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zimmie
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Joined: Oct 22, 2009
Age: 20
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Basically, if you think you would have a use for one of these things, get it. If you don't, you probably don't need it.
I got a Facebook account when I went to college because people automatically asked to add me on it, and I was trying to be social. A lot of encounters were just weird – I had a lot of complete strangers from my school who added me, I would add them back trying to be polite, and they'd never say anything to me. A few months ago I de-friended all those people. But I also found it to be a good social lubricant. I have a memory for names, but not faces, so if I met someone I thought I would get along with, I'd go on FaceBook and look at their profile photo to try and remember them if I met them again. The information on profiles can also be good conversation material – if I know a little about someone's interests, I'm not as helpless in conversation as I usually am. Also, someone asking (offline) to add you on FaceBook is a good indicator that they want to get to know you better.
That said, since leaving college I haven't used it except to keep up with old friends. I can see what people I know but am no longer around are doing, and engage in conversations with several of them at a time. Okay, one could do that in chat, but I hate chat.
I also enjoy declining friend requests from my extended family (with whom I have a relationship of mutual dislike).  |
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thebob42
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Oct 19, 2009
Age: 29
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| Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2009 8:12 am Post subject: |
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| A whole lot of nothing. I'll wait a couple more days. |
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gbollard
K’Anpo no... Cho-Je... whatever.
Joined: Oct 06, 2007
Age: 40
Posts: 4447
Location: Sydney, Australia
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| Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2009 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| thebob42 wrote: | | A whole lot of nothing. I'll wait a couple more days. |
You do actually have friends who use facebook don't you?
Consider changing your status to something like: "doesn't believe that anyone really exists on facebook since they don't talk to me..."
If you don't update your status a bit, you'll drift to the bottom of the pile of notifications and never get noticed.
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thebob42
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About thirty friends on there, twenty if I don't count the co-workers and wife's relatives. I changed the update to some random song I heard on the radio. They have commented on previous posts - but there seems to be no pattern behind it. I'm guessing the reason it nags at me is that while I don't want constant feedback (which is possibly worse then NO feedback) I would like at least some acknowledgment that others are attentive to my efforts.
Of course, now that I'm posting here it hasn't bothered me as much as it used to. I'm not sure if it's ironic that Aspies are more social with me then my NT friends are, or disturbing to find that the popular social networks aren't social-able enough for me. Either way, I'm still glad that I'm stumbled upon Wrong Planet. |
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Tach
Pileated woodpecker
Joined: Oct 31, 2009
Age: 19
Posts: 178
Location: Sol System
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| Posted: Sat Oct 31, 2009 8:26 am Post subject: |
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I have it but I rarely use it, most of the time, if I know someone IRL, and I want to talk to them, I usually have them on an instant messenger of some sort I can contact them on. And even then, I only have 2 friends that fall in that category.
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