Joe90
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Do you find certain things people talk about boring? I know some Aspies are boring when we talk about a special interest, but I mean when you're in a room full of people and they all get talking about something boring, what would you, as an individual consider boring?
I find women boring when they start talking about what food they've eaten. My mum often starts listing every food she ate throughout the day, in every little detail, because it is related to her weight concern.
Also I find people boring when they talk about work, unless I've been in their work environment myself. If I haven't, I find it hard to picture what they're talking about in my mind, so I start feeling bored.
Sometimes it depends. I can get into a good conversation about what I've eaten or what somebody's done at work, etc. But generally I find these boring, especially when people mention it every day and you practically go through the same thing.
What sort of conversational topics do you find boring?
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Hmm, well I find sports talk boring, especially golf talk.
And I love kids but I hate when I am talking to someone who has kids and that's ALL they talk about.
Its boring when women talk about what he/she said. I sense tension in gossipy type conversations and it makes me uneasy.
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| Pretty much anything not related to my special interests. |
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I find people who talk about cars very boring. I can drive but I just have no interest in cars themselves. I once failed a job interview when the partners of the business asked me what car I would buy with a large salary. Cue blank expression from me, feeble excuse about not liking cars and a semi-panic attack. Needless to say I wasn't a suitable candidate anyway but this was long before I'd ever heard of AS or identified as such 
I also agree about the kid thing, but seeing as I talk about my 11 week old son quite a bit I'm probably a little guilty of that too. Still doesn't stop me losing interest as soon as someone else mentions their kids though.
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I don't necessarily find any topic boring per se, these days. I try to go along in any conversation I get in and contribute if I have anything to say about it, and simply listen if I know nothing about it but the person in front of me does.
But a pet peeve of mine is conversation about work, study, or trivial things that go on around the house. I find that, usually, people whom I've just met at a social gathering or wherever, will start conversation with a question like 'Where do you work and/or study?' The frustrating thing is that if I answer that I'm working at a factory or as a cleaner (in the past) or when I say that I don't study, and don't have ambitions to follow any higher schooling, for most people the conversation ends right then and there, and they'll turn to another person to talk to. If you get what I mean. So, just because I'm happy with simple manual labour, and am not interested in a college degree, apparently means that I cannot possibly know something about, oh I dunno, classical mythology, linguistics, prehistoric animals, or have an opinion on literature or politics. Ugh, here ends the rant, sorry, I got carried away.
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Something I do to get interested in conversations is to analyse through a personal interest. For example, I am interested in colors. So if someone talk about clothes, I will try to know what are the colors. Same could be done about cars or about anything with color. I am also interested in economics. You can easily the link with economic questions when someone talks about buying and working. In fact, you can fill many conversations with special interests without imposing it. Just it is your manner to see that thing. Of course, this may not work if there are too many people that follow mental patterns linked to the subject. In this case, I have a tendency to be sad to be out, but well I just don't like some topics, so I don't get involved. Most of the time, it is ok. You are not obliged to participate to any discussion. You can stay there and think of something else, or go away. I someone ask you a question, you can play with this by say "oh cool I have got some attention, what could I say" and then say anything you like. They will see you as a clown, but it is ok.
| MusicIsLife2Me wrote: | | Hmm, well I find sports talk boring, especially golf talk. |
I guess you can try to find if there are prime numbers in the scores... 
| Quote: | | And I love kids but I hate when I am talking to someone who has kids and that's ALL they talk about. |
Oh yes, this can be deadly boring.
| Quote: | | Its boring when women talk about what he/she said. I sense tension in gossipy type conversations and it makes me uneasy. |
This terrible because it forces you indirectly to think in social terms. |
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1. Wrong information.
I get bored by wrong information that serves no other purpose than sloppily pretending to know-it-all when someone obviously doesn't know a thing and doesn't know how to put on a convincing façade and play the social game in a refined and manipulative way.
2. Rather than a specific topic, it's the "how" that can bore me.
It's how people talk that I can't help but feel bored by. If I cannot join in because of my autism and their communication style, I get bored easily. I want to be in on the fun, not be excluded because of how they''re different from me and I'm different from them.
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i love my boyfriend soo much, the other day he said *driveldriveldrivel* on my facebook wall, that's so sweet, isn't that sweet
Here is how i cooked this thing that you didn't ask about.... |
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Cars
Football
Fashion
Facebook
Twitter
How wasted someone got at their last night out.
Really most conversations revolving around drinking.
What somebody's supercute/gifted children are doing.
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Facespace
Twitter
Football
Soaps
Holidays in tourist resorts
The minutiae of the lives of others (who I am not interested in)
Parents talking about their kiddiewinks
And so on. |
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2012 7:05 pm Post subject: Conversational topics you find boring. |
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I get bored with people who talk about the footy AFL I don't mind watching it but when people talk about it its so boring.
Relationships is another one that is so boring which includes celebraties marriages breaking up .
People talking about their babies. |
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Almost everything. I think it's my problem though.
I'm quite good at hijacking conversations, which solves the problem one way or another.
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My NT friend (he doesn't know about me) is heavily into computers and we also team up constantly for pub quizzes [we won tonight] but he can talk endlessly about sport and that bores me but he knows that, he knows I can talk endlessly about many of the science subjects but we relate on that level, but to say one clear cut topic we are on polar opposites is hard; probably girls lol
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| Cars, sports, mortage and other payments people made and many other things. Next question: How do you change topics when bored or leave when people won't end conversations? If this should be a new post, just let me know. |
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| OneStepBeyond wrote: | i love my boyfriend soo much, the other day he said *driveldriveldrivel* on my facebook wall, that's so sweet, isn't that sweet
Here is how i cooked this thing that you didn't ask about.... |
Me too for #2. #1 I can stand if it's out of character for the boyfriend but if to my knowledge he's always doing really sweet things there's not much of a story there. |
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