MissingSei
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| DreamLord wrote: | | Mikelight wrote: | | DreamLord wrote: | | EnglishLulu wrote: | | DreamLord wrote: | I've been on there a few months. Its a waste of time like all online dating.
Its just an extravagant way of being ignored by lesser minded people who happen to have bouncy things on their chests and think that you are unworthy of them.
I am Bealdor on there. I have given up though as a quick read of my profile will testify. |
I looked at your profile. The main thing that struck me was that although you look relatively attractive, you come across as quite gloomy, which doesn't really scream: Pick me, date me, we'll have some fun and have a good time.
But the thing that would put me off (if the 20 year age gap wasn't already an insurmountable problem!) would be your answers to a couple of questions regarding race. You don't have a problem with racist jokes. And if you happened to have children you'd want to have them with a white partner because you'd want them to be white. (Incidentally, I'm wondering, how can you live in a multicultural, ethnically diverse city like Manchester and end up with such views?  It's not like you're living out in Sticksville in the country where there are no/few ethnic minorities, where that might be some kind of an excuse for such views?)
I'm white, but even I find that kind of attitude problematic. And I'm guessing a lot of other women would too. Lots of young people in this day and age have family members, friends, classmates and colleagues from different ethnic backgrounds and mixed ethnic backgrounds, so they'd be put off dating someone who doesn't have a problem with racist jokes or who only wants to have white children.
You might have a better chance of finding a date at an EDL meeting or rally. |
I have no choice where to live and neither do I feel I should have to move from an area of a country that my ancestors have lived in for several thousand years. I do not need an excuse to love my people or to have a preference towards them, such an attitude exists naturally in all humans, regardless of the race they belong to and is only lacking in people who have been programmed to accept the decline of their people.
I do not hate other races, I just object to their large presence in my country, would you argue with a Tibetan about not wanting the Chinese controlling his land or a Palestinian who doesn't want Jewish settlers to force him out of his town?
Only a very nasty person would support this and yet to encourage non-white people to move in large numbers into white towns is not only okay, but to speak against it is wrong?
I an not sorry for loving my people and wanting them to preserve their heritage and homeland, for the same reasons I found the European colonisation of the America distasteful or the same reason I oppose Israeli aggression in the Levant. If women find my pride and willingness to argue for my beliefs off putting, then I can only suggest that the problem does not belong to myself, but to them. |
Dream Lord knows what's up. It's not bad to love your own race/culture/people. Ask any of the "minorities" you may live near whether they consider themselves first a part of your country or first a member of their race. You'll see the result. Personally I feel the exact same way as DreamLord but I'm a hispanic living in the US. I don't want to marry a white woman, nor would I want my future children to marry white. There's something to be said for having pride in your culture and in your people.
Not only do I not have a problem with racist jokes, but I quite frequently make them. There's no hate involved but stereotypes exist because people fulfill them. It's not racism, it's the truth.
DreamLord is right to want to preserve his homeland and his heritage. |
 You've hit the nail on the head there. My people will cease to exist within a century and i'm supposed to smile and pretend it isn't happening. What's worse is that it's my own people who attack me for it!
Life of a man in revolt against the present ideology I suppose, doomed to loneliness, unemployment and misery. |
"Your people" are the human race. The problem with this species has and probably always will be that deep rooted desire to make situations "Us vs Them" for the most arbitrary reasons regarding nationality (invisible lines on the Earth), culture (difference in ideas and the way to live), religion (beliefs in supernatural aspects that cannot be proven or disproved), or race (phenotype differences).
It is truly a pathetic existence, most humans have. I imagine other species exist outside of our planet want nothing to do with us. We fight with each other, kill each other, find every ridiculous reason to separate ourselves from one another when we're all humans living on Earth. We must seem like the lowest of animals to truly advanced species.
I can't even imagine what life would be like today if humans had the capacity as a species to wholly get over ridiculousness like this centuries ago. |
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ReindeerRoger
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Well, if you're wondering why you're not faring so well on dating websites, racist/eugenicist/isolationist ideologies are somewhat unfashionable nowadays, actually I find being around them or talking to people who have them rather discomforting. And OKcupid is also known for having a better educated population than normal websites, and yanow, racist views don't really measure up against science, the humanities etc. Actually if I tried to hand in an essay that had the slightest aftertaste of racism or fears of racial mixing to it I would probably receive a failing grade . . . generally if something is referred to as 'politically incorrect', that's actually a polite way to say that there's something seriously wrong with it on a fundamental level . . . anyways, it's something I'd leave out of a dating profile, unless you're on some specialized white-supremacist/republican-specific/racially-specific dating website. But I could say the same about broaching such topics on a first date, or in a job interview.
