muslimmetalhead
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 Posted: Wed Mar 07, 2012 7:25 am Post subject: Re: True but to me I dont really care about looks |
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| Joker wrote: | | Looks do have some importance in my opinon beauty is in the eye of the beholder I just like girls I guess you would say girl crazy im a good at reading social cues because one of my main interests are sexual behavior and body language once you get used to finding a way to read certin cues things will get easy |
Hook me up with that.
Give me a list of books or whatever. |
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Tom5
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| Posted: Wed Mar 07, 2012 10:39 am Post subject: |
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Looks matter for everyone, not just aspies.
There is also a evolutionary explanation for this as well. Humans equate being good-looking with being healthy so if your partner is healthy this means that your children will also be healthy.
Lets face it guys, if good looks did not matter to women at all, then I would already have a good-looking girlfriend but fact is I can't have one. |
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Comp_Geek_573
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| Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 12:35 am Post subject: |
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Looks matter, but not a whole lot to me. It's nice if she's very good looking, but if I connect with her personally in a way I don't with most other people, feel like I can be myself (with all my social faux pas!) around her, and can discuss stuff with her I'm afraid to discuss with most other people, I'd still desire her romantically even if she were morbidly obese AND had acne! This would remain true no matter how good-looking or even socially skilled I were to become myself. The only appearance deal breaker to me is extreme masculinity (armpit hair, beard, etc.) Short hair is perfectly fine though, and I've even found lots of women with short hair to be very, very beautiful!!
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Embroglio
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| Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 12:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Looks matter for everyone. I couldn't date someone I'm not physically attracted to. If I don't find her physically attractive than it's not fair to me or her. It's not a sole requirement by any means I have to be attracted to her personality as well. But physical attractiveness is something that matters to everyone despite what they say. |
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sydeetoes
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| I sure don't. I wouldn't turn down a guy because he was attractive but for me it's only a small peice of the puzzle. I'm much more apt to be drawn to someone's intellectual capacity, sense of humor, and attentiveness. I like someone who makes me FEEL good...and it's an aspect of a person that's completely detached from their appearance. I'm just so darn awkward...I never know what to say and I get incredibly nervous if I value someone's opinion. |
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izzeme
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 6:03 am Post subject: |
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i'd like to say that looks dont matter to me, but i'd lie...
i will give anyone that comes up to me a chance (also partially becouse i dont have the luxury to be picky), but i know that i also look around, and if faced with a choice, all else being about equal, i would go for the better looking girl.
however, i have found out that my definition of 'looking good' and 'hotness' is quite different from that of most of my (NT) peers, so that might give off the illusion that looks dont matter to me |
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ValentineWiggin
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 8:46 am Post subject: |
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Couldn't care less about looks.
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Wolfheart
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 9:34 am Post subject: |
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| sydeetoes wrote: | | I sure don't. I wouldn't turn down a guy because he was attractive but for me it's only a small peice of the puzzle. I'm much more apt to be drawn to someone's intellectual capacity, sense of humor, and attentiveness. I like someone who makes me FEEL good...and it's an aspect of a person that's completely detached from their appearance. I'm just so darn awkward...I never know what to say and I get incredibly nervous if I value someone's opinion. |
Well said, it's the person I'm attracted to, not the presentation. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 9:43 am Post subject: |
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| And the presentation doesn't play a part? I don't believe that. |
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Kjas
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 10:27 am Post subject: |
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I need to be somewhat attracted to them to date them and that includes their looks but personality is still more important to me. Otherwise they would just be a very cool, very close friend.
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Wolfheart
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 10:40 am Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | And the presentation doesn't play a part? I don't believe that. |
Presentation is only a shell, it doesn't define a person or make them who they are. |
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ValentineWiggin
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 10:54 am Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | And the presentation doesn't play a part? I don't believe that. |
Why? Do you believe attraction is experienced the same way by everyone, without exception?
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:16 am Post subject: |
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| There has to be some physical attraction, surely? |
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The-Raven
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:25 am Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | | There has to be some physical attraction, surely? |
quite a lot of people find someone attractive because they like them, not the other way round. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:30 am Post subject: |
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I like a lot of people, doesn't mean I want to be with them, and I never once said looks define anyone. They don't.
Of course you could see a pic of someone and you might be attracted to them, then meet them and find they're an idiot and any attraction is lost, or alternatively, you could meet someone fun that you get along with and find there isn't any physical attraction. |
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