CrazyStarlightRedux
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Age: 23
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Location: Manchester, UK.
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| muslimmetalhead wrote: |
You're right that it's harder for men to find a woman, BUT I personally would love going on amazing vacations and doing crazy shitte with some chick.
And Aspies ACT like kids, how can we not want them? lol |
Crazy sh**, eh? lol
Because they don't like immaturity despite woman being the most childish type of people you'll ever meet regarding fighting over stupid little things. |
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Dillogic
boom bang pow
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| Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 1:49 pm Post subject: |
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If you're like me, no.
It's not fair on all involved. |
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MONKEY
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Age: 20
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Location: Stoke, England (sometimes :P)
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If they want to. No relationship is perfect and couples notice eachother's faults after the first couple of months, in an aspie/aspie or aspie/NT relationship the difficulties may be different than in an NT/NT relationship but I doubt they're more or less severe overall.
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aussiebloke
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| Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| Dillogic wrote: | If you're like me, no.
It's not fair on all involved. |
This
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tim1982
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Joined: Feb 21, 2012
Age: 30
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| During my last relationship I didnt know I had aspergers, and since ive been learning more about it, and more about myself, and putting my foot down about things that im not comfortable with. Id have to say no. If you want to try go ahead, but its really too difficult to be worth it. While looking back on my past relationship, there was no way they could have worked. |
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Bloodheart
Grisha's Gal
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Age: 30
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Location: Newcastle, England.
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:15 pm Post subject: |
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My thoughts are that us aspie females can be the same - I have an ex who has told me I hurt him by seeming as if I was not interested enough in the relationship (in my world I was DEEPLY in love with him) and yours truly seems to attract men who are overly affectionate thus see my lack of affection as a lack of emotional commitment. There are then all the expectations of what females should be like within a relationship - not sure if it's my aspie-like lack of girlishness or my boyfriends lack of balls that see relationships fail when I don't fit to what they think women should act like in a relationship - I expect male aspies see a similar problem.
We have problems and I'll even admit that it may be harder for male aspies, but all relationships are a pain in the ass and can go horribly wrong the more you try to force it (which I see many males on the spectrum as being guilty of), but AS/ASD and NT/AS/ASD/HDHD/etc. relationship can work as well as any NT and NT relationship.
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bruinsy33
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| Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 2:20 am Post subject: |
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| Like any kind of relationship I think people with AS should choose a partner who has many of the characteristics that they have. I am not a believer in ''opposites attract''. |
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JAYZ
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| Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 6:38 am Post subject: Aspies in love |
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| Hi there its my first post and this is something that really hits home i have asd and have never been able to trust i hate it i read that you can work on this but how do you stop the brain thinking stuff that is not even close to the ball park some days i just want to fish. |
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Taybot97
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I think we should be able to ifwe want. I'm happy when I'm with my GF, I told her of my AS early on and she seems very tolerant of my actions. Not sure if she is actively remembering that or just tolerant but I like her. In short, yes we can have problems but some of us have a happy current and others (maybe me, no way of telling) have a happy ending.
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| bruinsy33 wrote: | | Like any kind of relationship I think people with AS should choose a partner who has many of the characteristics that they have. I am not a believer in ''opposites attract''. |
This is very true. My first GF had some similar interests but was a personality opposite. Very few people knew I went out with her and it didn't last very long. I chose to ignore it happened when possible, only a mistake in my mind. So to 99% of people I know my current GF is my only one, she is not an opposite and we attract well. |
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AspieOtaku
Leader of the Otaku Legion
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Location: Los Altos, California, United States
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I think so although it tends to be more difficult for us because most NT partners cannot understand us,However I think everyone deserves to be happy because we need love too and are very capable of it, it is sometimes we have difficulty expressing it and controlling our emotions when we let them out.
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Roxas_XIII
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We have just as much of a right to a lifelong partnership as anyone else, it's just difficult to find that one person who can understand you enough. Thankfully, I'm pretty damn sure my current GF is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. I just won't be in a position to pop the question to her for at least another 3 years.
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PastFixations
One who will open the door.
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It shouldn't matter if they are Aspergians, Algerians, Americans or Albanians... Equal Rights are made for a reason.
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aussiebloke
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 7:06 pm Post subject: |
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Another post I make gets the cut .
Whatever.
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Matt62
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 9:00 pm Post subject: |
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Depends on the people involved. And the timing, the situation. Etc.
I got more out of just "half" a relationship than if I had married the person.
Relationships are WORK. They are not magic, which is why so many of us fail at them. You get sold on the mythology, etc. & not the reality. You both will have to compromise. And that goes for EVERYONE in the game.
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TheHouseholdCat
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Location: Berlin, Germany
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Why not?
"Should" people be in relationships at all? I don't know. I don't think it's a matter of being or not being an Aspie.
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