Incidentally, OKcupid bases its matching system on answers to the questions, so you might end up finding people who share your racial/cultural protectionist outlook on several points. Unfortunately you'll have to filter through those people for those of your preferred race. (hahaha, karma) |
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ReindeerRoger
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Alright, I just read this. On Wikipedia, but cited:
| Quote: | Users who receive high ratings may be notified by email that they are in the "top half of OkCupid's most attractive users". This email states that they "will now see more attractive people in [their] match results" but A-List users can search by star rating as well. The email says, "And, no, we didn't just send this email to everyone on OkCupid. Go ask an ugly friend and see."[8]
In 2010, articles in the Huffington Post (see reference link below) and Consumerist.com[9] revealed and decried that OkCupid members rated as unattractive have their match results altered in the same way (users ranked as more attractive are hidden in match results), although OkCupid makes no official contact to inform users that they have been rated as unattractive. |
I find this really terrible . . . One of those brutal dating site interventions they think they're doing in the name of customer service or something gross. |
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hyperlexian
loves the man who typed too much and ran outta spa
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| Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2012 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| ReindeerRoger wrote: | Well, if you're wondering why you're not faring so well on dating websites, racist/eugenicist/isolationist ideologies are somewhat unfashionable nowadays, actually I find being around them or talking to people who have them rather discomforting. And OKcupid is also known for having a better educated population than normal websites, and yanow, racist views don't really measure up against science, the humanities etc. Actually if I tried to hand in an essay that had the slightest aftertaste of racism or fears of racial mixing to it I would probably receive a failing grade . . . generally if something is referred to as 'politically incorrect', that's actually a polite way to say that there's something seriously wrong with it on a fundamental level . . . anyways, it's something I'd leave out of a dating profile, unless you're on some specialized white-supremacist/republican-specific/racially-specific dating website. But I could say the same about broaching such topics on a first date, or in a job interview.
Incidentally, OKcupid bases its matching system on answers to the questions, so you might end up finding people who share your racial/cultural protectionist outlook on several points. Unfortunately you'll have to filter through those people for those of your preferred race. (hahaha, karma) |
i  this post. well said.
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pizzaboss
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| I haven't had success with it. Girls haven't responded back to me. I like the questions asked though. Plus, users seem not very active on there. |
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Jean_Descole
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Sort of. It started out with me a few e-friends who were simply interested to see how we measured up against each other. It's worth mentioning that I am gay, so my experience is probably unlike most people's here. For example, if I contact someone, replies are pretty common. I'm only bringing this up now, in case you're wondering why the experience may feel different. Nevertheless, the end result of that is a profile that people looking for dates can view. Slowly, it's become an outlet I occasionally check to see if anything is going on, but for the most part, I ignore it. It's there. It exists. Etc.
But I do have some peeves about OkCupid. First and foremost, the userbase (at least the gay userbase) is just terrible. So many people are simply interested in sex, to the point it's unclear if it's a de facto hook-up site or not. I have found though that there are a handful of people who genuinely want to find a viable date via OkCupid, and often times will explicate that in their profiles (I, too, am one of those people). I have contacted one person in detail about this, and there is another side of the coin. A lot of people are on OkCupid for a reason: simply, the few members I have contacted give me that typical Internet user feel. In particular, most users are introverted, and introversion usually does not go well with introversion, honestly. That's another pitfall. But ultimately, I keep my profile up and active in the event something comes out of it. Do I expect something to come out of it? Hardly. And that said, if there is one appeal to online dating, it's the breadth of options. OkCupid could have potential, but I feel that right now the userbase simply isn't up to snuff to actually provide a solid online dating experience. It has potential, but I simply feel there are better alternatives. Namely, networking with a friend, who could actually introduce two very compatible people who could complement each other well. |
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heathergracie
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Coming to the party late, but my Aspie found me on OKCupid after I had only been on the site about three weeks.
The day after he messaged me the first time, I left on a birthday trip for the weekend, came home terribly sick, I was stuck with my parents, bored, and we started texting... about a week later he asked me out on a proper date. (He did confess to staring at my profile for about two weeks before writing me)
I had been on other sites for AGES, so I am now very pro-ok cupid (though my profile is now closed). |
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CrazyStarlightRedux
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| Jean_Descole wrote: | Sort of. It started out with me a few e-friends who were simply interested to see how we measured up against each other. It's worth mentioning that I am gay, so my experience is probably unlike most people's here. For example, if I contact someone, replies are pretty common. I'm only bringing this up now, in case you're wondering why the experience may feel different. Nevertheless, the end result of that is a profile that people looking for dates can view. Slowly, it's become an outlet I occasionally check to see if anything is going on, but for the most part, I ignore it. It's there. It exists. Etc.
