zeldapsychology
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Did they treat you any different? IF/WHEN I ever get a chance to Apologize to the Psychology teacher I've considered bringing it up describing my special interest in Psychology etc. why I question the teacher so much etc. Surely as a Psychologist I'd think she'd understand but still as a Psychologist would she be judgmental based on are history. So many ideas run through my head daily of how I should go about apologizing to her. HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL!  |
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arielhawksquill
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| Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 12:00 pm Post subject: Re: Have you told anyone about your AS and what did they say |
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| zeldapsychology wrote: | | Did they treat you any different? IF/WHEN I ever get a chance to Apologize to the Psychology teacher I've considered bringing it up describing my special interest in Psychology etc. why I question the teacher so much etc. Surely as a Psychologist I'd think she'd understand but still as a Psychologist would she be judgmental based on are history. So many ideas run through my head daily of how I should go about apologizing to her. HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL! |
I'm trying to think of how to say this as gently as possible, because I know wishing you could make that apology is a perseveration of yours. Have you ever considered that maybe she doesn't want an apology? She wants you to leave her alone, as evidenced by the fact that she blocked you after your repeated friend requests on Facebook. That would be the thing you could do to please her best--leave her alone.
Even if you return to your same college, you probably won't be allowed to take her psychology class again. She is afraid of you now because of the threat you made (but didn't mean), and if you keep trying to get into her space in order to make your apology, she might take out a restraining order against you. |
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| Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 1:54 pm Post subject: Re: Have you told anyone about your AS and what did they say |
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| zeldapsychology wrote: | | Did they treat you any different? IF/WHEN I ever get a chance to Apologize to the Psychology teacher I've considered bringing it up describing my special interest in Psychology etc. why I question the teacher so much etc. Surely as a Psychologist I'd think she'd understand but still as a Psychologist would she be judgmental based on are history. So many ideas run through my head daily of how I should go about apologizing to her. HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL! |
"I just need talk to you for one last time and I need you to hear me out. I am sorry for what happened. I didn't mean it as a threat. I was just joking. You know what I'm talking about right?"
I once had an experiance on Yahoo Answers where a mother got mad at me when I told her dislike of being held is one of the first signs of autism. I would keep an eye out for more symptoms. She posted a question about her infant not staying in her arms and I thought she was being ignorant that he doesn't want to be held and she was thinking her baby doesn't know how to stay put. But once I told her I was on the autism spectrum, her attitude changed. |
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Aurore
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I told my now-husband that I had Asperger's when we were sixteen. His response was, "Duh." And then he hugged me.
My psych professor treats me different now, since she found out. She's a developmental psychologist, so I thought it would be safe to 'come out' to her, but instead she just started treating me like a soulless android. 
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zeldapsychology
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| Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 2:00 pm Post subject: Re: Have you told anyone about your AS and what did they say |
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| League_Girl wrote: | | zeldapsychology wrote: | | Did they treat you any different? IF/WHEN I ever get a chance to Apologize to the Psychology teacher I've considered bringing it up describing my special interest in Psychology etc. why I question the teacher so much etc. Surely as a Psychologist I'd think she'd understand but still as a Psychologist would she be judgmental based on are history. So many ideas run through my head daily of how I should go about apologizing to her. HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL! |
"I just need talk to you for one last time and I need you to hear me out. I am sorry for what happened. I didn't mean it as a threat. I was just joking. You know what I'm talking about right?"
I once had an experiance on Yahoo Answers where a mother got mad at me when I told her dislike of being held is one of the first signs of autism. I would keep an eye out for more symptoms. She posted a question about her infant not staying in her arms and I thought she was being ignorant that he doesn't want to be held and she was thinking her baby doesn't know how to stay put. But once I told her I was on the autism spectrum, her attitude changed. |
You are EXCELLENT BETH! OMG! YA! PERFECT way of putting it!!!! YA!!!! |
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Aurore
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I don't know what happened between you and your teacher, but good luck!!! 
