mindmapper Blue Jay


Joined: Feb 17, 2012 Posts: 86 Location: Netherlands
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 8:43 am Post subject: OCD on Grammar and Spelling |
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I can get really OCD on grammar and spelling. Whenever I see typos or common grammar mistakes, I can get rather frustrated on the inside, especially when not correcting them.
I do correct people on their grammar all the time during conversations. This is often not appreciated, probably because it might seem rather interruptive. In online chats I often end up linking images like this one (link), hoping people will look at that and stop making the common mistakes that annoy me so much.
I wonder what to do to make myself more tolerant towards things like this ... |
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Mithos Phoenix


Joined: Feb 22, 2012 Age: 22 Posts: 685 Location: Ponyville, Equestria.
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 8:49 am Post subject: |
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Same. _________________ {{Certified Coffeeholic.}}
I have Severe ADHD (Diagnosed), Tics and Mild OCD. [Fully Alert, Test Retaken.]
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Your Aspie score: 128 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 72 of 200
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OliveOilMom Queen of cans and jars


Joined: Nov 12, 2011 Posts: 6783 Location: Living in Faulkner's nightmare
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:10 am Post subject: |
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I do that too. I always want to correct grammar in posts. Misspelling simple words gets on my nerves, although I do misspell things from time to time. One of the most embarrassing instances of that was years ago when I ripped on a poster in an email group who constantly used incorrect grammar. I had gotten tired of it after months of seeing it. Now, I don't alway use correct grammar in my posts, because sometimes I'm going for more of a casual tone. I certainly don't speak with correct grammar at all, unless I need to for some reason. However, when I ripped into that one poster, I mentioned the grammar problems several times. I was sure that I got my point across. Then it was pointed out that I spelled it "grammer" in the entire post.
My bad. _________________ Frances
I can be a little much sometimes. |
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mindmapper Blue Jay


Joined: Feb 17, 2012 Posts: 86 Location: Netherlands
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:14 am Post subject: |
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| OliveOilMom wrote: | | Then it was pointed out that I spelled it "grammer" in the entire post. |
I actually fear those situations. When people correct me on grammar and spelling it feels rather embarrassing indeed.  |
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OliveOilMom Queen of cans and jars


Joined: Nov 12, 2011 Posts: 6783 Location: Living in Faulkner's nightmare
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:22 am Post subject: |
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How do you feel about regional differences in grammatic usage? I could give you so many examples of normal, every day conversation that is so full of errors that your head would explode. Also, some sentences take on an entirely different meaning depending on which word you put the emphasis on. We use a lot of double negatives, we drop letters and whole syllables, we combine two words to make one (inkpen, pokeypin, hosepipe, etc) and we construct sentences incorrectly "Where you at?" or "Where you live at?". We explain distances by time. It's about ten minutes away. It's about an hour away. "Go about five minutes up the road and take a left" We understand this on some sort of basic level, and we can find places by using that. Without being given the speed to drive, because it's assumed. And it's not always the speed limit.
Also macaroni and cheese is a vegetable here.
So, what's your opinion of the regional vernaculars? _________________ Frances
I can be a little much sometimes. |
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Mummy_of_Peanut Countess de Noir


Joined: Feb 21, 2011 Age: 40 Posts: 3478 Location: Bonnie Scotland
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:29 am Post subject: |
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I'm another grammar pedant. I don't mind it so much in the spoken word, but in the written word, I hate it. But, I don't correct anyone, unless they ask me to.
One that really gets me is 'must of', instead of 'must have'. Now, I can understand how someone can say it wrongly, because if you miss out the 'h', which is a common way of speaking, they do sound alike. But, how can anyone write it wrongly?
Lynn Truss's (How many would leave out the last 's' there?) book, 'Eats, Shoots and Leaves' is one of my favourite reads. _________________ "We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiatic about." Charles Kingsley |
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kestrel Phoenix

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Joined: Jan 14, 2012 Posts: 574 Location: Ohio
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:31 am Post subject: |
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| I'm a nitpicker when it comes to my own language use. Several people have yelled at me for nitpicking their language use, so I'm inclined to keep it to myself anymore. I really, really want to correct bad grammar and incorrect language use when I see it, though. |
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Unspecified Sea Gull


Joined: Jan 05, 2012 Age: 45 Posts: 207
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:34 am Post subject: |
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mindmapper Blue Jay


Joined: Feb 17, 2012 Posts: 86 Location: Netherlands
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:40 am Post subject: |
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| OliveOilMom wrote: | | Also macaroni and cheese is a vegetable here. |
When speaking with someone I always notice the large amounts of 'shortcuts' being taken. I don't actually mind as much when they skip a verb, unless skipping it makes the whole sentence confusing. If someone uses a double negative, I always correct them because I generally find these very confusing as well.
Combined words are perfectly fine as long as I understand them and they're not redundant.
People explaining distances by time is not very annoying. It's more common that people (or people here at least) seem to explain distance more as the actual distance, or number of streets in between (similar to using people using 'blocks' in the US). |
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kestrel Phoenix

