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Asmodeus
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Be excellent to each other.
Party on dudes.
I seriously live by this. Think about it. |
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mechanicalgirl39
Phoenix
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Thanks for posting that!  |
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WardenWolf
Deinonychus
Joined: May 01, 2009
Age: 27
Posts: 327
Location: Phoenix, Arizona
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| Posted: Mon May 11, 2009 6:21 pm Post subject: |
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I need to add for myself:
I will learn to better recognize my social limits and will not take on jobs and responsibilities that exceed my people skills.
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peterd
Velociraptor
Joined: Dec 26, 2006
Age: 57
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| Posted: Wed May 27, 2009 8:35 am Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | I will learn to better recognize my social limits and will not take on jobs and responsibilities that exceed my people skills |
...without some kind of safety net. We all need to stretch.
(humor me: I'm taking on a stack of jobs and responsibilities that exceed any current estimate of my people skills at the moment. And it hurts. Win, lose or draw, it hurts) |
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WardenWolf
Deinonychus
Joined: May 01, 2009
Age: 27
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Location: Phoenix, Arizona
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Stretching is one thing. Stretching can be good. On the other hand, too many times have I been offered positions based solely on my knowledge and technical aptitude; but I lacked the people skills that were also required, resulting in an inevitable crash and burn. I need to learn to better recognize that I'm simply not suited for certain things, and to look at the whole picture; not just whether I have the hard skills, but the people skills as well. There's a difference between a "stretch" and "way out of my league".
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I am many things. The exile, the guardian, the friend, all at different times, and sometimes all at the same time. I walk my path. If you happen to be walking beside me, please help me when I fall. I will gladly do likewise. |
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SplinterStar
Sea Gull
Joined: Jul 15, 2009
Posts: 227
Location: The Northern Canadian wilderness where werewolves roam free.
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| Posted: Sun Aug 02, 2009 10:57 am Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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| sunnycat wrote: | Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey
I am not defective. I am different.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.
I am a good and interesting person.
I will take pride in myself.
I am capable of getting along with society.
I will ask for help when I need it.
I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.
I am never going to give up on myself.
I will accept myself for who I am. |
Cute but I don't believe all of it. The whole "asking for help" thing should only be done if you're completely unable to do it at all. Or until you've broken it beyond the point of fixing. |
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duke666
Deinonychus
Joined: Aug 09, 2009
Posts: 374
Location: San Francisco
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| Posted: Tue Aug 18, 2009 3:19 pm Post subject: |
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Thanks for this thread. We don't necessarily need to tape them to the bathroom mirror, but it's good to have them rattling around in our heads the stabilize us when we're sketching out.
For the darker minds (you know who you are), I recommend:
"DAILY AFFLICTIONS
The Agony of Being
Connected to Everything
in the Universe"
Site:
Daily Afflictions
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"Yeah, I've always been myself, even when I was ill.
Only now I seem myself. And that's the important thing.
I have remembered how to seem."
-The Madness of King George |
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Victor
Blue Jay
Joined: Jul 29, 2009
Age: 23
Posts: 99
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My code has always been.
Discipline is strength,
Strength is survival.
Pain is weakness,
Weakness is death.
There is no pain,
There is no hope.
Kind of depressing, I've been trying to get away from it, but it helps when stubborn is all you have.
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Some say the world is simple,
Some say that it's complex,
But if you were to ask me,
I'd say it's here to vex. |
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Boomshika
Snowy Owl
Joined: Oct 10, 2009
Age: 26
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It is better to be hated for who you are, than loved for who you're not.
(this is my motto because in my school days i tried my damnedest to fit in, only for the true me to show thru with one off move or phrase, and ending up becoming the outcast anyway)
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Oscar wasn't a grouch... He was just an aspie. |
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SINsister
the towering inferno
Joined: May 26, 2005
Posts: 1301
Location: six feet over
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| duke666 wrote: | For the darker minds (you know who you are), I recommend:
"DAILY AFFLICTIONS
The Agony of Being
Connected to Everything
in the Universe"
Site:
Daily Afflictions |
Thank you for this, man. \m/
Holy hell, I seem to've gotten something in my eye - please excuse me.
