Amik
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 Posted: Mon Dec 26, 2011 12:41 pm Post subject: Re: Significant Others and "Touching" |
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I really hate being touched when I'm in the middle of doing something too. It's so annoying.
There are ways that I like to be touched, and ways I really hate to be touched. I also hate being touched excessively or when the touch/affection is unwanted.
Unfortunately my SO has been really annoying with this for a few months now. He thinks it's funny to touch me in ways and times that he knows annoy me and has started doing it all the time, which drives me nuts. It's not that he's craving affection or not getting it, he just seems to enjoy seeing me get annoyed or mad, and even when I've tried to not give him the reaction he wants he still seems to see something he finds funny about it. I don't know how to get it through his head to stop doing it. He's being so immature. He didn't used to be like this. |
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Ames76
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Location: TN/KY border
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| Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2012 7:52 pm Post subject: Re: Significant Others and "Touching" |
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Before reading any farther, I want to tell you that I am the same way! If I'm busy or not expecting it, I tend to get really pissy. I do feel bad about it at times, but I don't know how to change it!
| lovecholie wrote: | Do you hate being kissed or hugged or even talked to when you're not expecting it? For me, I hate the most when I'm in the middle of doing something. I always feel bad when I tell my SO, "I don't want that right now. Go away!" Then in a lame attempt to make up for it, I say, "Please!" I know it's rude, but I can't help it. It is akin to nails grating on a chalkboard when there is unwanted affection. 
Anyone else with the same problem? Any advice? |
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Ames76
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| Posted: Sat Jan 14, 2012 7:55 pm Post subject: |
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This is why we have a California King size bed. For the most part, we are on our separate sides, I can't be touching while trying to sleep.
| m3theatrix wrote: | | I have the same problem. My NT husband is very affectionate, & it causes problems when we're trying to sleep. He wants to be all wrapped around me & I want to be left alone (I also get hot flashes easily, & that makes it worse). I usually end up on the very edge of the bed. I have a body pillow that I put between us sometimes & it helps. |
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dreamy
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| Posted: Sat Jan 21, 2012 3:05 am Post subject: |
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Yes, if I am busy, or just not in the mood.
Quick funny story - on a first date, the guy was being cuddly in a tight hugging way, and it was freaking me out. I'm pretty sure he did it because he thought all women want a cuddly guy. But I also find it funny because maybe he really wants that. |
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blueroses
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| Posted: Sat Jan 21, 2012 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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| All of the SO's I've had have been more affectionate than me, including the guy I'm seeing now. Sometimes it makes me feel incredibly cold or like there's something horribly wrong with me for not wanting to be all over each other at all times. |
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Jaz1787
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| Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 10:14 pm Post subject: |
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Most of the time it's not an issue
but sometimes i'm super ticklish and sometimes i cannot bare him to kiss me on my mouth. he doesn't mind the ticklish thing (thinks it's funny the cruel bastard  ) and usually i can wriggle out of the kissing thing without offending him
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skenasis
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 5:47 am Post subject: |
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| YellowBanana wrote: | I *love* cuddling my husband. But it has to be on my terms, otherwise there's a definite chance of me being irritated by it.
I also have problems with him sitting too close, if it is not my choice and also sometimes with the sound of his breathing (try telling someone the sound of their breathing is driving you nuts ... there is no polite way!!!) |
I'm exactly the same. I absolutely adore cuddling my partner, but it has to be on my terms. And not so much the sound, but the feel of his breath on my neck/back when we're trying to sleep. I hate feeling any sort of breeze on my skin, and his breath definitely counts! |
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pokerface
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:35 am Post subject: |
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| People can shake my hand but don't give me the obligatory three pecks on the cheek because that disgusts me more than anything! |
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Pook
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 2:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Jaz1787 wrote: | Most of the time it's not an issue
but sometimes i'm super ticklish and sometimes i cannot bare him to kiss me on my mouth. he doesn't mind the ticklish thing (thinks it's funny the cruel bastard ) and usually i can wriggle out of the kissing thing without offending him |
Im ticklish too and it either drives my husband crazy or he laughs at it. I mean really what can you do anyway? |
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 2:53 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't like going overboard. A hug or a kiss now and again isn't bad but I'm not the overly cuddly type. I don't really like PDA either. |
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