jpr11011
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 Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:16 pm Post subject: How to Flirt? |
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Ok I really like a NT guy whom I have been IMing and texting for over a month. He goes to the high school near mine (mine is all-girls) and I know for sure he is who he says he is. He's really sweet and he's been there in times bad already (had a rough month).
How can I best let him know that I'm VERY interested in him?
Nota Bene: He always texts first and does say goodnight when we are done texting.
Thank you! Sorry this is awkwardly phrased; I'm a bit dizzy today thanks to another condition I have.
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Tequila
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:23 pm Post subject: |
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Send him a link to this thread.
You probably won't understand if he flirts back anyway so you might as well ask him - though be prepared to not like the answer. |
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emlion
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Tell him. Outright. I like you. |
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jpr11011
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:24 pm Post subject: |
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Too cowardly to do that 
Thanks though  What could I do over text to dissemble that I like him?
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AQ 37
Severe inattentive ADD, responds well with Concerta
Spectrum Kid Problems Tumblr: http://spectrumproblems.tumblr.com/ |
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Tequila
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:27 pm Post subject: |
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| jpr11011 wrote: | | Too cowardly to do that |
Then you're not going to know.
You could always ask him in a roundabout way, and from what he says you can infer a rejection/acceptance without actually doing so. You have to be careful how you phrase it though.
If you're successful, tell yon man he's a lucky bastard.  |
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CosTransform
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 4:58 pm Post subject: |
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Invite him home on dinner and tell him after a while that you love him. Or eat out if parents is a problem.
Something like "You are the most wonderful guy I know, and I love you very much", "I want to spend time together with you" etc..
And don't forget to use condoms if sex happens. |
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tronist
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 5:37 pm Post subject: |
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if hes been texting you and contacting you constantly, hes probably interested in you, too.
if you want to show him that you are interested, stop letting him contact you first all the time! personally, this drives me nuts. its hard to think someone really cares to talk to you when they never make the first effort to do so. if you make an effort to contact him first, he'll likely appreciate it very much.
also, can you hang out with him? just ask! |
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Ghosters
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 6:01 pm Post subject: |
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| Why not text him first? Something like 'Morning/Evening beautiful?' I think that's quite explict that you like him. Also, just ask him out. If he's been texting you this long, he's clearly interested. Go somewhere that you'll feel comfortable. So, for example, if you're not great at chit-chat, go see a movie. |
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Tequila
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 6:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Ghosters wrote: | | So, for example, if you're not great at chit-chat, go see a movie. |
Choose the movie carefully. Don't get two tickets to see Irréversible, for instance (unless you're weird). |
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Thom_Fuleri
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 6:29 pm Post subject: Re: How to Flirt? |
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| jpr11011 wrote: | Ok I really like a NT guy whom I have been IMing and texting for over a month. He goes to the high school near mine (mine is all-girls) and I know for sure he is who he says he is. He's really sweet and he's been there in times bad already (had a rough month).
How can I best let him know that I'm VERY interested in him? |
The easiest way is just to tell him. Make a social thing of it - ask him out to see a film or go shopping or something, or even just to hang out somewhere. One of the oldest and most widespread ways of dealing with the social anxiety - which affects everyone to some extent - is a few drinks. But treat it like medicine - if you're not a drinker, just a couple of shots will have you nicely loquacious within 15-30 minutes. Don't overdose, because saying you love someone while plastered never sounds convincing and is potentially spoiled by vomiting on them. |
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jpr11011
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 8:42 pm Post subject: |
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Thank you all so much for your advice!!! I will follow it and post an update
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Severe inattentive ADD, responds well with Concerta
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CrinklyCrustacean
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| Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 6:05 am Post subject: |
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| jpr11011 wrote: | | Too cowardly to do that |
Welcome to the men's side of the fence. |
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