Chooty
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To the guy who's considering it:
Did you ever think about what 'scene' you are getting involved in?
That's prolly straight up international organized crime running it behind those cover companies, not your local pimp. Since 'she' got caught up in it, 'she' must have experience/some connection with them. I'd stay far far away from those people.
Besides, it's not only about if she wants to or not, it's about feeding the demand of the market keeping that shady industry alive.
But hey on the other hand who hasn't daydreamed about it once after seeing an add ...  |
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1000Knives
It's not difficult if you know how.
Joined: Jul 09, 2011
Age: 22
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Location: CT, USA
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| Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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My father has a friend who had more or less a "mail order bride." She was from the Philippines. By all accounts, their marriage was OK until she caught on to Western social rules. What it was, basically, my mom accused her husband of treating her like a "slave" but I think it's just different cultural values, so her husband probably treated her like she'd have gotten treated in the Philippines, so more a traditional "housewife" kinda thing. But yeah, once she figured out she could "get more" so to speak, she did, and then she divorced him after a few years, and then things got way worse for her and she went out with this Cambodian guy with tear drop tattoos under his eyes and stuff.
As far as the guy's character, well, he was weird, very much a sorta stereotypical gun nut kinda person. But, from the stories my dad has told me, not too nice of a guy either way. So I'd say her marriage to him wasn't "ideal" in that she didn't get the cream of the crop kinda guy here in the states, but I don't think he like, beat her or anything. Now this guy, he goes to strip clubs and looks for Columbian women. He's also been to Taiwan, trying to strike up another international relationship. So yeah, maybe kinda a douche, I don't know him personally, but from what I gather, yeah.
So, while I'm sure really bad stuff happens sometimes, it's more just in international dating, the demographics don't attract "normal" nice people. Remember, it's not like they just "order" women, he had to go to the Philippines and also went to Taiwan, to meet and talk with the person he was communicating with either on the phone or on the internet.
I don't think it's a "bad" thing per se, just if you're a douche, you're a douche. You're gonna treat women like a douchebag regardless of if they're from overseas or not, just women from overseas could be going here for economic reasons, and yeah.
That said, while I'm probably not going to use a "mail order bride" agency, I am considering going overseas and seeing if my luck is better there, when I get the money and other resources to do it. I think I get along much better with foreign women, and just find them more natural to talk to and be around. So, I wanna go to Japan one day and basically see what happens, if women there like me or not. Supposedly in Japan, once women are past 30, guys there don't wanna marry them. So, if I can get an "old" (31) and "fat" (23BMI) Japanese girl, then hey, that'd be kickass. That said, I'm not deadset on marrying a foreigner, it just seems easier from my experiences with foreigners here in the states. If some girl comes along who's a US native, and it works out, it does, and that's that. But, foreign girls seem much easier for me to talk to and get along with.
So, that's my take on mail order brides and international dating. Yeah, sometimes it's not good, and yes, sometimes there is criminality involved, and sometimes the guys who go for international dating are douchebags, but other times, it goes well and the couple has a happy life.
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AstroGeek
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| Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 7:38 pm Post subject: |
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| I disagree with the concept on moral standards. It objectifies women and exploits people from poorer countries. |
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