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Recently my hubby's cousin got promoted. She hosted a party
I attended the party with my hubby it was a quite family dinner
During conversation the topic came up about a cousin's broken engagement
My hubby told everyone that i found out after seeing the facebook profile of that girl.
It was shocking for me, everyone was looking at my face, i didnt know what to say or do.......
a surely embarrassing moment
Because i have blocked all my hubby's cousins from my facebook page and i dont want
them peeping into my activities.
But i am able to look at their profiles by using my hubby's facebook page.....now they found
the statement made by my husband quite weird and it makes me sound like a peeping tom,
a creepy person who blocks own facebook page and goes around peeping into others account
i have surely fallen in their eyes and my husband says he didnt say anything out of the box
but i did feel they find me psycho or freaky now. 
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I don't know that you can do anything about it. If you tried to disprove them you'd only look worse. So your problem is mostly about feeling embarrassed, and that will fade on its own, given time.
Just make sure you keep your connection to your husband free of strain. You are a couple and you face the world together, as a team. Make some time to hang out with him together, without any family to get in the way, just you and him.
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You're probably just overreacting a little. I always freak out when I perceive myself to be in a situation like that, but I almost always come to find out that my fear of persecution was totally unfounded. I think all the persecution I, and many with ASD, had to deal with growing up has set me up to look for it and find it even where it doesn't exist. And even if they do think badly of you for something like that, it's most likely not something that will ever affect your life, so it's pretty meaningless. I'm willing to bet most of them don't even remember it and if they do it's probably not something they've thought of since then. I tend to ruminate over all sorts of silly stuff and so I assume other people do the same, but usually when I think I've really embarrassed myself I later find out that I was the only one giving it any thought.
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namaste
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| Callista wrote: | I don't know that you can do anything about it. If you tried to disprove them you'd only look worse. So your problem is mostly about feeling embarrassed, and that will fade on its own, given time.
Just make sure you keep your connection to your husband free of strain. You are a couple and you face the world together, as a team. Make some time to hang out with him together, without any family to get in the way, just you and him. |
i have been firing my husband from last 2 days related to this incident
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| EstimatedProphet wrote: | | You're probably just overreacting a little. I always freak out when I perceive myself to be in a situation like that, but I almost always come to find out that my fear of persecution was totally unfounded. I think all the persecution I, and many with ASD, had to deal with growing up has set me up to look for it and find it even where it doesn't exist. And even if they do think badly of you for something like that, it's most likely not something that will ever affect your life, so it's pretty meaningless. I'm willing to bet most of them don't even remember it and if they do it's probably not something they've thought of since then. I tend to ruminate over all sorts of silly stuff and so I assume other people do the same, but usually when I think I've really embarrassed myself I later find out that I was the only one giving it any thought. |
i dont think i am overreacting....
i know his cousins very well..........they all are females and very intuitive
one of them is a psychotherapist i just knew where this will head towards because they are clever people
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| namaste wrote: | | EstimatedProphet wrote: | | You're probably just overreacting a little. I always freak out when I perceive myself to be in a situation like that, but I almost always come to find out that my fear of persecution was totally unfounded. I think all the persecution I, and many with ASD, had to deal with growing up has set me up to look for it and find it even where it doesn't exist. And even if they do think badly of you for something like that, it's most likely not something that will ever affect your life, so it's pretty meaningless. I'm willing to bet most of them don't even remember it and if they do it's probably not something they've thought of since then. I tend to ruminate over all sorts of silly stuff and so I assume other people do the same, but usually when I think I've really embarrassed myself I later find out that I was the only one giving it any thought. |
i dont think i am overreacting....
i know his cousins very well..........they all are females and very intuitive
one of them is a psychotherapist i just knew where this will head towards because they are clever people |
Intelligence doesn't predict how a person will behave really, that seems to be more personality. Looking at other peoples activities without letting them see yours seems a bit... unfair. But as other people have said, your embarrassment will fade, and your relationship with them can be fixed. |
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namaste
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| FalsettoTesla wrote: |
Intelligence doesn't predict how a person will behave really, that seems to be more personality. Looking at other peoples activities without letting them see yours seems a bit... unfair. But as other people have said, your embarrassment will fade, and your relationship with them can be fixed. |
ya its quite creepy to know that someone is looking at your activities daily and hiding their own activities
but i prefer hiding mine because i go through mood swings and can end up writing rubbish on my wall during a low period
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