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As long as we are compatible and in love...I really don't mind if they are NT or Aspie.
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DamienScott
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I've only ever dated NT women. Mostly because I have yet to meet any Aspie girls. I did see one that was 18 on this dating site just saying hey and talking about aspie stuff. She didn't reply to my first message, and I sent her another one after she mentioned some guy just wanting to use her for sex on her profile. She responded and told me she appriciated what I had told her and then promptly deleted her account. I just ran into her on there again a few days ago and her new profile is completely different. No mention of AS and a lot of generic NT hubbabaloo. I have yet to message her again, mostly because I think that our likes/dislikes would probably clash.. she's a little too preppy for my tastes anyway.
Now if I ever met an aspie like Sweetleaf IRL things may be different. XD
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Bison554
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| DamienScott wrote: | | I've only ever dated NT women. Mostly because I have yet to meet any Aspie girls. |
Yep. Although I suspect that I probably have a few undiagnosed friends...
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DamienScott
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| Bison554 wrote: | | DamienScott wrote: | | I've only ever dated NT women. Mostly because I have yet to meet any Aspie girls. |
Yep. Although I suspect that I probably have a few undiagnosed friends...
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Same here, one of my best friend's g/f really seems like an aspie to me. She's super antisocial and moody at times, just like most of us can be. Even he thinks she is. I know he has mentioned to her how much we have in common when it comes to stuff like that. I don't know if he has ever formally mentioned Asperger's Syndrome to her or not though. Plus she has Lupus so I dare not worry her with another "imperfection".
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1000Knives
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| RobotGreenAlien2 wrote: | | What the hell guys. She was a little bit self depricating and you all took it as an insult towords you and chose to attack her. Talk about self centered and touchy. |
Indeed.
For me, I don't really think I'd prefer an "NT" partner, but I'd prefer a girl without excessive self esteem issues and social anxiety. I have enough problems with that sorta stuff with myself, and as a guy, I'd have to take my partner's problems upon me, not just emotionally, but tangibly as well. So, as far as a girl being NT or AS, I wouldn't care, if she was, say, obsessed with trains, but I would want her to be able to keep herself as composed as I am in public. Basically, I don't think it fair to expect MORE from a girl than I am, but at the same time, I don't want less, either.
But yeah, I don't want a girl with significant anxiety and other self esteem issues that I'd have to bare the burden for, that's basically my thing. AS or NT isn't really part of the equation, but that is.
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 6:49 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer NT partner |
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| namaste wrote: | I was attracted to a NT guy
He seemed so confident and smart
everything which I am not
Would you prefer to marry a NT or a Aspie??? |
Who gives a sh**? I've known NTs who are as dumb as sh**. He seems confident and smart? Yes in cultures "confidence" plays a huge role but I wouldn't necessarily call it smart. If so, you'll have to define what being "smart" means to you.
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 7:15 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer NT partner |
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| MissConstrue wrote: | | namaste wrote: | I was attracted to a NT guy
He seemed so confident and smart
everything which I am not
Would you prefer to marry a NT or a Aspie??? |
Who gives a sh**? I've known NTs who are as dumb as sh**. He seems confident and smart? Yes in cultures "confidence" plays a huge role but I wouldn't necessarily call it smart. If so, you'll have to define what being "smart" means to you. |
well he came from a solid family where his parents were great support, he had lots of friends, social connections, he was good in talking and assertive
all this is minus in me weak family, no touch with family, no social connections, poor verbal and body language.
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 7:31 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer NT partner |
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| namaste wrote: | | MissConstrue wrote: | | namaste wrote: | I was attracted to a NT guy
He seemed so confident and smart
everything which I am not
Would you prefer to marry a NT or a Aspie??? |
Who gives a sh**? I've known NTs who are as dumb as sh**. He seems confident and smart? Yes in cultures "confidence" plays a huge role but I wouldn't necessarily call it smart. If so, you'll have to define what being "smart" means to you. |
well he came from a solid family where his parents were great support, he had lots of friends, social connections, he was good in talking and assertive
all this is minus in me weak family, no touch with family, no social connections, poor verbal and body language. |
Sorry to come off harsh like that. Perhaps I'm self projecting. I've often felt the same way though my sister and screwed up dad who got sober helped me in some of these areas. I may never be able to be "socialy perfect" but at least I learned and tried. As far as relationships are concerned, I'm still single and probably for some of the reasons you've brought up will always be. We all have our "defaults" though sometimes in this day and age I feel like people do. Not sure what to say except conform or find a middle path so to speak. Most of us can never find total satisfaction in ourselves or other people... at least not in my personal experiences.
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| I prefer NTs, no offense, but I don't want Aspie kids which I most likely will get if I marry an Aspie. |
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Asp-Z
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 11:13 am Post subject: |
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| 1814 wrote: | | I prefer NTs, no offense, but I don't want Aspie kids which I most likely will get if I marry an Aspie. |
Because the only way to have Aspie kids is for both the parents to be Aspie?  |
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1814
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 11:17 am Post subject: |
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| The probability gets lower at least. |
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Asp-Z
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 11:21 am Post subject: |
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| 1814 wrote: | | The probability gets lower at least. |
Not necessarily. |
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 11:25 am Post subject: Re: Do you prefer NT partner |
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| namaste wrote: | | MissConstrue wrote: | | namaste wrote: | I was attracted to a NT guy
He seemed so confident and smart
everything which I am not
Would you prefer to marry a NT or a Aspie??? |
Who gives a sh**? I've known NTs who are as dumb as sh**. He seems confident and smart? Yes in cultures "confidence" plays a huge role but I wouldn't necessarily call it smart. If so, you'll have to define what being "smart" means to you. |
well he came from a solid family where his parents were great support, he had lots of friends, social connections, he was good in talking and assertive
all this is minus in me weak family, no touch with family, no social connections, poor verbal and body language. |
I would actually prefer a partner like that because I'm extremity emotionally supportive. I think an NT like that would be my ideal because my personality in a relationship is opposite of the stereotypical Aspie's in a relationship. My 2nd girlfriend was kind of an extreme version of the stereotypical Aspie girl & she broke up with me claiming that she was too withdrawn & independent to handle a relationship with anyone & that I was too clingy, needy & deponent. I have bad luck trying to get in relationship with NTs thou partly due to my Aspie issues & sense my relationship personality is opposite of the stereotypical Aspie's; I have a much smaller chance of finding someone. I'm basically looking for a girl who is willing to give me a chance & will try to make a relationship work with me. My Aspie girl did not try & she took charge of our relationship & our relationship was very one-sided as a result. I'm basically searching for someone who will try to be my equal partner be it NT or Aspie or something else
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1814
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| Asp-Z wrote: | | 1814 wrote: | | The probability gets lower at least. |
Not necessarily. |
No, when NT genes mix with Aspie genes, the probability should be 50%.
My X used to tell me that if we were to get a baby, she hoped it would be as handsome and smart as me and having her social skills..  |
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Asp-Z
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 12:20 pm Post subject: |
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| 1814 wrote: | | No, when NT genes mix with Aspie genes, the probability should be 50%. |
Genetic science isn't that simple... |
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