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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:43 am Post subject: |
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mindmapper Blue Jay


Joined: Feb 17, 2012 Posts: 86 Location: Netherlands
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 9:45 am Post subject: |
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| Mummy_of_Peanut wrote: | | One that really gets me is 'must of', instead of 'must have'. Now, I can understand how someone can say it wrongly, because if you miss out the 'h', which is a common way of speaking, they do sound alike. But, how can anyone write it wrongly? |
I've seen that one a lot, and the few people I asked actually seemed to think it's the correct way to do it. "Must've" when spoken sounds very similar to "must of", and with many people using it, I guess it can get accepted by some people.
I think the Internet in general makes people lazy in their grammar and spelling habits, but that's just my theory  |
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The_Final_Boss Yellow-bellied Woodpecker


Joined: Feb 21, 2012 Posts: 73
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 11:16 am Post subject: |
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I used to correct words [either typos or ones like in the link you provided] but then, as you say, people do not appreciate it so I stopped for the most part.
On the link, when it is saying not to type "alot", it says that you do not write "alittle" but I have definitely seen people using that. Also "abit". _________________ Your Aspie score: 102 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 98 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits |
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Dillogic you know how it goes


Joined: Nov 25, 2011 Posts: 3350
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 11:19 am Post subject: |
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That's not OCD. _________________ Just a simple man trying to survive (who's asocial and doesn't accept PMs).
In a perpetual war with rabbits since I was three years old. |
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TallyMan Rebooting


Joined: Mar 31, 2008 Posts: 36591
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:47 pm Post subject: |
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It can be frustrating. Some members here have problems with dyslexia, have English as a second language or just generally have problems writing. So I urge people not to become grammar Nazis. However, I must admit that some spelling errors really grate; they are almost painful for me to read somehow. Sometimes the temptation to use my moderator powers to correct member's spelling mistakes in the subject line is overwhelming and I can't resist correcting them.
Must... resist...  _________________ - signature - |
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Doubutsu Raven

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Joined: Jan 20, 2012 Age: 21 Posts: 115
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:50 pm Post subject: |
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It's probably not OCD, but people sometimes label you obsessive when doing that. Maybe is related to OCPD, but I should read more about their diferences.
| http://www.psychforums.com/obsessive-compulsive-personality/topic36628.html wrote: |
Symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder
OCPD symptoms tend to appear early in adulthood and are defined by inflexibility, close adherence to rules, anxiety when rules are transgressed, and unrealistic perfectionism. A person with obsessive compulsive personality disorder exhibits several of the following symptoms:
- abnormal preoccupation with lists, rules, and minor details
- excessive devotion to work, to the detriment of social and family activities
- miserliness or a lack of generosity
- perfectionism that interferes with task completion, as performance is never good enough
- refusal to throw anything away (pack-rat mentality)
- rigid and inflexible attitude towards morals or ethical code
- unwilling to let others perform tasks, fearing the loss of responsibility
- upset and off-balance when rules or established routines are disrupted.
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I feel the need to correct people and to answer the questions whose answer I think I know, sometimes I have joined strangers's conversations. I feel wrong if I don't do it, but I try to stop myself. I wonder if all people feel this need, the problem is that they think I want to show them my superiority or make them look like fools when correcting them. I learned programming with a teacher's website, I admired him because I was so grateful about being able to learn by just reading his blog, so once I entered his class, he noticed I wasn't from there, the problem was that the night before that day I read a program he had written that didn't worked properly and I found the error. I wanted to tell it to him so he can fix it, a friend encouraged me to follow the teacher after the class, I did, but I sounded really bad when I talked to him, I think he thinks I just went to his class to show him that he was wrong, now I feel ashamed when I see him. Something that makes me angry is that after I talked with the teacher my friend said "It wasn't actually a good idea", then why did he encouraged me to do it? That happened two years ago, I wonder if the teacher still remembers it, sometimes I want to apologize or explain myself but maybe it's weird to do it after all this time.
| TallyMan wrote: | It can be frustrating. Some members here have problems with dyslexia, have English as a second language or just generally have problems writing. So I urge people not to become grammar Nazis. However, I must admit that some spelling errors really grate; they are almost painful for me to read somehow. Sometimes the temptation to use my moderator powers to correct member's spelling mistakes in the subject line is overwhelming and I can't resist correcting them.
Must... resist...  |
I would like my grammar being corrected so I can learn to write properly. _________________ I'm not a native english speaker, please correct me if I write like a robot or something, so I can improve. |
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