This person asked me if I was single - twice

Page 1 of 1 [ 14 posts ] 

Descartes
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Apr 2008
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 6,288
Location: Texas, unfortunately

13 Dec 2010, 3:30 pm

I've become friends with this one guy at my community college, and every so often we text each other. He texted me - twice - asking if I was single. Both times I answered in the affirmative.

The second time he asked me that, I asked him if there was any particular reason he was asking. He answered that he liked me too much to tell me. I then replied that that didn't make sense, and asked if he was trying to protect me from something. He then answered that he was just wondering if I was single.

I almost want to tell him that if he's going to ask me out, then he should hurry up and do it already. There has to be a reason he's asking this.



Wallourdes
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 24 Jul 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,589
Location: Netherlands

13 Dec 2010, 3:34 pm

I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken :wink:


_________________
"It all start with Hoborg, a being who had to create, because... he had to. He make the world full of beauty and wonder. This world, the Neverhood, a world where he could live forever and ever more!"


Volodja
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Nov 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 814

13 Dec 2010, 3:35 pm

Do you like him back?



Descartes
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Apr 2008
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 6,288
Location: Texas, unfortunately

13 Dec 2010, 3:43 pm

Wallourdes wrote:
I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken :wink:


If that's the case, then why doesn't he just ask me out? :roll:

Volodja wrote:
Do you like him back?


If he were to ask me out, then I'd accept his offer. He's nice and decent-looking.



Wallourdes
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 24 Jul 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,589
Location: Netherlands

13 Dec 2010, 4:03 pm

Descartes wrote:
Wallourdes wrote:
I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken :wink:


If that's the case, then why doesn't he just ask me out? :roll:


Because he probably is shy or is gathering the courage to do so.

I just saw you are a guy, I don't know if homosexuality is a big issue where you are living and/or studying? If that is the case it might weight along in this issue.


_________________
"It all start with Hoborg, a being who had to create, because... he had to. He make the world full of beauty and wonder. This world, the Neverhood, a world where he could live forever and ever more!"


Descartes
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Apr 2008
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 6,288
Location: Texas, unfortunately

13 Dec 2010, 4:05 pm

Wallourdes wrote:
I just saw you are a guy, I don't know if homosexuality is a big issue where you are living and/or studying? If that is the case it might weight along in this issue.


I live in one of the most conservative areas in the country, but it's certainly not an issue for us. We're both members of our school's Gay-Straight Alliance.



GrimmRomance
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 16 Mar 2010
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 466

13 Dec 2010, 4:22 pm

Aww, that's so sweet. It does seem that he's quite infatuated. ;) He probably just needs some time to gather courage or perhaps figure out where to take you to, if you were to say yes. I don't think there's anything to worry about when it comes to other reasons for asking. If you think something could develop from this and if he's into you - good luck. ^^ If it doesn't develop into anything, then it's always nice to have a friend.



MidlifeAspie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Nov 2010
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,016

13 Dec 2010, 4:23 pm

If you would say yes if he asked then just skip the awkwardness and ask him out yourself. I think this is what he is hoping for.



Volodja
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Nov 2010
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 814

13 Dec 2010, 4:42 pm

Yeah I agree, definitely ask him out yourself. It sounds like he's just very nervous or something and is hoping you will do it



superboyian
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Sep 2009
Age: 32
Gender: Male
Posts: 14,704
Location: London

13 Dec 2010, 4:42 pm

You can take the chance if you want but it would be easier if you wait for a few weeks to be sure, but who knows?


_________________
BACK in London…. For now.
Follow my adventures on twitter: @superboyian
Please feel free to help my aspie friend become a pilot: https://gofund.me/a9ae45b4


Taupey
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 24 Feb 2010
Age: 61
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,168
Location: Somewhere between juvenile and senile.

13 Dec 2010, 9:04 pm

MidlifeAspie wrote:
If you would say yes if he asked then just skip the awkwardness and ask him out yourself. I think this is what he is hoping for.
I agree, he's wanting you to ask him out for some reason. Ask him out for some coffee or lunch. He sounds like he is afraid that you will reject him. If anything you can at least be friends and see where it goes from there. :heart:


_________________
Whatever you think you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, magic and power in it. ~Goethe

Your Aspie score: 167 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 35 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie.


purplekitty
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 12 Dec 2010
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Posts: 17

14 Dec 2010, 1:48 am

He's already told you he's interested by asking twice if you're single. Since you didn't respond, express interest, or ask him to coffee, he's probably assumed you're not interested. You both need to stop being so shy. Just ask him out!



Daemonic-Jackal
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 15 Feb 2009
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 581
Location: Salford, United Kingdom

14 Dec 2010, 5:10 am

purplekitty wrote:
He's already told you he's interested by asking twice if you're single. Since you didn't respond, express interest, or ask him to coffee, he's probably assumed you're not interested. You both need to stop being so shy. Just ask him out!


100% this.


_________________
"Every cripple has his own way of walking. " ? Brendan Behan

http://www.facebook.com/YentonianCarlos


Stellar
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Mar 2010
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,249
Location: California

14 Dec 2010, 6:53 am

superboyian wrote:
You can take the chance if you want but it would be easier if you wait for a few weeks to be sure, but who knows?

This right here :) also try to ask him in a very disguised way what his answer would be if you did ask him out.