archraphael
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 Posted: Sun Dec 18, 2011 9:49 pm Post subject: A guy wants to sex me |
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So I'm still a virgin but thru the friends I've made lately this guy in 'the circle' wants to be my fb
He's not 'sexy' by any means tho has a kind of wisdom. I don't know him well so I said I'll think on it.
So the Q is should I keep 'thinking on it' or just 'do it' cause at this point im so repressed and I got a really bad desire that is plaguing my mind 
So.. this guy.. or should I keep waiting |
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Chickems
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Age: 21
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Well thats really up to you. Do you feel ready, is it something you really want to do? Most importantly do you feel comfortable with this person? You barley know him, make sure hes not a creep and make sure hes not going to harm you in any way. Use condoms, if he dosent have condoms you can buy them yourself at a gas station. I had to my first time:P
Overall sex is really not a big deal, its a natural thing for humans to do and nothing to be ashamed of. However you have to want to do it and be comfortable with it and the person you are doing it with. If you get any odd or untrustworthy vibes from this guy since you dont know him I suggest you steer clear from him and find someone youre more comfortable with. |
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cathylynn
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Location: northeastern US
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all i can say is that it's a big decision. curiosity is one reason to have sex. make sure you discuss birth control and sexually transmitted diseases before you have sex with anyone. if he's not a virgin, he should be tested for HIV and hep B + C before you guys have sex.
there's a great book on women's sexuality called "our bodies, ouselves". if you read the relevant parts of it before you have sex, you'll be more likely to understand how to enjoy the experience to the fullest. don't expect the guy to know how to please you if you don't know how to please yourself. |
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purchase
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| My way of deciding major matters: if I have to ask, I shouldn't do it. Any misgivings and I don't do it. Of course that's the extreme approach coming from someone very easily emotionally wounded. Ignore if not pertinent. |
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oceandrop
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Better not to. You barely know him and don't give any good reasons for (a) why you want to have sex now, and (b) why you want to have sex with this guy in particular.
Why not wait and lose it to someone you know/love. You don't want to get hurt. |
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riley
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| Posted: Mon Dec 19, 2011 12:22 am Post subject: Re: A guy wants to sex me |
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| archraphael wrote: | So I'm still a virgin but thru the friends I've made lately this guy in 'the circle' wants to be my fb
He's not 'sexy' by any means tho has a kind of wisdom. I don't know him well so I said I'll think on it.
So the Q is should I keep 'thinking on it' or just 'do it' cause at this point im so repressed and I got a really bad desire that is plaguing my mind
So.. this guy.. or should I keep waiting |
FB as in your f- buddy.. did he actually say that?
I'm inclined to agree with Purchase. If you have to ask then don't do it. If you get used, pregnant, slandered, an STD, raped or just regret it you're the one who'll have to live with the consequences. If you're just horny maybe take care of it yourself. |
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unduki
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Proceed with caution. If any guy tries to press you, tell him to take a hike. You could get stuck with a jerk who will never care about your feelings. Live life for the long haul. At the very least, use protection if you choose to just do it.
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SylviaLynn
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Agreed.
Just as an aside, please think about buying condoms in a store rather than a gas station. Who knows how long they've been there or what quality they are? They can degrade with time. Broken condoms are not good.
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sufi
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| Posted: Tue Dec 20, 2011 10:01 pm Post subject: |
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I am the old grandma person saying,
Don't Do It, Bad Idea
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kahlua
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| Do you really want to waste something so intimate and personal on a guy you don't really like ? |
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InTheDeepEnd
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Location: Southern United States
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| You didn't say how old you are, which is a very important issue. Don't be in any hurry to lose your virginity. I'm 37. Didn't lose my virginity till I was 20, not because I didn't get a chance, but because I chose not to. I have only had sex with one person I wasn't closely emotionally attached to/in a relationship with, and I kind of wish I hadn't had that experience. It feels so empty looking back on it. I could do without that memory. Besides, sex is sooo much better when you have that emotional connection. I mean literally your body responds in a totally different way. I wish for you that your first time be that kind of experience rather than a strictly physical activity. Do you really want to be naked with this guy on top of you still wondering "should I be doing this?" |
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gemstone123
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Location: UK
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| Posted: Sat Dec 24, 2011 10:36 am Post subject: |
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fb as in an f-buddy? He seriously said he wants to be your f-buddy? Personally I'd find that demeaning. It's totally up to you but it doesn't sound like a good idea. I mean if you're going to lose your virginity it's probably better losing it with someone who thinks more highly of you. 
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slovaksiren
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Location: Northern Michigan
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I say no, you should wait until you are in a committed relationship with someone. It will feel a lot better knowing that you didn't waste your virginity on someone that you don't know well and isn't really that "sexy"
You deserve a lot better. |
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