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.all those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain. |
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DeaconBlues
They call Alabama the Crimson Tide - call me...
Joined: Apr 22, 2007
Posts: 2263
Location: Earth, mostly
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For some reason, I'm put in mind of Steve Martin's old stage routine, "The Non-Conformist's Oath":
| Quote: | I promise to be different!
(AUDIENCE: I promise to be different!)
I promise to be unique!
(AUDIENCE: I promise to be unique!)
I promise not to repeat things other people say!
(AUDIENCE: collapses into confusion and laughter) |
For myself, there's the promise I made myself before I had any clue what AS was, back when my first wife left. I'd tried to fit in, and all that had gotten me was a succession of crappy jobs and crappy places to live, and a woman who dumped me when she found a more reliable meal ticket.
The day I had my epiphany about it (when I realized that I and my sixty-something father were sweating in the hot San Diego sun, fixing her car, while she was off playing house with Mr. Wonderful), I looked back on my life and decided it needed changed.
From that day forward, I am who I am. There's nothing I can do to hide it anyway; trying only causes me tsuris, so why bother? Yes, there will be some people who won't understand. There will be some who just plain won't like me because I'm not pretending to be one of them any more. So what?
So frakking what? Why should I let other people control my life, especially when they're people who (by definition) don't like me much anyway? Why should I give them power over my life??
Today I have a wonderful family, we're just about to move into our first we're-actually-buying-this-thing-hot-damn house, and I've averaged happier these past twelve years than any other time in my life - even the part of that twelve years that came before diagnosis!
While you sit there and think about it,
There's another unfolding their wings -
I could tell you what it's like,
But until you try,
You'll never see what I mean...
- Queensryche, "Some People Fly", Hear In the Now Frontier (1997)
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SierraBell
Phoenix
Joined: Aug 24, 2007
Posts: 627
Location: My secret lair, or anywhere near animals, books, and macs
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Very nice idea. I don't have AS, but PDD-NOS.
Anyhow here's my pledge:
I refuse to hide who I am. |
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Blindspot149
Phoenix
Joined: Oct 08, 2009
Posts: 534
Location: Aspergers
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| Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 5:59 am Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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| sunnycat wrote: | Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey
I am not defective. I am different.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.
I am a good and interesting person.
I will take pride in myself.
I am capable of getting along with society.
I will ask for help when I need it.
I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.
I am never going to give up on myself.
I will accept myself for who I am. |
I read this in Tony Attwood's Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome.
It is really terrific.
Thanks for reminding me.
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Now then, tell me. What did Miggs say to you? Multiple Miggs in the next cell. He hissed at you. What did he say?
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CockneyRebel
Mick Avory
Joined: Jul 18, 2004
Age: 35
Posts: 22541
Location: 1965 London with Ruby the Routemaster by my side
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I've got nothing to hide and nothing to prove.
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Mick Avory is my favourite Kink. He always has been and he always will be. Him and I are two peas in a pod. |
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Zeek
Snowy Owl
Joined: Nov 06, 2009
Posts: 140
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| Posted: Sat Nov 21, 2009 12:53 am Post subject: Parts I agree/disagree with |
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I am not defective. I am different. True although I can be a bit cold socially so I'm majorly different slightly defective.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance. I don't care what others think
I am a good and interesting person. True I just hide in my shell so nobody knows that
I will take pride in myself. I do that, as I said I just don't share it
I am capable of getting along with society. Not really. I get along with close friends but prefer to avoid others
I will ask for help when I need it. Heck no.
I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance. I probably am worthy of their acceptence, I just can't bring myself to strive for it as I actually don't want it that much.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests. That I can and will do
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me. I'm impatient, full stop. So being patient with others who needa get used to me, no thanks.
I am never going to give up on myself. If I had I'd be dead
I will accept myself for who I am. Aspie and proud
Thanks for the pledge I just don't agree with it all
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter don't mind, and those that mind, don't matter." |
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