| When did you start wanting a normal social life? |
| I've always wanted a normal social life. |
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15% |
[ 10 ] |
| When I realized I didn't have one (state age) |
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9% |
[ 6 ] |
| Never. |
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24% |
[ 16 ] |
| I used to but I don't anymore. |
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21% |
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| Elementary School |
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3% |
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| Teenage years. |
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9% |
[ 6 ] |
| Adulthood |
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12% |
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| Other (explain) |
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6% |
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SilverSolace
Blue Jay
Joined: May 11, 2011
Posts: 77
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| When I realised how difficult or impossible it would be to get [a normal] one if I actually tried. |
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sfreyj
Snowy Owl
Joined: Sep 19, 2010
Age: 20
Posts: 153
Location: Australia
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I've never wanted one. I enjoy how things are and wouldn't want to induce too much change. From what I can gather about 'normal' social lives, they involve lots of alcohol, partying, and small talk, all of which I despise.
In short: I don't want to become what annoys me. |
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Bluefins
Phoenix
Joined: Aug 10, 2009
Age: 22
Posts: 975
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 3:51 pm Post subject: |
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| When I heard I should have one. Then I learned what it meant, and realized I didn't want it at all. |
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Ai_Ling
Phoenix
Joined: Nov 16, 2010
Age: 24
Posts: 1832
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 4:11 pm Post subject: |
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For the longest time, I just wanted 1 friend. Then around 16, I actually wanted a normal social life. When I started making friends at 18, it took me 4.5 yrs to achieve a normal social life which I had for 4 months then I graduated from college  , left 2000 miles back home. Back to not having a social life. I have a few friends that I see 2-3 times a month. Otherwise, I keep in contact with my 3 of them online and have a 2 good online friends. I guess I would have a normal social life if all my friends lived around my area. |
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lotuspuppy
Phoenix
Joined: Jan 15, 2008
Age: 24
Posts: 853
Location: On a journey to the center of the mind
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 4:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I wanted a social life ever since I was 16. Ever since then, I've arranged my whole life to get one. I won't say that effort failed completely, but it's been frustrating, to say the least. I'm now learning ways to be more comfortable with my introverted self. |
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MONKEY
Sunshine Groovetrip
Joined: Jan 04, 2009
Age: 20
Posts: 9775
Location: Stoke, England (sometimes :P)
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Pretty much since forever.
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Dots
Phoenix
Joined: Apr 23, 2010
Age: 29
Posts: 938
Location: Ontario
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I didn't realize that everyone wasn't as alone as I was until I was about 22. That was when I made my first group of friends and ever since then, I've felt like I needed people, socially. Sometimes I wish I could go back to that time before when I was fine all alone, because needing people is messy and scary. But I'm thankful for the friends I've made, and my social life is still far from normal. I don't know if I'll ever have the typical experience of my peer group.
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sixis
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Jun 08, 2011
Posts: 36
Location: Sleeping on The Edge of The World
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 6:45 pm Post subject: |
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What I perceive as a 'normal' social life, as in the kind of life the majority of people seem to be engaged in, is something I want no part of. Most popular group activities hold no interest for me. And then there's the seemingly inevitable drama which eventually develops, and which I've no clue how to deal with. Just the thought of socializing is enough to leave me drained.
Somewhere along the way I tried to have a more normal life, but just couldn't figure out how to make it work. Not being able to fit in left me somewhat depressed for awhile, until I learned to accept myself for who and what I was. I looked at the downside of a 'normal' life and compared that to the utter peace I found in solitude, and decided to stick with the latter. The crazy human that is me is all I can handle. I prefer not to be around a bunch of other ones.
(I'm really not a stuck-up snob, although the above may indicate otherwise. I'm just sayin'.) |
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mori_pastel
Sea Gull
Joined: May 12, 2011
Age: 21
Posts: 219
Location: GA, USA
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I put "I used to but now I don't" because there was a period of time that lasted roughly a year when I first started college that I had almost no social interaction beyond my immediate family and in-class discussions. This period taught me that being without peer interaction actually reduces my quality of life and leaves me mildly depressed, and as such I felt a strong desire to acquire a normal social life. I felt like I was failing socially both by my own standards and by my parents'. I didn't know about AS at the time.
Now I have a group of assigned friends and structured socialization through my fraternity. Knowing I have AS (or suspecting, as the case may be), I no longer desire for a "normal" social life because I understand why I never naturally had one and why having one now would be an unnecessary strain on my life. |
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Sweetleaf
Metalhead
Joined: Jan 07, 2011
Age: 23
Posts: 14801
Location: Somewhere in Colorado
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| Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 2:16 am Post subject: |
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| Well when I was a kid I kinda wished I could be normal so I could enjoy things like other people, but yeah that did not happen. And now I've had pleanty of bad experiances and just the general lack of a social life growing up seem to have caused a lot of issues. I would love to have friends but I can hardly trust anyone in general.......even close family members have me me wondering sometimes. So yeah I don't really want to be normal or have a totally normal life, but I don't exactly like lonliness either. |
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marshall
Under the whirlwind
Joined: Apr 15, 2007
Posts: 9187
Location: Western Michigan
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| Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 2:34 am Post subject: |
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| Being "normal" is quite beyond my mental comprehension. I can't imagine enjoying the stuff "normal" people enjoy. Just the thought fills my head with pain. |
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swbluto
System architect and nanobot commander
Joined: Feb 27, 2011
Age: 26
Posts: 2899
Location: In the Andes, counting the stars and wondering if one of them is home to another civilization
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| Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 2:49 am Post subject: |
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| I can't really recall a time when I actually desired a "normal social life". I have always desired having the ability to interact normally to achieve whatever desires I may have that necessarily involve social interaction and cooperation, but I never really desired a "social life" per se. The most of a "social life" I've ever wanted is a girlfriend, but that desire has been tempered by frustration with NTs, and petty NT females that seem to care about the silliest of things in particular. |
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cyberdad
Phoenix
Joined: Feb 22, 2011
Age: 45
Posts: 1614
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| swbluto wrote: | | petty NT females that seem to care about the silliest of things in particular. |
Tell me about it. Female consumerism and vanity is probably responsible for global warming and environmental degradation. I know you aren't supposed to say things like that though. |
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MyWorld
Deinonychus
Joined: Nov 13, 2008
Posts: 320
Location: I'm in ur kitchenz, eatin ur foodz
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| Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2011 3:17 am Post subject: Re: When did you start wanting a normal social life...if eve |
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| Chronos wrote: | | Some people with AS/ASD desperately want a normal social life and others are content without one. Where do you place? |
It varies from time to time for me. Sometimes I'm content with myself, other times I want to be more NT. |
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Verdandi
Miss Kitty Fantastico
Joined: Dec 08, 2010
Posts: 10179
Location: University of California Sunnydale (fictional location - Real location Olympia, WA)
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| cyberdad wrote: | | swbluto wrote: | | petty NT females that seem to care about the silliest of things in particular. |
Tell me about it. Female consumerism and vanity is probably responsible for global warming and environmental degradation. I know you aren't supposed to say things like that though. |
Especially since industrialization and excessive use of fossil fuels is actually at fault. |
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