| Are aspie kids more likely to suffer from child abuse? |
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Aspie1
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 Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 6:13 pm Post subject: Aspies and Child Abuse |
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| This thread is pretty much self-explanatory. Do you think aspie kids are more likely to be abused by their parents than NT kids. The term "abuse" includes all kinds: physical, verbal, and emotional. One possible cause of this is that an aspie child, with his/her out-of-the-ordinary development, is likely to cause frustration for parents (read: make them angry). And an angry person will often overreact, abusing the child in the process. |
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No way, it only happens in a few cases, most parents of kids with AS may be divorced but they're still lovely as i am friends with quite a few parents
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Starbuline
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 6:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, I can see how some people might get really frustrated with an AS child. |
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amerikasend
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 7:01 pm Post subject: |
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| solid wrote: | | No way, it only happens in a few cases, most parents of kids with AS may be divorced but they're still lovely as i am friends with quite a few parents |
What this kid said. I would figure only a small amount abuse their child. About the same as any other parent that abuses their child. |
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SteveK
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My father and mother have spoken about how LUCKY they were to have a child as well behaved as I was. STILL, they have yelled, etc... at me. My mother was practically torturing me emotionally. Some of that is aparantly because I am AS. Because of feelings, interests, reactions to stress, etc... If I was as some here describe themselves, it would have been torture on all involved, including myself.
Given that, though I haven't voted in the poll, I would have to say SURE!
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I think that AS kids and NT kids are equally abused. |
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Endersdragon
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 7:29 pm Post subject: |
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I think by actual parents it would be about equal but when you take into account babysitters and teachers and stuff they would tend to abuse aspies more (the aspie kid the sociopath babysits is the only one she is at all abusive too... at least physically).
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 9:09 pm Post subject: |
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My autistic sister and brother were horribly abused by my father. Back then, (the sixties) autism was relatively unheard of. He would get frustrated, and beat the stuffing out of both of them if they didn't behave the way he wanted them to. So, I would say YES.
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ADoyle
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I'd say so, especially if the parents are very curebie and think of their child as a burden. In extreme cases, these children are murdered by their "parents" or often from "therapies" such as chelation.
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 9:59 pm Post subject: |
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goomba
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:00 pm Post subject: Re: Aspies and Child Abuse |
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I did experience abuse during my childhood, but I try not to think about it in detail. When I do, bad things happen. I have been abused a little by old friends and boyfriends too, but I've handled it. A parent could be abusive towards an AS/autistic child because she has little patience, maturity, or ability to deal with this child. That same parent could be loving towards an NT and nurture this NT child accordingly. That describes my relationship with my mother. I was nothing at all like what she expected, and I was her first child. She was an uneducated 20 year old, so I can imagine she did not approach the situation with maturity nor with wisdom. I know she did not. My father - an aspie - was distant and obedient to my mother.
My mother was responsible for most of the abuse I endured, except she was not directly responsible for the sexual abuse. But she wouldn't allow me to get help, even when I got authorities involved. During sex education, I was taught that no one should be touching my private parts, and if someone was touching my private parts, then I should tell the teacher. I did just that. My mother screamed and cursed and got her way. Her special ed/autistic/"retarded" child didn't understand, you see. I was not allowed to receive sex education in school any more, since it gave me "ideas". My brother and sister would pick on me and beat me up, because my mother would encourage them to do so. My ribcage is malformed from the time my brother jumped on my chest and stomach areas repeatedly. I couldn't breath for at least a minute and I thought I was going to die. After being able to breathe again, I asked to go to the hospital but my mother would not take me. I am 40lbs overweight but my ribcage juts out more than on a skinny person. My mom would supervise verbal lashing and add her commentary, giving suggestions on what my siblings could say. My siblings were younger, but much larger than I. I was the only slim kid in a family of fatties. My mother did not like me at all, I think, and it was evident that she favoured her other kids.
My mother does have mental problems, and I try my best to understand her and accept the past instead of being angry. My mom was diagnosed with OCPD during a brief psychiatric evaluation, but I think she is more Borderline personality disordered and possibly Histrionic personality disordered. She was a young woman who married the first man with money that she encountered. She confessed this to me. She says that her new marriage coming up will be beautiful and extravagant, because this is her first true love. Some of the money for her New York wedding is from her children's now non-existent college fund. Plastic surgery and fancy weddings is more important than education, I guess. She had 10 extra-marital affairs that is currently known of. Her affairs were discovered because she couldn't help but brag to her co-workers. These co-workers told her kids, but only after my mother and father divorced. She would tell the family lies by saying she was going on vacation to meet some internet friends, or some other bullshit story.
Anyway, I'm being a whiner as per usual. It's a little strange to write all this up. But I have to accept it, because it was the cards I was dealt. I think I can credit my mother for not giving into my autistic ways when I was younger, and being just about as stubborn as I could be by constantly telling me what was the right or wrong way to act. I think... because of my upbringing and "acting" (once I understood why I needed to act differently) for my mother, I have learnt how to be fairly NT, so long as I am confident.
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Growing up as a child with undiagnosed AS I was subjected to bullying/abuse at home and at school. My mother verbally and at times physically abused me. |
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MrMeaner
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| Posted: Thu Jan 25, 2007 11:15 pm Post subject: |
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| i think my parents were a little hard on me compared to how they were to my sister..not really abuse, but more like 'oversteppin' the discipline' a little..with me, it happened from time to time, when i did something bad, when a little 'time out' would've been more appropriate..i think it's because they didn't really understand me, and that i didn't act as normally as they probably wished i did..i'm sure they meant well and did their best..but their 'discipline' could've improved a great deal.. |
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| Posted: Fri Jan 26, 2007 12:58 am Post subject: |
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| I wasn't abused, but I was neglected physically and emotionally. My parents never made me bathe, never showed me proper dentalcare, never took me to the doctor when I was sick. I just ended up running feral around the neighbourhood after school until I was about 13, at which point I learnt to take care of my physical appearance. |
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paulsinnerchild
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I was never abused. The nearest I got to getting abused was by school bullies but was never abused at home. In fact is was quite the opposite. My mother in particular did her utmost to get to the bottom of what was really troubling me and I went to a lists of pediatricians and child phycholoigists as long as your arm and I got all the loving attention a kid could get.
But I dread to think what could have happened if I was born into a family like many here in Australia who believes sporting success is the be all and end all. And with my terrible sporting skills, the only reason why I would be spared a bullet like a greyhound that consistantly underperforms is because it is against the law to shoot your kids. |
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