Sempiternal
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| muslimmetalhead wrote: | | It woul be odd for an Aspie to be mentally mature as an essential part of Aspergers is emotional and social IMmaturity |
I agree with you, and though that may be true, most Aspies aren't interested in topics most would like to talk about, and since this is the adolescent forum, they'd seem more mature in that sense. Or maybe they're more intellectually mature than their peers because of certain special interests?
I, for one, have no idea whether I'm more mature or immature than my peers.  I do feel more intellectually mature, but mostly in areas with my special interests, and if someone asks me a question that has to do with my interests, I usually have to water down the information for them. In one of my classes, I probably seem more mature in the sense that I get all my work done and read a book on one of my special interests instead of socializing with others. Yet I am told that I act like a child when something really upsets me or when I get really excited about something. I have meltdowns when I get frustrated, and I will start jumping around and clapping my hands when I'm happy. |
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fraac
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| I feel like the most mature person on the planet. Which would suck. Feels like I'm responsible for taking care of everyone. |
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QuantumKiller
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Yes, though sometimes I just feel I'm surounded by retarded monkeys. I'm only in 8th grade and my teacher thinks I should go talk to some REAL ACTUAL PHYSICISTS AT A UNIVERSITY!
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muslimmetalhead
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| Sempiternal wrote: | | muslimmetalhead wrote: | | It woul be odd for an Aspie to be mentally mature as an essential part of Aspergers is emotional and social IMmaturity |
I agree with you, and though that may be true, most Aspies aren't interested in topics most would like to talk about, and since this is the adolescent forum, they'd seem more mature in that sense. Or maybe they're more intellectually mature than their peers because of certain special interests?
I, for one, have no idea whether I'm more mature or immature than my peers. I do feel more intellectually mature, but mostly in areas with my special interests, and if someone asks me a question that has to do with my interests, I usually have to water down the information for them. In one of my classes, I probably seem more mature in the sense that I get all my work done and read a book on one of my special interests instead of socializing with others. Yet I am told that I act like a child when something really upsets me or when I get really excited about something. I have meltdowns when I get frustrated, and I will start jumping around and clapping my hands when I'm happy. |
That isn't maturity, though, is it? We're just smarter and more obsessed
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KatherineBates
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Yes! Because I perceive things differently, namely in a more objective way. For example, if someone said to me 'give me the ball' I would think 'ok, they want the ball' whereas someone else would percieve it as a threat to their positive face, since 'give me the ball' is an imperative that infers that the speaker has dominance over the recipient. Since I have a hard time understanding inferences, I don't react with anger towards the utterance, therefore appearing assertive (a trait linked with maturity). In actual fact, I am someone with aspergers who, ironically, is probably more immature than other people.
That's my theory anyway. 
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Xena_Sophia
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I am only 14, but my younger sister often accuses me of acting like I am in my mid-20s. I believe this may be due to the fact that I almost always analyze what I say before I say it (I have often been jokingly called "Spock"), and decided to commit myself to non-violence (except in contact sports  ) at age twelve. Also, I enjoy talking about existential philosophy, will always listen intently to any conversation regarding theoretical physics, and have been called a "walking encyclopedia" frequently by my peers. My friends who are juniors have said talking to me is an effective method of learning SAT words.
However, if my control over my emotions slips (due to stress, sugar overload, elation, etc.) I act much younger than I would normally, lose a great deal of control over my natural inclination towards incessant movement, and generally go rather crazy. This juxtaposition has been noted by my friends, and I find loss of control quite alarming, so I try to avoid it. Unfortunately, my socio-emotional perception is essentially a foreign language learned through practical experience and extensive internal categorization of what different postures/facial expressions/etc mean. This makes me seem much more socio-emotionally mature than I really am to everyone I know (parents included) because I hate losing control.
Whoops! Sorry for rambling <  >, it is a natural tendency of mine in speech or text.
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ReaperKnight
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| I definately think I'm more mature than all the students in my school, because most of them are your standard NT personality-wise, despite the fact most of them have Autism. And this is a special school, mind you. |
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Ryginar
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I certainly think I am, but I never receive such a compliment.  I'm always being called immature. |
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Ryginar
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Than again, people never compliment me. I'm always the retard, as*hole, man child, b***h, c**t, prick...
Really says something about other people, who have to downplay others to gain stability for themselves. |
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SanityTheorist
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Yes, but only to a degree. I can talk about complex scientific issues and art movements and why some artists were good or bad, but it is also fun for me to do Monty Pythonesque things or just feel textures. It's a nice balance.
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ocdgirl123
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Yes I do, my interests are much different than most people my age. Especially in terms of music. I like music that you would except someone in college-aged or older to listen to and I am in grade 11. I don't enjoy going out and partying every weekend. And when I do go to a party, I prefer a smaller group, the music loud enough to hear it, but not loud enough so you have to yell to talk to people and no or minimal drunkness. I am not much for crazy parties. I feel about 30 mentally.
However, I feel immature emotional and socially. I feel about 11 socially and 5 emotionally.
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American
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| Well, I'm probably one of the older people posting here (I'm 23) but, yes, I did feel that way as a teen. I still feel that way now. So many young people in their early twenties are intellectually immature. Exhibit A would be Jersey Shore. Many of my peers could also care less about anything important. They like sex, alcohol and sports. I don't drink any alcohol and I never watch sports. Those things aren't fun for me. For me, sitting around and talking about philosophy or politics is fun. |
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Jupiter1234
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| Somtimes I feel Overly mature and somtimes I feel like a 4 year old |
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ForestRose
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I've felt more mature than others of my age before, and sometimes still do, but in more ways than not I actually feel immature. For example in a social setting - I feel at least a few years younger, with none of the certainty or just "knowing what to do" that my friends have, always scared of doing the wrong thing and generally just lurking at the edges of group conversations. I'm also painfully aware that my attempts to get certain things across/cope with certain things are also pretty immature.
In terms of feeling more mature, I seem to just skip certain phases that my friends dwell in, all of which seem kind of immature at the time. Crushes, for instance, although I'm not so sure about that one anymore. |
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LaPelirroja
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I've ALWAYS felt this way. I've always felt more mature than others. Socially, no, but culturally, definitely.
Teenagers generally have strong inclinations towards picking a "style", and sticking with it: goth, punk, intellectual, jock, gay, straight, etc. I have never felt this way. I have never wanted to compromise who am I in order to fit a mold- or I would try it, and realize that I was a really bad actor, and put the act aside.
As you age, you start to settle- you have worked all of your life to reach these goals (spouse, children, job), and at this point you feel more confident in who you are as a person. You don't have to work so hard on deciding who you are- in many ways, life has decided for you. And when you're a teenager, you've never really had the opportunity to take life into your own hands, so you feel a bit rudderless. |
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