Comp_Geek_573
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 Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 8:55 pm Post subject: Let's end this ridiculous stigma against going places alone! |
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I don't get why people fret so much at the prospect of going to a public place alone!! They'd rather give up something they want to do than go by themselves, for some unknown reason!!!
If this were not stigmatized, there would be MANY more opportunities to meet people. When in a group, people tend to stick with the group and not be terribly welcome to outsiders. But alone, they're much more open to meeting someone.
What negative character trait do people see, or think other people see, in someone who goes to a restaurant, concert, arcade, etc. alone??
We should rebel and start going to all kinds of places people normally bring friends to, alone! Just as long as drinking and driving is not involved.
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1000Knives
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 9:08 pm Post subject: |
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I never realized there was a stigma until recently. I just do whatever. I'm not gonna let my lack of a friend wanting to do something prevent me from doing something.
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AardvarkGoodSwimmer
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 9:13 pm Post subject: |
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When I go to a restaurant by myself, I honestly think I sometimes get less good service.
I sometimes try and take the high road. Okay, if I was a rich businessman out on a lark by myself, I would be very matter-of-fact about the whole thing. I would observe but it wouldn't be a big deal one way on the other.
If it's a Friday or Saturday night, sometimes it's distinctly embarrassing to be by myself. Other nights, not so much so. |
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Keyman
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 9:17 pm Post subject: |
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| I go to dances, no problem being "alone". Because you dance with everybody at the place. |
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BMctav
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 11:39 pm Post subject: |
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| 1000Knives wrote: | | I'm not gonna let my lack of a friend wanting to do something prevent me from doing something. |
I like your attitude.
It's bonkers that there are so many people in the world that don't have friends. If the lonely people could just hang out with each other, then the problem would be solved.
“Forget sex or politics or religion, loneliness is the subject that clears out a room.” - Doug Coupland |
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izzeme
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:08 am Post subject: |
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agreed, there is no reason not to go somewhere on your own, bar a few specific activities.
i myself indeed just go to the arcade/carnaval/concert/cabaret/movies/inserthere by myself if noone wants to join me; their loss, not mine.
also the reason of "but i dont know how to get there" is invalid, almost everyong has a smartphone with goole nowadays  |
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arielhawksquill
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 8:52 am Post subject: |
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I don't experience this stigma, apparently. Maybe it's because I live in a big city, but I see people out on their own doing stuff all the time and don't find it noteworthy.
I love to go to restaurants, shopping, and films by myself. Needing a "posse" to accomplish such ordinary outings seems pretty weak to me. |
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Pyrite
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 9:44 am Post subject: |
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| I think I'm more averse to asking people places because I don't go to them alone, which it never really occurs to me to do because I've internalized the way it is viewed by the culture at large. |
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Keyman
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 4:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Internet helps finding people that are also alone.. |
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jhighl
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| Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2012 6:36 pm Post subject: |
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| I always feel weird when i go places alone... |
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alex_br
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| Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2012 10:35 pm Post subject: |
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I'd rather be alone at the cinema.
I've been to nightclubs alone, but it requires alcohol in my system to tolerate the sheer amount of people near me, and even then I tend to find a spot were people won't bump into me... it's solitude in a crowd  |
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edgewaters
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| Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2012 4:54 am Post subject: |
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I never noticed a stigma. Maybe for bars or rock concerts or something, but I have no interest in going to those sorts of places. I really like going out to eat or going to see a movie by myself.
I don't see whole crowds of other people doing this - but I definately do see other people doing this. Pretty regularly. |
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MONKEY
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| Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2012 5:43 am Post subject: |
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I like going on little outings alone, I like having the freedom to stay as long as I want, do what I want and not have no consider what another person wants to do. I've always wanted to go to a pub restaurant or cinema on my own, I could order some tea and read a book while eating or use the computer if there's wi-fi.
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| Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2012 5:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Here's a great video that's been around for a while - How To Be Alone |
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AdamAdam
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I completely agree. I actually prefer doing things on my own a lot of the time, especially if it's somewhere where I'd like to take photos. I'd rather just wander around with my camera, listening to my ipod and not having to worry about where the other person wants to go, or talking to them.
Obviously I like being around people as well, and some things are more fun with friends, but I can happily spend the day completely alone, especially if I have music to listen to.
The reason there's stigma about restaurants is probably becasue it looks like you've been stood up |
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