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Had your best friend ever turned into your worst enemy?

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Link95
Tufted Titmouse

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Posted: Sun Apr 08, 2012 8:26 pm Post subject:

My supposed best friend was practically using me to get him stuff when we were friends, and then we weren't friends anymore because he blamed another friend of mine who became my new best friend afterward for something that was entirely an accident of mine.

NeXus_Blueliner
Toucan
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 8:15 am Post subject:

Pretty much happened with me. Got very close to someone online, she became my best friend and then she did something IMO that was extremely stupid and I told her sister about all the things that had worried me. I then told my best friend it was me that had told her sister and she just went off at me and didn't want to ever talk to me again. We do talk again now though. It took her a lot of months to realise why I did what I did. I wasn't at fault at all, I was looking out for her because I care for her so much and she just threw it all back in my face. Before then, we'd always argue and then be ok again. Funnily enough, she wound me up four days ago lol. We're always alright in the end though and I'm thankful that we can argue/fight and then move on and be fine. That's the closest I've ever come to having a best friend turn enemy. I did hate her quite a lot for the things she said to me after I tried helping her. _________________ - I might not have the height but I sure have the heart - See Red - Los Angeles Kings 2012 Stanley Cup Champions -

SanityTheorist
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2012 2:09 pm Post subject:

90% of the people I tried getting clsoe to were incredible two-faced. However, those that aren't make for excellent conversation. There was one old friend that led me to depression, conspiracy theories, over-analyzing, self defeatism and overly spiritual bullshit. Took months to get rid of him though because he was all that i had and he planned on keeping it that way. There are people that f***ing manipulative, and it's truly sad. Then there are those that you get no abnswers from, just wallow in self pity with. And having thsoe two combined for months nearly led me to suicide. So yes, people are terrible if you make a lot of compromises to be around them. If it's mutual happiness when acting natural though, keep them. _________________ My music at: http://www.youtube.com/user/SanityTheorist5/videos Currently working on getting in a studio to record my solo album 40+ tracks written. Chatroom nicks: MetalFluttershy/MetalTwilight/SanityTheorist

bcousins
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 4:27 am Post subject: Re: Had your best friend ever turned into your worst enemy?

KarateKetchup wrote:

for me, this happened not too long ago. it was just an all of a sudden. it was an online friend who I used to talk to many times with. today, he just calls me a ignorant, pathetic coward. but i'm maturing from this and staying away from him... so, have you ever been through things like this? In real life or online?

Both.

Though I am pretty sure the Online one was just "Country rivalry", The actual real life one was a fraction more serious, and I would rather not state it on an open forum
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Smartalex
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 5:50 am Post subject:

NTs are horrible. I'm NT and I have a young 20 year Aspie friend that has 'friends' that are taking his entire disability check. I was so MAD and upset. I tried my best to help the kid but it's a lot for him to swallow. He's gonna end up saying the same thing that you guys are all saying. The sad thing is, I had to scream at him, 'DUDE they're using you!' How do you tell a 20 year old kid that's had nothing but misery, loser parents, loser teachers, horrible job prospects, bullying and riducle left and right that the people that he's living with that he believes are his friend, they're really full of sh** and pulling the wool over his head? My friend right now probably thinks I'm the bad one. It's all so sad and reading what you guys wrote is terribly heartbreaking.

WerewolfPoet
Deinonychus

Joined: Mar 04, 2012
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 9:33 pm Post subject:

Sparx wrote:

I'm not quite sure what anyone is to me anymore.

^This.
I could elaborate on the specifics of my case, of which there are many, but the above sums it up so completely.

Asp-Z
Clockwork Planet
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 1:39 pm Post subject:

An Aspie I was friends with since I was like 10 years old randomly become an enemy of mine at about 15 for no real reason. Everyone's potentially s**tty, it's not just NTs.

Arcena
Butterfly

Joined: Jul 23, 2011
Age: 18
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:10 pm Post subject:

No, although friends can turn a bit mean sometimes when they get comfortable with you. I was known as the quiet kid for most of my life, and I was treated nicely almost all the time. But when I started blabbing my mouth more, I noticed that people would start to be a bit more "assholish" towards me. Not to say that they had any malicious intent. Anyway, if you can relate to my experiences, keep persevering. You may run across some rough spots, but being able to pour my feelings out on other people is very rewarding.

Tin_foil_hat
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:33 pm Post subject:

No, I've found you can control friends and enemies by not doing or saying much; it keeps it all neutral and this works best for me. I have, however, had friends and classmates go in moods with me and shun me and ignore me for no reason. Why do people do this? It's really stupid.