HairlessAlbinoCat
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Someone who gets sad when he or she watches a seed that goes un-sowed and cries when thinking of unknown people's misery but has a lot of trouble naturally sympathising with people to the point were it may seem that he or she doesn't care, is cold and emotionless and that it might seem like that for ever?
Okay, I am talking about my self but rule that out of your reasoning. |
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| Yes. |
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danmac
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i have in the past 
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| Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 11:11 am Post subject: Re: Would you date |
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| HairlessAlbinoCat wrote: | | is cold and emotionless and that it might seem like that for ever? |
I have dated someone who was like that, however in all honesty I called it quits because she never bothered to even try and have emotions about anything.
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Not for me personally... I'd want the emotions to show rather than not showing any.
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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| My ex was a bit like that. She started arguments with me while my mother was dying, she just didn't understand that there's a time and place and was very little comfort to me at all, at the time. |
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HairlessAlbinoCat
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| Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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All of these replies read more than fairly logical and do find them helpful.
Anyone care to elaborate even further?, it's okay if you don't. |
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nomadder
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| Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 9:49 pm Post subject: Re: Would you date |
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| HairlessAlbinoCat wrote: | | ...and cries when thinking of unknown people's misery but has a lot of trouble naturally sympathising with people to the point were it may seem that he or she doesn't care, is cold and emotionless ..... |
I have dated someone like that who spends a lot of time concerned about the misfortunes of the masses yet can APPEAR quite uncaring and oblivious of my needs and concerns. Also he will generously donate his time and money to charitable causes but is extremely frugal with his friends.
I've wondered about this - I'd love to hear more about why Aspies do this. Perhaps if my needs and concerns were presented in news story format and dramatised - would that elicit more empathy? |
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| It depends is a girl like that easy to cheer up or would need hint hint cheering up when she is sad |
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nick007
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YES I'm kind of a lesser extreme of that so we could relate some & I really want to be emotionally supportive of my partner.
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hale_bopp
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I'm exactly the same, but I don't think I could date someone like me.
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| I'd be perfectly fine dating someone like that if the rest of his/her/its qualities were compatible with mine. The first part, about crying for the seeds and the masses, is actually a large plus to me because I care about things like that too. I tend to get angry at the people in power who are causing that pain, though. I'm a bad person. |
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CrazyStarlightRedux
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I think so...I have strange emotions though.
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| Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes. That can happen to me as well, so maybe that's why. |
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HairlessAlbinoCat
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| Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 7:42 am Post subject: Re: Would you date |
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| nomadder wrote: | | HairlessAlbinoCat wrote: | | ...and cries when thinking of unknown people's misery but has a lot of trouble naturally sympathising with people to the point were it may seem that he or she doesn't care, is cold and emotionless ..... |
I have dated someone like that who spends a lot of time concerned about the misfortunes of the masses yet can APPEAR quite uncaring and oblivious of my needs and concerns. Also he will generously donate his time and money to charitable causes but is extremely frugal with his friends.
I've wondered about this - I'd love to hear more about why Aspies do this. Perhaps if my needs and concerns were presented in news story format and dramatised - would that elicit more empathy? |
Well in my case I cannot do it in synch but if someone takes the time to explain to me and is willing to converse about his or her feelings I'd certainly employ all my attention into analysing the situation. But like I said, it would have to be explicitly initiated.
As to the news story format and dramatisation, I've been known to over-interpret things, mostly things that have a very clear signs, objective and clearly identifiable, I guess since those are the only things I can pick up I over-emphasise my response without being aware, but these instances are so very rare since most display of emotional circumstance aren't like that.
So I guess it would help, although I don't know if the dramatisation should be done with or without disclosure of the intentions to do it. In my case I would find it relieving inasmuch I'd be tranquil to know I'd be able to pick up in to the persons emotions (from the dramatisation). That is a reason why I love the theatre, it's easily comprehensible and there are rules and structure, making me feel like I can understand the characters emotions, in that way I am kind of like Abed from "Community". |
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