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Keeping a job - what does this mean?
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:49 am    Post subject: Keeping a job - what does this mean? Reply with quote

I have never had trouble getting a job, and when people talk about "keeping a job" I have always thought I have had no trouble in this area either, because I have never been fired. But when I think about it from a different angle, I do have trouble keeping jobs because I leave them. I was in one job for around three years but apart from that I struggle to last a year before I feel the need to move on. There are various reasons, but one of them is that I don't feel capable (and often feel "lost"), despite being told my work is of high quality, and another is that I haven't found my niche, and I desperately want a job that I really like, if not love.

Is this part of what people mean when they say those with AS may have trouble "keeping a job", or does it only refer to being let go?

Anyone else have this issue?
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think it is when someone keeps getting fired. I have done the same thing you are doing for decades. There are a few jobs that I have stayed with for three years, but most of them are only 6 months or so. Then I get laid off and stay home for a while. As a temp it helped me to be a full time mom for months at a time. Even after my divorce.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 9:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a history of staying in low skilled jobs for years and years, to the point that I get teased about it from my employers even. The reason for this is I get in a comfortable rut and I don't like change. Whenever I am faced with job hunting I go through massive anxiety and am virtually paralyzed when I have to talk to a potential employer. I am quiet and polite and non confrontational so I don't have issues with getting along with co-workers. After a while they just ignore me.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 11:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It may be easier to consider whether you have trouble staying employed.

If you quit a job without having new employment to go into (or some other plan such as studying) then you do have problems keeping employed. If you quit to go to do a new job you don't have too much of a problem.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 2:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think it means where you work somewhere for a while. I consider myself keeping a job because I haven't gotten fired and I have stayed at my jobs until I have quit or gotten laid off. I don't not keep a job for a few months and then quit and my job ending because I got a new job or because school ended doesn't count. I worked in the high school library and then I finished school so my job ended too.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2012 6:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

xmh wrote:
It may be easier to consider whether you have trouble staying employed.

If you quit a job without having new employment to go into (or some other plan such as studying) then you do have problems keeping employed. If you quit to go to do a new job you don't have too much of a problem.

Interesting. I think most of the time I have quit my job before having another one to go to, but have always found one quickly, perhaps even before my notice time is up at my current job.

I think my job quitting is more to do with my "bridge-burning" tendencies, and feeling in a rut and/or lost, rather than being incapable. But I definitely have trouble staying in a job long-term and even if that's not part of "keeping a job", it's an issue in itself.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2012 9:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

xmh wrote:

If you quit a job without having new employment to go into (or some other plan such as studying) then you do have problems keeping employed.

Not in my case, at least. I'd rather stay unemployed for some time than keep doing a job that I hate and/or is damaging to my health. I just need to be more selective before accepting a job.
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 11, 2012 11:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have never held a job where I was an employee for more than 9 months in my life. I have only been fired twice.
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PostPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2012 4:44 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

tabby676 wrote:
I have never held a job where I was an employee for more than 9 months in my life. I have only been fired twice.

Hi tabby, is there a recurring reason why you leave your jobs? Or is it different each time?
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PostPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2012 10:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

yellowtamarin wrote:

Hi tabby, is there a recurring reason why you leave your jobs? Or is it different each time?


there are a few that would fall under shades of the same reason i.e. being harassed/picked on/etc. by co-workers or bosses.
a few that I left for ethical reasons i.e. my last bar tending position (which will be the last one ever) my one mainstream corporate job, but most have their own rationelle that makes a great deal of sense at the time, often involves burning the hell out of some bridges and moving on.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 16, 2012 11:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a very difficult time staying employed. I am the same as you, as in I'm always praised for my high quality work, but after a while I start to feel...antsy I guess? The longest job I had was in high school, and that's only because I worked for my mom and she wouldn't let me do anything else.
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 17, 2012 2:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes I think it also means an inability to stay in your job. I have had over 20 jobs in my life and have left all of them within a couple of years. I get bored and need a new challenge. So 'keeping a job' must also mean your ability to commit and stay loyal to an employer. However I see my leaving mostly because I get tired of seeing the same faces every day.
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