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thecutevegan
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 Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 11:30 am Post subject: I want to Want sex! |
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| Anyone else have this problem? I'm married and my husband thinks I'm not attracted to him but I simply just don't want sex! Anyone have suggestions on how to boost the drive? |
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lelia
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Location: Vancouver not BC, Washington not DC
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If you are on antidepressants, you may need to switch to a different one.
My first antidepressant destroyed my libido I couldn't even remember desire. I could not do that to my husband, and so switched and am fine now.
You can go to a doctor. A number of medical conditions and medications can cause this.
In the meantime, you can fake it as a gift of love to your husband. |
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LostAlien
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Is he doing his share of the housework? That can cause libido problems. Also arguments or personal/professional stresses can cause libido problems.
Women can also have preformance anxiety but because of how we're structured, it shows as lack of interest in sex sometimes.
If you can check out what is causing you to not want sex it can help.
Is it any of the above, or is it discomfort with some aspect of sex? or something else?
I haven't read it yet, but the book 'the domestic sex goddess' seems to be a good read to deal with psycological reasons for low libido.
Although, bear in mind that you and he may have different sex drives as well. |
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OhNowIGetIt
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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| Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 7:37 pm Post subject: my experience |
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| I've found over the years the what feeds my sex drive is knowing my body, that is, my sexual response. It is been going after my own pleasure in the experience (in balance) and being responsible for my own sexual response. In other words, knowing what makes me feel good then doing it. |
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sinsboldly
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Age: 59
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Location: Oregon, USA
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| Posted: Sat Oct 31, 2009 3:52 am Post subject: Re: I want to Want sex! |
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| thecutevegan wrote: | | Anyone else have this problem? I'm married and my husband thinks I'm not attracted to him but I simply just don't want sex! Anyone have suggestions on how to boost the drive? |
I worked in a vegan restaurant for a couple of years and found our clientele very esthetic and far too non connected to their bodies to have much of a sex drive, and most were celibate or only made love for procreation purposes. I started supplementing their diet with T6635 Red Star Nutritional Yeast for Vitamin B-12 and they had a sexual renaissance. They started having to work with how they were going to deal with passion and sexual desire when in a vegan or satvic vegan diet with the B-12 suppliment introduced them back to the 'wild thing'.
Merle
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thecutevegan
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| Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 8:00 am Post subject: Thanks! |
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Thanks everyone! I think it must be a combination of a few of these things. My plan is to up my B-12 intake, lower my soy intake, my husband agreed to do more with the kids and around the house after I showed him Micheal Kimmel's video too!
Sincere thanks! |
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