DIProgan
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| SanityTheorist wrote: | | MisterSpock wrote: | I find egotism is a great shield. Aspies are generally considered to half low self-esteem/confidence levels, and a way to hide that it to act better than everyone. There is of course the inherent singlemindedness that seems to come hand-in-hand with AS.
Personally, I've been told I've been big-headed on occasion, when I didn't realise it. On other occasions, I do mock peoples intelligence, but only people who seem to look down on me. When around most people, I act 'normal' and can easily self-deprecate, but around other egotists, I put on the "well I'm abviously so much more awesome than everyone else" act. So far, I think 99% of people get it's an act, but there are a few who may think that's how I really am.
Aspergians may feel the need to act like this because:
- It's natural to them, and nobody has told them otherwise
- It helps socially
- They genuinely think they are better than other people
- Mimicry |
I agree except for mimicry.
Admittedly I have an ego, but I feel like I've earned one. When you are near expert level on bass and are very good at drawing after 4 months you have a right to be proud. |
That might be true but I wouldn't want to be friends with you from what I've heard. I'm saying this because you posted in the social skills / making friends section and might want to know how you appear which is pompous and egocentrical. Angry responses ain't necessary. |
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DIProgan
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| I believe a lot of aspie egotism comes from difficulty with changes. Difficulty in trusting people and the pure energy consumption in letting another being with "strange" opinions into your world. It's a short-term effective selfdefense mechanism to let yourself believe you are superior and have no need for the other person. Long-term results are quite catastrophical though with lots of aspies being loners just aching for friends but not being able to understand others or let go of their fragile selfimage as superior. It's simply all some of us got. |
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SanityTheorist
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| Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 3:49 pm Post subject: |
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Good point. I am humble about my abilities generally, but when somebody is talking about something they know nothing about it can drive me crazy.
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UnLoser
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| No, I'm not egotistical, but when I'm around my immediate family I can be very stubborn and forget to treat them like human beings. Not a good thing, obviously. |
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NicoleG
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| All of the things your describe are egotistical in nature, but some are also flat out mean. Sarcastically mocking the intelligence of another is bad behavior. Thinking that you are right and telling someone else they are wrong (like being a passenger in a car and telling the driver that they shouldn't be speeding) is still an egotistical endeavor, but it doesn't carry the weight of mean intentions with it. |
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minervx
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 8:26 pm Post subject: |
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yes, many aspies are like this.
i realized that i was like this myself, and worked hard on fixing it.
reasons why aspies can be like this:
1. they are unaware they are being condescending
2. they feel the need to compensate for their lack of social skill
3. they want to very much receive recognition for their intelligent |
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Delphiki
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 8:29 pm Post subject: |
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| minervx wrote: | yes, many aspies are like this.
i realized that i was like this myself, and worked hard on fixing it.
reasons why aspies can be like this:
1. they are unaware they are being condescending
2. they feel the need to compensate for their lack of social skill
3. they want to very much receive recognition for their intelligent |
Kind of goes with your number 2, but what to feel better about themselves, so they feel that other people are not as smart as them |
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Nereid
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| Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2012 1:27 am Post subject: |
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| I've only met one aspie who seemed to think so greatly of themselves. Most come off as earnest and frequently insecure. |
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