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| Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2010 2:48 pm Post subject: Re: Have you told anyone about your AS and what did they say |
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| arielhawksquill wrote: | | zeldapsychology wrote: | | Did they treat you any different? IF/WHEN I ever get a chance to Apologize to the Psychology teacher I've considered bringing it up describing my special interest in Psychology etc. why I question the teacher so much etc. Surely as a Psychologist I'd think she'd understand but still as a Psychologist would she be judgmental based on are history. So many ideas run through my head daily of how I should go about apologizing to her. HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL! |
I'm trying to think of how to say this as gently as possible, because I know wishing you could make that apology is a perseveration of yours. Have you ever considered that maybe she doesn't want an apology? She wants you to leave her alone, as evidenced by the fact that she blocked you after your repeated friend requests on Facebook. That would be the thing you could do to please her best--leave her alone.
Even if you return to your same college, you probably won't be allowed to take her psychology class again. She is afraid of you now because of the threat you made (but didn't mean), and if you keep trying to get into her space in order to make your apology, she might take out a restraining order against you. |
^ The post above is probably not what you want to hear Zelda, but I think it may be the case too. No means no, and it seems obvious that your ex-teacher is saying no.
How would you feel if someone that scared you kept trying to talk to you... despite you telling them you are not interested and don't want to? What if it was some creepy guy who was convinced he could make you like him if he could just get close enough to explain why he scared you? Would you let him close enough to explain?
I'm not trying to sound harsh or offend you. I'm just trying to assist you in seeing another perspective. This ex-teacher isn't worth the frustration. You cannot control other people, you can only control yourself. It's probably time to put her out of your mind and move on... or at least start that process by telling yourself it's time to move on. |
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| Quote: | | HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL |
I probably have a need to purchase said book. |
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I've told a couple of my friends who knew me very well and already were familiar with my quirkiness and nerdiness. One had actually heard of Asperger's before; I've talked to two of my friends about it, and they both asked questions about it and seemed very interested in learning about my thought processes. I told them because I knew they wouldn't treat me any differently but they would still find it interesting. I've actually gotten a lot closer to both since then.
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zeldapsychology
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| Francis wrote: | | Quote: | | HEY I could make a book 1,000 ways to apologize to your Psychology teacher. LOL |
I probably have a need to purchase said book. |
Wow! You would! LOL! That's awesome!!!!! |
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You ppl who think that "coming out" to psych professors need to rethink that. Psychologists who go into teaching are the ones who like the science of psychology and don't do well in a clinical situation. I had a psychology major in college for awhile, the one thing I noticed over and over is how these teachers were very condicending about ppl with developmental issues and mental illness. They are not therapists...nor do they want to be because most of them are more interested in the science rather than the individual. They rather torment lab rats than be a therapist to their students.
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| jojobean wrote: | | You ppl who think that "coming out" to psych professors need to rethink that. Psychologists who go into teaching are the ones who like the science of psychology and don't do well in a clinical situation. I had a psychology major in college for awhile, the one thing I noticed over and over is how these teachers were very condicending about ppl with developmental issues and mental illness. They are not therapists...nor do they want to be because most of them are more interested in the science rather than the individual. They rather torment lab rats than be a therapist to their students. |
Well...I wouldn't say all of them are like that, but I think there's a lot of truth to what you're saying. My teacher isn't mean to me but she seems to have a very rigid view of what people like us are like, and seems to be tailoring her interactions with me to her preconceived notions of my social desires.
I'm either going to be a therapist or will be teaching psychology, and if I do teach, I promise everyone here I will never be condescending in that matter. : )
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My psych professor treats me different now, since she found out. She's a developmental psychologist, so I thought it would be safe to 'come out' to her, but instead she just started treating me like a soulless android. |
A lot of "professionals" end up treating people like a diagnosis instead of like a person. It's stupid.
The only people who I have told is my family and my one real life friend. My family reacted ok to it although my cousin said "you can't have AS because like that boy in the book (the curious incident) people with it are retarded".
My real life friend said "I'm sorry that you have Aspergers". She doesn't treat me any differently though.
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The only people who know I have AS are :
- my parents (who made me diagnosed)
- some college (my parents said it to them)
- a really close friend (a girl)
I don't see something changed.
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