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PostPosted: Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:40 pm    Post subject: tired of this Reply with quote

Ever do something you thought was positive but ended full of regret? Thats pretty much my life. whatever few "positive" thing just end up adding more pain further on. I almost dont even want positive things anymore knowing theyll just turn sour. I dont know what to do anymore if if i should even bother trying to fix anything knowing nothing will be fixed.
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm sorry mate.

I know that feeling.

*hugs*
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 9:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

whats the acceptance of stooping below your level at a chance at being happy?
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 1:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have kind of accepted it - there's no point in getting to excited about things that may be positive. Too often it ends in disappointment. I try to keep my emotions as level as possible; avoiding the highs and lows.
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 1:32 pm    Post subject: Re: tired of this Reply with quote

MXH wrote:
Ever do something you thought was positive but ended full of regret? Thats pretty much my life. whatever few "positive" thing just end up adding more pain further on. I almost dont even want positive things anymore knowing theyll just turn sour. I dont know what to do anymore if if i should even bother trying to fix anything knowing nothing will be fixed.

I know ... trying to help people out of their misery, only to discover that they would rather be miserable really sucks.
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 1:35 pm    Post subject: Re: tired of this Reply with quote

actually. nvm. lol.
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 1:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah I know the feeling, like when I try and make peace, keep the peace or settle an issue, whether it's IRL with family and friends or online.......and usually things just escalate and I end up feeling bad for pissing everyone off. Certainly can add to those feelings of 'what's the point.' Anyways sorry that i am not sure how to cope with this in a healthy way so cannot offer much helpful advice I wish I could. but maybe its comforting to know you're not the only one who deals with that sort of thing.
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 2:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well by the vast range in replies not just here but in general that are nowhere near what ive felt I have to say operation vague rant was a success
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 2:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I couldn't make sense of your post but I guess it's better to be emotionally inept then to experience extreme pain and ecstasy.

That is what you are saying, right?
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 2:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I thought I got what was being said and seemed to be something I could relate to, sorry if I am one of the people who posted something nowhere near what you felt.
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

CrazyStarlightRedux wrote:
I couldn't make sense of your post but I guess it's better to be emotionally inept then to experience extreme pain and ecstasy.

That is what you are saying, right?

what about being in pain only?

its ok SL, what counts is you seem to care
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 3:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Some things can be fixed. I don't know if you meant physical or depression pain; I've fought depression for years and almost given up many times, but things have slowly gotten better. Maybe not happiness, but not pain either.
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 9:53 pm    Post subject: Re: tired of this Reply with quote

Fnord wrote:
MXH wrote:
Ever do something you thought was positive but ended full of regret? Thats pretty much my life. whatever few "positive" thing just end up adding more pain further on. I almost dont even want positive things anymore knowing theyll just turn sour. I dont know what to do anymore if if i should even bother trying to fix anything knowing nothing will be fixed.

I know ... trying to help people out of their misery, only to discover that they would rather be miserable really sucks.

What makes you so sure people just "want to be miserable"? Seriously, get real. Not everything is a matter of will power. Some people are miserable not because of the problems they face but because their own mental biochemistry attacks them without remorse. Maybe depressed people would have a little more strength to face their problems if they weren't forced into believing they were just lazy, weak, or self-willing themselves to be unhappy.
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PostPosted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 11:10 pm    Post subject: Re: tired of this Reply with quote

MXH, I can't state that I know exactly how you feel because for you it seems like it may be worse, but I have done things I thought were positive and ended up making things much worse.

I've lost online friendships because I was honest and tried to be caring. I've scared people away with my honesty and with things that I've shared.

Sometimes I think it would be better to just be stoic; to not feel anything at all.
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