factotum666
Blue Jay
Joined: Nov 18, 2011
Posts: 99
Location: Las Vegas suburb
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 Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 5:33 am Post subject: On Pain |
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OK ... we are all different. We really are. I only remember having real pain once when my teeth shifted after I had braces put on. And I have had some pretty painful situations, cuting off a thumb with a saw, sking into a tree, getting shot. You know, the usual boy stuff.  Yes I am a boy. Of course, the lack of pain immediately after the trauma may have been shock, but after sking into the tree, I skied on an injured swolen leg for three days. The point is, that I am not sure how strong the aspi - pain thing is.
Back to the point. Do research. Sex should not involve pain unless you enjoy pain. And you should want and enjoy sex. You may wish to visit http://doubleclickheaven.com, or http://clitical.com.
Also have a complete physical. If none of this helps, get another physical from a different doctor. Have a blood workup, to see if all your chemicals are good. What is a toxic level for some people is a necessary level for others. I need 75 mg of zinc a day to keep my skin from rotting. My blood work shows a perfectly middle of the normal range for my zinc levels, but 75 mg a day is considered long term toxic. You may have some special sensitivities that throw off your chemistry or hormones, and may need to experiment. Try riding your diet of processed foods, and fructose. Experiment with different things that might affect your hormones etc. It may take time, but you are kind of stuck with your body, and if a change of diet works, then that is better than pills and/or an absent or painful sex life yes?
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justalouise
Velociraptor
Joined: Jan 21, 2012
Posts: 433
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I had to have regular sex for about 6 months before it stopped hurting altogether.
Like some other people have said, it's definitely important to be fully aroused and lubricated ahead of time. Also, I find that the friction from sex rubs me sorta raw after a while--I usually don't like having actual penetration for more than 15 or 20 minutes, so I do lots of other stuff too. Sex is so much more than "P-in-V"!
Oh, and someone said something about it not being as good if you don't love your partner. That must definitely be different for everyone, because I've slept with quite a few people, only 2 or 3 of which I would say I was in love with to any degree beyond friendship. And the majority of the time, it was a ton of fun and super hot! |
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tabby676
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jan 04, 2012
Age: 35
Posts: 55
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Sex was painful for me for a while, and it still can be on occasion, (though this is quite rare now).
causes of pain for me:
1. not being fully lubricated (solution: more foreplay and/or lube)
2. not being relaxed (solution: taking it slow till I got more comfortable with it, taking control, staying "present")
3. having piv sex WAY too much (solution: having PIV sex less)
4. latex sensitivity (solution: different BC methods)
5. spermicide sensitivity (solution: avoided spermicide)
6. uncomfortable angle/position (solution: change angle/position)
7. difficulty with pelvic floor muscle spasms/control (solution: fun factory smart balls) |
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justalouise
Velociraptor
Joined: Jan 21, 2012
Posts: 433
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| blackberryplum wrote: | It is very uncomfortable. I am terrified of my husband b/c he gets n a rage when I don't submit. I submit for my kids because we need a home and they need a father.
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I have to stay strong for my kids no matter what. |
Do you have family or friends that you can turn to? A job? Community resources to help you care for your kids? Your husband is abusive and the best thing you could do for your kids, if it all possible, is for all of you to get out of that situation. |
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