dianthus
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Tequila I've seen your posts around here, and the way you treat other people and I don't want to have anything to do with you. Leave me alone.
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Tequila
Trust the people!
Joined: Feb 26, 2006
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Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Wed Jan 11, 2012 10:07 pm Post subject: |
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| dianthus wrote: | | Tequila I've seen your posts around here, and the way you treat other people and I don't want to have anything to do with you. Leave me alone. |
Fair enough; your loss. |
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dreamy
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Mar 29, 2006
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| Personally I am more vulnerable, because of reasons already given, like not recognizing some signs as quickly. However, since I was young, I knew I had some difficulties, so I developed this extra thick layer of "paranoia". (I suspect my parents also wanted to be triple certain I understood certain dangers.) Not only regarding sex, or people, but some other things I am extra cautious about or avoid. It protects me, but sometimes gets in the way. |
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Onyxaxe
Pileated woodpecker
Joined: Dec 19, 2011
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| I understand where this is coming from but I have a switch, I think I'd go postal before anything got too serious. I also punch like a mentally retarded person. |
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169Kitty
Sea Gull
Joined: Dec 25, 2011
Posts: 214
Location: Minnesota
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I was defiantly vulnerable. I didn't have any friends so when a guy my oldest brothers age moved in and paid attention to me I was thrilled. You can imagine what happened next. I already had a tendency not to talk about anything bothering me.
Now I don't place myself in high risk situations. I don't go to bars, I don't drink, I don't do drugs and I don't hang out with people who do. I don't go outside alone at night except to drive somewhere or take out garbage. I keep my door locked at all times. I won't live in areas where there tends to be a lot of drunk people. Around my town it seems like all the sexual assaults are done by people the victim knows or where drugs/alcohol are involved.
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lostonearth35
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Joined: Jan 06, 2010
Age: 39
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Location: Canada
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I hated almost everything sexual at a teenager and I still do, so if a guy so much as put his hand on me I would scream and freak out.
"No means no" was a rule I followed to nearly a fault. Most boys did not find me attractive anyway because I was really fat and only cared about drawing cartoons. But one time I had gone out for lunch and as I was walking back to the school a boy and his friends came up behind me and started saying he wanted to stick his big fat d***k up my a** and other vulgar, disgusting things, and then he put his arm around me. I screamed at him and ran to the school and told the principal everything. I never saw that pervert again, maybe he got expelled. But I suppose some other girls with AS might be more naive and easily fall for sweet talk from a boy, especially if they are growing up without a father figure to begin with. |
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unduki
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 3:18 pm Post subject: |
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I lost my virginity against my will but I doubt anyone would call it rape. I think aspie girls are easier to take advantage of. Boys, especially in their teenage years, are supremely horny and some of them can't stop once their engines are revved. They didn't call it date rape in the 70's and sexual harassment was a term we were just learning. Since then, I've been pressured into situations I was uncomfortable with. Then, I was married for 20years. He cheated and gave me an STD, which finally woke me up to doing something.
What makes me sickest is how long he was cheating, some of it right in front of me, and I was CLUELESS. He kept my family away so there was no one to tell me.
I dated a few men after the divorce but they're all the same except with Viagra... gross. I've been single now for 13 years. I could date, I get asked, but I always make an excuse. For now, I'd rather be single and alone than go through a betrayal like that again.
Now, if it was George Clooney asking, I could change my mind...
To the younger girls, I can only say proceed with great caution. Get yourself a wing-woman, or gay wing-man you can trust.
Get a dog.
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Tequila
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Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 3:21 pm Post subject: |
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| unduki wrote: | | I lost my virginity against my will but I doubt anyone would call it rape. |
The very definition of rape is "sex forced on a person against their will". |
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unduki
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 3:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Tequila wrote: | | unduki wrote: | | I lost my virginity against my will but I doubt anyone would call it rape. |
The very definition of rape is "sex forced on a person against their will". |
Yyyyeah... so, what's your point?
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Tequila
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 3:42 pm Post subject: |
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| unduki wrote: | | Yyyyeah... so, what's your point? |
The point is that if you were raped, you were raped, and I would call your experience rape. An awful lot of other people would too. |
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Surfman
beyond human
Joined: Aug 02, 2010
Age: 50
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Location: Homeward bound
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As an aspie male I have over the years received mental and emotional abuse from a few women close to me
In retrospect, those who were abusive, had been abused and/or were from abusive families |
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unduki
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 4:10 pm Post subject: |
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| Tequila wrote: | | unduki wrote: | | Yyyyeah... so, what's your point? |
The point is that if you were raped, you were raped, and I would call your experience rape. An awful lot of other people would too. |
Yes, but as I wrote, in the 70's, no one but me would have called it rape. Women were blamed so we kept our mouths shut. |
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Tequila
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Location: Lancashire, UK
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 4:13 pm Post subject: |
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| unduki wrote: | | Yes, but as I wrote, in the 70's, no one but me would have called it rape. Women were blamed so we kept our mouths shut. |
I understand that but you said...
| unduki wrote: | | I lost my virginity against my will but I doubt anyone would call it rape. |
...and I did call it rape.
Yes, attitudes towards rape/sexual assault have changed a lot in the past few decades. The police used to treat rape victims appallingly; this has now changed an awful lot here. |
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Zhane
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Joined: Jan 22, 2012
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Location: SUNSHINE STATE
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 5:08 pm Post subject: |
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| It breaks my heart to say that I also have similar stories and I can honestly say from speaking with a male aspie that they are also abused as well. I have major trust issue when it comes to relationships in general and it's hard to build it back up once it's taken away from you. It has cause be to have major anxiety issues. |
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unduki
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| Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 10:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Zhane wrote: | | It breaks my heart to say that I also have similar stories and I can honestly say from speaking with a male aspie that they are also abused as well. I have major trust issue when it comes to relationships in general and it's hard to build it back up once it's taken away from you. It has cause be to have major anxiety issues. |
You're absolutely right Zhane. I know 4 autie guys and over the past 35 years, each one of them suffered through miserable marriages until the women using them threw them away. It was like watching a horrible trainwreck each time. I haven't seen two of them for awhile. I think they became hermits.
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