. Telling kids not to listen to their parents. Telling people not to listen to their bosses. Telling people to live a life that they can enjoy. Not a life that is forced on them. If I knew this crap before I was born maybe U should have just stabbed me dead right after I left your crappy womb.
If people here are like me then they should know how i feel. If not then i need to fake something much much sicker than AS. REALLY, MOM! REALLY, DAD! REALLY! LET ME LIVE MY LIFE! |
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ster
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Joined: Sep 24, 2005
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Location: new england
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| Posted: Mon May 01, 2006 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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AspiesParent ( or should i say, AspiesParent's son ?)~
You are well within your rights to post here. we welcome differences of opinion. it is only through open and honest discussion that things can get better, and we all can begin to understand one another. I do think, however, that it would be best if you obtained your own username~it's a little confusing having you type under someone else's username.
AspiesParent ( mom)~ i sometimes think of changing my name to beentheredonethat~but that's been taken.hang in there. |
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CockneyRebel
Sid The Love Rat is a Sweet Pea :O)
Joined: Jul 18, 2004
Age: 34
Posts: 21088
Location: Out in the evening, with me two best Rat Mates :O)
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| Posted: Mon May 01, 2006 11:10 pm Post subject: |
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I would have been happy to have had people expect more of me, when I was at the age of Fifteen, instead of dealing with them thinking that I would be too Disabled to ammount to anything. Your Parents care about you, and they want to prepare you for the Real World. Something that my Parents didn't care to do for me. I might not have hidden my True Colours behind a Hippie Facade, and I probably would have been more serious about my Future, which is now my Present.
I would also like you to consider creating your own account. It would help make things easier. 
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walk-in-the-rain
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Joined: Mar 12, 2006
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| Posted: Mon May 01, 2006 11:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Perhaps this is an opportunity to clear the lines of communication between yourself and your mom. Why would she come on here (knowing this is a site with alot of Aspies) if she was looking for people to just feel sorry for her. She could have found some sappy "parents of kids with AS" group to do that. |
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tiff
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Joined: May 02, 2006
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| Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 1:43 am Post subject: reguarding son |
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| Hi Robin. You didn't state if he was on any meds or not.My son who is 10,was put on a med that he couldn't take and within 8 hours went from a charming little boy to throwing chairs into my walls,saying how he would hurt anyone who tried to stop him.All I can remember is praying that it would wear off soon.We changed his meds immediately and hes never been or felt better.He also started taking mellatonin to sleep because he would only sleep on average 4 hours per night.If he is on meds you may want them adjusted if not you may look into anti-anxiety ones for him. |
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gertie
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Joined: May 13, 2006
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My son is 18, diagnosed at 16. Because of his late diagnosis, we have had very little support from the schools. 'Just thought I'd share our experience with jobs. He worked one summer in the corn fields, pollinating. The heat and the dust bothered him but he liked the routine of it. Tried fast food, that lasted about a week,too much unpredictability. Now he is working for our local grocery store, mostly stocking shelves. This has gone fairly well. He likes putting things in order. The biggest issue has been getting his schedule requests in on time. When he forgets, he blames his boss for scheduling him when he's not available, calling him on old idiot.(to me).
We had many of the emotional issues that you describe, holes in the wall, once threw a chair in the auditorium, many, many outbursts at the dinner table about the injustice of the world. What seems to help most is to make sure he keeps a schedule. He has a large calendar in ;his room that we fill out together once a week, we also sit down a few times a week and discuss his homework and activities schedule (he is heavily involved in theatre, his passion). It took me about two years to convince him that making these schedules would work.
Praying for you and your family. |
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blue41331
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Joined: Jun 29, 2005
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| Having lived through much of what you are, my heart pains for you. I feel like we are coming out of the other end, so I can only reflect on what helped and what didn't. We leaved with out of control anger, self injury, treats, violent thoughts, etc.....it was horrible. My suggestions include an evaluation by a psychiatrist...medication has helped (mental health issues such as anxiety and depression often go hand and hand with ASP), also an evaluation for Sensory Integration Problems (through an occupation therapist). This has helped greatly....sensory issues can be major for ASP., my teenager sleeps with a weighted blanket, day is scheduled, et. He also sees a counselor that specializes in Asp. School was terrible, although he is extremely bright. Looking back, he really needed social skills training. Middle school and high school were the worst. Look into all of the above....we are now seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, but all these things were needed. |
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ozkaz
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: May 19, 2006
Posts: 48
Location: nt coast in land oz.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 13, 2006 9:25 pm Post subject: |
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i have a 15 yr old girl, she loves kurt cobain and all that dark music. as an autie myself i will just say that being a teenager is hard and having the extra bonus of autism adds more pressure.if you feel that you can not fit into a social group sometimes you become the most outrageous one .i believe that most agresion is caused by fear reactions. and anger is depression and fear redereated. thankyou for the honest feelings you gave on this site i feel very safe in this forum. we are not alone .   |
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Fuzzle
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Joined: Jun 26, 2006
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| Posted: Mon Jun 26, 2006 6:56 am Post subject: |
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Hi
I joined this site this morning & as I’m writing this my 16 yr old cousin is being brought to a psychiatric hospital.
She was diagnosed with AS a few years ago but nothing was done about it. She had rituals & routines (like spending 4 hours in the bathroom washing herself, her clothes had to be washed & ironed a certain way, if you gave her a kiss hello/goodbye she would flinch & smell herself afterwards). Anyway, all these obsessions were allowed continue without any question and its only in the last few months that her parents have realised that there is something wrong with her cos she has got extremely violent & aggressive towards them and towards herself. She has broke mirrors, windows, furniture; torn up her clothes, wreaked her bedroom. She won’t speak to her parents (but especially her mother). She bangs her head continuously against the wall & is all bruised from hitting herself. She is extremely agitated when she is in the same room as her parents & goes into her own world where she grunts & talks to herself.
When it gets really bad (and by now this happens a couple of times a day) she goes into her room for hours screaming “f*ck off, f*ck off, I hate you” until she wears herself out. She was on Prozac for a few weeks but it didn’t seem to help. She is now on another medication, (don’t know the name) but that just knocks her out.
A psychologist is after referring her to this psychiatric hospital that specialises in teen behavioural disorders. The problem is ‘cos she’s 16 she is treated like an adult & she has to voluntarily stay there. My family a very distressed at the thought of her being somewhere like this but know at this stage something has to be done to help her.
Basically I would just like to hear from any young people with AS or their parents who were in this kind of situation. |
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