Yuzu
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I'm on it but never get messages from anyone interesting.
I've messaged someone whose profile was really intriguing and we exchanged e-mails almost everyday for about 2 months.
But after meeting in person several times he told me he met someone else, so I stopped contacting him.
That was 3 months ago and I haven't found anyone as interesting since.
I think I need to tweak my profile a little to attract right kind of people but I'm not sure how... |
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curlyfry
come out from among them and be ye curly
Joined: Jun 14, 2010
Age: 43
Posts: 1491
Location: Latitude : 45.373. Longitude : -84.955
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Yuzu wrote: | I'm on it but never get messages from anyone interesting.
I've messaged someone whose profile was really intriguing and we exchanged e-mails almost everyday for about 2 months.
But after meeting in person several times he told me he met someone else, so I stopped contacting him.
That was 3 months ago and I haven't found anyone as interesting since.
I think I need to tweak my profile a little to attract right kind of people but I'm not sure how... |
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GentleMayden
Emu Egg
Joined: Apr 25, 2012
Posts: 2
Location: Minas Basin, East Coast, Canada
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 6:55 pm Post subject: |
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| I have been on OKCupid, POF, Passions Network, Match.ca, & every other free dating site out there at one time or another with absolutely NO LUCK. I'm starting to lose hope of ever finding someone that isn't a complete loser or looking for a "mom". |
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rabbittss
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 30, 2011
Posts: 1348
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| Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:12 pm Post subject: |
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| GentleMayden wrote: | | I have been on OKCupid, POF, Passions Network, Match.ca, & every other free dating site out there at one time or another with absolutely NO LUCK. I'm starting to lose hope of ever finding someone that isn't a complete loser or looking for a "mom". |
I sympathize. |
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scubasteve
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 18, 2009
Age: 28
Posts: 993
Location: Ann Arbor, Michigan
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| Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 1:25 am Post subject: |
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| GentleMayden wrote: | | I have been on OKCupid, POF, Passions Network, Match.ca, & every other free dating site out there at one time or another with absolutely NO LUCK. I'm starting to lose hope of ever finding someone that isn't a complete loser or looking for a "mom". |
Ask someone to help you improve your profile and take good pics. I think having a more interesting profile is more important than which site you join. |
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Logan5
Deinonychus
Joined: Feb 25, 2007
Posts: 336
Location: Sanctuary
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| bumble wrote: | | " .... All I end up doing is wasting time that could have been better spent studying or on one of my other hobbies." |
My experience was similar. I wasted a lot of time on my profile, especially the questions. This was partly because I am not sure what I am looking for, particularly with regards to what things should be "deal breakers" or "red lines". (E.g. drug use, religion, children?) It also does not help that most people seem to put very little thought into their responses to the questions, and what they allow as an acceptable response by the other person. The end result is the "match", "friend" and "enemy" percentages are of very limited use. Moreover, I am rather quiet and asocial, whereas dating involves going out, having conversations, and sharing activities. I suspect that I am just too introverted and/or autistic to date.  |
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Vigilans
Orgasm Donor
Joined: Jun 20, 2008
Age: 24
Posts: 12091
Location: La belle province
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| Posted: Sat May 12, 2012 4:44 pm Post subject: |
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Deactivated my OkCupid profile. It was stressing me out somewhat
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JanuaryMan
Aspierational
Joined: Jan 02, 2012
Age: 28
Posts: 2543
Location: Hants, UK
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I'm on OKCupid only to look at what's out there, not pursue a relationship. Frankly I don't get responses because of my writing style (apparently i have to act fake or stupid to get responses. I know this cos I tested it) and I find it toxic to just play the silly games people want me to play there.
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The_Face_of_Boo
A savage
Joined: Jun 17, 2010
Age: 31
Posts: 9308
Location: Beirut ,Lebanon
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| Posted: Sat May 12, 2012 5:03 pm Post subject: |
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| JanuaryMan wrote: | | I'm on OKCupid only to look at what's out there, not pursue a relationship. Frankly I don't get responses because of my writing style (apparently i have to act fake or stupid to get responses. I know this cos I tested it) and I find it toxic to just play the silly games people want me to play there. |
Yes, you have to act cocky.
And you need to flirt her pics smartly, in a way to make anyone blushes. That often worked for me, at least in getting responses. |
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rabbittss
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 30, 2011
Posts: 1348
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| I did, but I deleted my profile tonight after a month of nothing but people I have no interest in visiting my profile. I just got too discouraged. I've come to realize I'm never going to find what I want, and since I refuse to settle, I'll have to get used to doing without. |
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ValentineWiggin
Yup.
Joined: May 16, 2011
Posts: 4879
Location: Beneath my cat's paw
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2012 4:16 am Post subject: |
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I am.
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of the human Heart, that very few Men, who have no Property, have any Judgment of their own.
They talk and vote as they are directed by Some Man of Property, who has attached their Minds
to his Interest."
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scubasteve
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 18, 2009
Age: 28
Posts: 993
Location: Ann Arbor, Michigan
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 Well, if you come off half as well IRL as you do online, his parents are probably right. We are our own worst critics, are we not? Anyway, congratulations Val! Best of luck. |
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ValentineWiggin
Yup.
Joined: May 16, 2011
Posts: 4879
Location: Beneath my cat's paw
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Thankums.
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They talk and vote as they are directed by Some Man of Property, who has attached their Minds
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J4mes
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: May 01, 2012
Posts: 54
Location: Essex, England
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2012 7:24 am Post subject: |
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I met my girlfriend on OKC 
I think you do have to sell yourself quite well, or at least give your profile a bit of an edge if you can and also, changing bits of your profile regularly will make it more visible to potential mates. |
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JanuaryMan
Aspierational
Joined: Jan 02, 2012
Age: 28
Posts: 2543
Location: Hants, UK
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Sounds like you're doing alright, Valentine go get 'em!
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