ToadOfSteel
unlovable
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| ebec11 wrote: | | OneStepBeyond wrote: | | Brianruns10 wrote: | | ToadOfSteel wrote: | | You should just remember and appreciate how fortunate you are for even having a significant other. Some of us are #foreveralone... |
Dittos. Be happy, but don't flaunt your happiness to others that aren't so fortunate. That gets effin obnoxious. |
if you found someone you'd probably be flaunting it all over the show. and this thread is them "appreciating" it, not being obnoxious.
leave 'em alone, it's nice to hear nice things |
Agreed. There are plenty of places for you to complain about your failed relationship, why can't there be a spot for those who are happy? |
Because I want to be happy, but nobody is willing to give me a chance at true happiness the way you have been blessed.
PS: I don't think it's obnoxious, I just feel more and more alone every time I see someone else have the happiness that I could only dream of... |
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AScomposer13413
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Brianruns10 wrote: | | ToadOfSteel wrote: | | You should just remember and appreciate how fortunate you are for even having a significant other. Some of us are #foreveralone... |
Dittos. Be happy, but don't flaunt your happiness to others that aren't so fortunate. That gets effin obnoxious. |
For the record, I don't have a significant other nor have I had one in the past. Flaunting in this case would be the OP repeating that exact same message on every single forum regardless of whether it was happy or sad. Since the OP isn't doing that, I don't see why she isn't entitled to that happiness and sharing it on the forum. Yeah, there are times I wish I could have a significant other and certainly want better odds in my personal life, but I don't think it's right to take that out on the OP. |
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Brianruns10
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| Erisad wrote: | | Brianruns10 wrote: | | ToadOfSteel wrote: | | You should just remember and appreciate how fortunate you are for even having a significant other. Some of us are #foreveralone... |
Dittos. Be happy, but don't flaunt your happiness to others that aren't so fortunate. That gets effin obnoxious. |
And this is why the happy thread emlion and I had ended up going sour. No one's allowed to be happy in L&D or else it may offend someone. :/ |
If you're really happy you don't have to effin brag about it. You know what I do when one of my film wins an award? Nothing. I don't brag about it, I don't post on facebook. Because I don't make films for awards and to get attention. I do it for my own sake. And if I find a girlfriend, I'm not gonna come over here and brag about it, because I know there are those who are hurting, and who don't want to hear about MY happiness. I EMPATHIZE with THEM.
It's great to be happy. It's great to have someone. Isn't that enough without having to proclaim it on high? Because so what? Billions of people just like you, and billions more to follow. It AIN'T special, unless you're the Curies. Be content and shut up.. Because it's like saying, "Yay, I'm so happy I'm healthy!" at a cancer ward, or "I'm so happy to be living in my new apartment" at a homeless shelter.
You may be well meaning, but but you CAN be hurtful. Don't FLAUNT your good fortune in our faces, especially on this day when a lot of us are lonely, trying to find someone, and can't do a damn thing about it apart from flailing in the dark hoping to grasp someone who will grasp back. |
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Erisad
More like Erihappy, amirite?
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Brianruns10 wrote: | If you're really happy you don't have to effin brag about it. You know what I do when one of my film wins an award? Nothing. I don't brag about it, I don't post on facebook. Because I don't make films for awards and to get attention. I do it for my own sake. And if I find a girlfriend, I'm not gonna come over here and brag about it, because I know there are those who are hurting, and who don't want to hear about MY happiness. I EMPATHIZE with THEM.
It's great to be happy. It's great to have someone. Isn't that enough without having to proclaim it on high? Because so what? Billions of people just like you, and billions more to follow. It AIN'T special, unless you're the Curies. Be content and shut up.. Because it's like saying, "Yay, I'm so happy I'm healthy!" at a cancer ward, or "I'm so happy to be living in my new apartment" at a homeless shelter.
You may be well meaning, but but you CAN be hurtful. Don't FLAUNT your good fortune in our faces, especially on this day when a lot of us are lonely, trying to find someone, and can't do a damn thing about it apart from flailing in the dark hoping to grasp someone who will grasp back. |
It's not bragging. Someone posted the thread asking if users had a good V-day, I answered. Honestly, I feel that threads like these can be used as inspiration, if one is willing to look at it positively instead of wallowing in self-loathing. I'm not going to stop being happy. I will continue talking about my relationship where it's appropriate, like these kinds of threads. Now if you were to make a thread lamenting your relationship issues, it would be inappropriate and considered bragging if I waltzed in and said, "oooo, look at me and my bf! Aren't we sooo cuuuute?!" That's different than what we're doing here. We're allowed one happy thread. If you don't like it, don't look at it. :/ |
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ebec11
If only I could fly...
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Location: Ottawa, Ontario
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 9:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Erisad wrote: | | Brianruns10 wrote: | If you're really happy you don't have to effin brag about it. You know what I do when one of my film wins an award? Nothing. I don't brag about it, I don't post on facebook. Because I don't make films for awards and to get attention. I do it for my own sake. And if I find a girlfriend, I'm not gonna come over here and brag about it, because I know there are those who are hurting, and who don't want to hear about MY happiness. I EMPATHIZE with THEM.
It's great to be happy. It's great to have someone. Isn't that enough without having to proclaim it on high? Because so what? Billions of people just like you, and billions more to follow. It AIN'T special, unless you're the Curies. Be content and shut up.. Because it's like saying, "Yay, I'm so happy I'm healthy!" at a cancer ward, or "I'm so happy to be living in my new apartment" at a homeless shelter.
