makuranososhi
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This is the Love and Dating forum, not the Adult Issues Forum - please post appropriately.
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Lonermutant
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Joined: Dec 18, 2005
Posts: 1727
Location: Namsos, Norway
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| Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:16 am Post subject: |
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| makuranososhi wrote: | This is the Love and Dating forum, not the Adult Issues Forum - please post appropriately.
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Yes... |
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ToadOfSteel
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Joined: Sep 24, 2007
Age: 25
Posts: 6716
Location: New Jersey
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| Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:29 am Post subject: |
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| Stinkypuppy wrote: | | Other than the bees, do you like nature? Winter approaches and snow will be coming soon. You'll see very few bugs out and about, if any at all, as hartzofspace is alluding to. |
I would love to be able to do that. Unfortunately, most women in the NJ area are summer people. They're all about going down the shore and getting tanned and being able to wear bikinis and all that...
| Quote: | | Maybe you just need to do something else for a while, to get your mind off things and get a fresh start. Something not related to your church, though, since it seriously looks like your dependence on the church is a big crutch that is really hurting you in the long term. |
But it's also the only place I get accepted for who I am, aspie and all. I've never been in any other group that I've had to hide my AS for fear that it would result in my ostracism. |
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DemonAbyss10
The Drill That Pierces The Heavens
Joined: Aug 24, 2007
Age: 24
Posts: 2508
Location: The Poconos, Pennsylvania
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| Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 2:05 pm Post subject: |
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toad, your not too far away from the skii areas in PA i am guessing, since your in NJ correct?. Maybe you can go to one of the skii areas, since I know they do get crowded. You might meet someone, who knows.
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Axion004
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Joined: Jan 27, 2010
Posts: 28
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| Posted: Wed Jan 27, 2010 10:18 pm Post subject: Re: you guys need to go to parties/bars/clubs |
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| roadGames wrote: | I know you all hate the idea, and I used to be terrified of gigantic groups of strangers talking to each other, but really they are the perfect place to hone your socializing abilities. Make friends with some more extroverted nerds or look for a wingman group on the internet, and things will change. Let's say you do make an ass out of yourself or get rejected by some girl, do you think she's going to remember it tomorrow? Probably not, because you're one of 20 or so guys that approached her that night if she's even barely decent looking.
Sure, at a bar or club, you are not likely to find that cute INTP girl we all want to date. However, once you do meet her at work or school, talking to her and getting her interested in you is going to be a piece of cake because you've had some success in what are easily the most competitive environments for meeting women. Girls want fun, confident guys (yes, that's a very loaded word), even the asperger's or INTP girls. They'll deny it all they want, but it's true.
In the last 4 weeks of doing this, I've probably approached more women than I have in my entire life before then, been rejected/sabotaged initial attraction more times than I care to count (I used to think this was a big deal, ahahaha), and gotten more numbers and dates than I've had in my entire life. I actually broke a girl's heart last week by not calling her, and she's been whining to her friend who relayed the message back to me. It's not that I take pride in being called a heartbreaker, but it's just something so bizarre and alien to me. I didn't think I had that capability as an autistic.
It's also a tad bit depressing to realize all the really cool women you could've hooked up with but didn't because you totally missed all of the signals. At the same time it's a bit empowering, too. Probably the most crucial thing I've learned is that you MUST watch the eyes, even if you don't know what it means now, you will learn eventually.
Guys, joining a wingman group will save your life and you won't need to be posting here anymore attempting to analyze the bullshit language or behavior of some girl who "friend zoned" you. |
No Thanks,
If I am going to socialize then it is going to be an alcohol-free environment. |
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therange
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Joined: Sep 04, 2009
Age: 29
Posts: 959
Location: Not at Spike's house.
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| Not this thread again. It's funny, though, I was just discussing with a woman that I'm a virgin in part because I don't like the bar/club/party scene and want the woman I have sex with to be sober and to cuddle and talk afterward...she recommended a hooker. What don't women get about the fact that guys want a real woman, not someone going through the motions for 300 dollars an hour? |
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DemonAbyss10
The Drill That Pierces The Heavens
Joined: Aug 24, 2007
Age: 24
Posts: 2508
Location: The Poconos, Pennsylvania
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| therange wrote: | | Not this thread again. It's funny, though, I was just discussing with a woman that I'm a virgin in part because I don't like the bar/club/party scene and want the woman I have sex with to be sober and to cuddle and talk afterward...she recommended a hooker. What don't women get about the fact that guys want a real woman, not someone going through the motions for 300 dollars an hour? |
not to mention the risk of STD? I swear sometimes the crimes against prostitutes is just Karma striking them down.
And round here the bars and clubs and stuff? Its manly man/biker land. I suck at keg stands though...
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