But I do have some peeves about OkCupid. First and foremost, the userbase (at least the gay userbase) is just terrible. So many people are simply interested in sex, to the point it's unclear if it's a de facto hook-up site or not. I have found though that there are a handful of people who genuinely want to find a viable date via OkCupid, and often times will explicate that in their profiles (I, too, am one of those people). I have contacted one person in detail about this, and there is another side of the coin. A lot of people are on OkCupid for a reason: simply, the few members I have contacted give me that typical Internet user feel. In particular, most users are introverted, and introversion usually does not go well with introversion, honestly. That's another pitfall. But ultimately, I keep my profile up and active in the event something comes out of it. Do I expect something to come out of it? Hardly. And that said, if there is one appeal to online dating, it's the breadth of options. OkCupid could have potential, but I feel that right now the userbase simply isn't up to snuff to actually provide a solid online dating experience. It has potential, but I simply feel there are better alternatives. Namely, networking with a friend, who could actually introduce two very compatible people who could complement each other well. |
This is one reason why I never try or do internet dating...it's just not the way forward for finding a relationship.
If I were in your shoes (as in if I were a homosexual), I would try out the Gay Villages (it's a term for a night out targeted at Gay/Bi/Lesbian people (straight people can go too!), they are very friendly places and you will rarely find trouble in them, and you will find some people there to be attracted to! Although there maybe a small chance the person you like maybe a straight guy, so I'd read all the signs first.
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Jean_Descole
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| CrazyStarlightRedux wrote: | | If I were in your shoes (as in if I were a homosexual), I would try out the Gay Villages (it's a term for a night out targeted at Gay/Bi/Lesbian people (straight people can go too!), they are very friendly places and you will rarely find trouble in them, and you will find some people there to be attracted to! Although there maybe a small chance the person you like maybe a straight guy, so I'd read all the signs first. |
A night in the Castro? I think I'd have to shoot myself first. 
I think I'd have more fun starting out GSAs around campus. But the fact is, finding gay extroverted science nerds is quite hard (and may not be wholeheartedly worth my time).  |
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ReindeerRoger
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| Quote: | | I think I'd have more fun starting out GSAs around campus. But the fact is, finding gay extroverted science nerds is quite hard (and may not be wholeheartedly worth my time). |
I met like, 6 million cool gay people by volunteering at my university's LGBT Drop-in Centre . . . school clubs are probably a good way to meet gay people. Actually I know alot of people who use Grindr, the gay casual sex hook-up Iphone app., to meet people to go on coffee dates with. Indirect/online options are a major blessing to gay people, in contrast to the crazy stuff gay guys used to have to do to meet eachother. And given its straightforwardness in contrast with RL where there are no real gay dating pools, there's probably more extroverted people on OKcupid than you think. There's alot of people nowadays who are extroverted but also really Internet savvy/absorbed. |
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dustyrose
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Yeap, I have one. Haven't found anyone decent yet
"funkyowls" by the way x3
However I met my last (and only) boyfriend on "PlentyOfFish" |
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Jean_Descole
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| Posted: Tue Mar 20, 2012 3:38 am Post subject: |
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| ReindeerRoger wrote: |
I met like, 6 million cool gay people by volunteering at my university's LGBT Drop-in Centre . . . school clubs are probably a good way to meet gay people. Actually I know alot of people who use Grindr, the gay casual sex hook-up Iphone app., to meet people to go on coffee dates with. Indirect/online options are a major blessing to gay people, in contrast to the crazy stuff gay guys used to have to do to meet eachother. And given its straightforwardness in contrast with RL where there are no real gay dating pools, there's probably more extroverted people on OKcupid than you think. There's alot of people nowadays who are extroverted but also really Internet savvy/absorbed. |
I actually have much fewer problems with GSAs. That said, we don't have an LGBT Drop-in Centre on campus The problem with the gayborhood is that the Castro is full of old people. Creepy old people. And the 18+ clubs around SF are just terrible. Mind you, I only contacted one, maybe two people, via OkCupid, and it was just meh. Not bad, but not great. Still, the main issue is just that I'm not looking for anyone, and even less time for a relationship. But, yeah, if I were looking, I'd probably begin at my school's GSA. It's just a lounge that's open all the time, and I have stopped there on occasion. |
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Ldub20Owl316
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| Just joined but haven't done much there. |
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The_Face_of_Boo
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slovaksiren
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| I'm on OKcupid, but I'm currently seeing someone right now. My inbox is probably full with a lot of people interested in me... I'll get to them eventually... |
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