You may be well meaning, but but you CAN be hurtful. Don't FLAUNT your good fortune in our faces, especially on this day when a lot of us are lonely, trying to find someone, and can't do a damn thing about it apart from flailing in the dark hoping to grasp someone who will grasp back. |
It's not bragging. Someone posted the thread asking if users had a good V-day, I answered. Honestly, I feel that threads like these can be used as inspiration, if one is willing to look at it positively instead of wallowing in self-loathing. I'm not going to stop being happy. I will continue talking about my relationship where it's appropriate, like these kinds of threads. Now if you were to make a thread lamenting your relationship issues, it would be inappropriate and considered bragging if I waltzed in and said, "oooo, look at me and my bf! Aren't we sooo cuuuute?!" That's different than what we're doing here. We're allowed one happy thread. If you don't like it, don't look at it. :/ |
I completely agree, this board is about love and dating, not just the lack of love and dating. It's Valentine's Day, and I have somebody. Hell, if you had a good V-Day and it wasn't with somebody (like the person who enjoyed wine and pizza on Valentine's day), I'm just as happy for you and want to hear about it  You're trapped in your negativity, you need to realize that while you're miserable right now, we all don't have to share your pain. I have been in a deep depression before, I've attempted suicide, and I know how it's like to be stuck in a negative view that just makes it HURT to see others who aren't there. I get it, but this is not the place to complain about it. I am not bragging, I'm not shoving it in your face, I'm just making one board out of many here. I mean, I'm not finding this relationship 100% easy, as I'm not used to thinking about others. I'm sure others have had trials with their relationships too, but this isn't about that. It's about the happiness WE are experiencing on V-Day. |
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hale_bopp
All Kinds of Freak
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 10:05 pm Post subject: |
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If people weren't allowed to make posts or threads here on the off chance they might offend someone, this forum would have no posts or threads.
True story.
The thread title states that it's a happy thread. If you don't want to read about it, you don't have to. It's not like you don't have a choice.
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hyperlexian
loves the man who typed too much and ran outta spa
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ebec11, Erisad, and others: please don't stop. this thread breaks no rules, and i'd like to thank you for sharing some uplifting experiences.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with posting how happy you are, just like there is nothing wrong with sad people posting threads about how sad they are.
members have made a choice to click and deliberately come into this thread. they are not required to do so. if they are unhappy seeing positive stories then they do not have to enter the thread and read it. it's their choice.
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techstepgenr8tion
that chatty American
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| hale_bopp wrote: | If people weren't allowed to make posts or threads here on the off chance they might offend someone, this forum would have no posts or threads.
True story. |
This. |
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justalouise
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| My boyfriend and I have been fighting constantly lately for a lot of reasons, but he left yesterday to go visit some family for the week. Now that he's been gone a day, I miss him. Geez. |
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heatherbk
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 11:49 pm Post subject: |
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aw your post oozes happiness! A lot of customers and business partners brought in cupcakes and chocolates today (customarily not because they like me -_-) so I was in a sugar high all day with my coworkers.  |
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Einfari
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| Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 11:54 pm Post subject: |
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| I got a free caribou coffee and a cookie for Valentine's Day from my mom. That definitely allows for a decent day. |
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tronist
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| Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 12:06 am Post subject: Re: My guy is amazing! Any other Aspies with great V-Day? |
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| ebec11 wrote: | *squeals* I just love this guy I'm dating! We've decided to not do much for V-Day, because we don't have much money and we've only been dating for about a month or so. We got each other sappy cards on Sunday and had 7 hours of gaming fun, candy, and homemade pizza So, I decided to send him a e-card today, just to show I remembered the actual day and I just love giving e-cards (and none of my friends like them). So, he being the sweetest guy ever, gives me a gift copy of his favourite game in response  *smiles* I didn't expect it, and it was so sweet. Not to mention I get a new game to play
So yeah, I'm happy It's hard to navigate V-Day with a recent boyfriend, but I think we did it Has anybody else had a lovely V-Day (or is going to?)? |
wait so.. you're an aspie gamergirl? zomg your boyfriend is lucky. i wanna meet an aspie gamergirl, too! XD
im pretty sure aspie gamergirls are about .0000000000000001% of the population of an average city. T.T
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Aesthete
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| My Valentine's Day was kind of lame. Really couldn't spend time with my boyfriend because of distance (one hour drive), work, and school. I did get to see him Monday night, though, and yesterday (Valentine's Day) too technically, as my visit lasted into the early morning hours. |
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The_Sleeper
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I'm a great boyfriend... Just so you know. Might not be able to find someone worth being serious about but i do know when im good at something. Sweet I've been told on more than one occasion.....
I might not be able to understand people naturally but im intuitive and i put a lot into working them out. I naturally find myself getting to the point where i know every little detail about the person im around and the way they work. If they reach for scissors im usually there handing it to them before they realised they needed them. So erm, i might have spent VD day alone but if i do have a vd day with someone and you could stop me from rebelling against the fact that i think valentines day is fake and silly I'd probably have quite a nice night.
So erm, im jealous in a sense but only because they just got to experience something tonight that might take me years to get, otherwise im happy for the OP. GZ OP! |
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MissConstrue
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So happy for you Ebec and the rest. Glad you guys had a great V-day.
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