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20% |
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17% |
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50% |
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Caesaran
Raven
Joined: Mar 31, 2012
Posts: 111
Location: The Divide
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 Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 3:23 pm Post subject: Relationships with younger or older partners |
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I am curious on how many Aspies are in a relationship with a younger/older partner?
I remember reading a post by a certain user he was dating a girl 8 yrs younger than him.
I know most aspies usually get along with people who are younger or older than them.
Feel free to explain how well your relationship is going if you are described in said post. |
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Boxman108
"Oh...it's just a box."
Joined: Jan 03, 2012
Age: 21
Posts: 1392
Location: NH
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If I could I'd date someone older in the (unrealistic) hopes that she'd be less shallow and more mature.
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
Phoenix
Joined: Feb 25, 2012
Posts: 1608
Location: Ireland
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 4:19 pm Post subject: |
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| I've been out with girls up to 10 years younger. My last relationship was with a 28 year old. I'm 37. |
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DogsWithoutHorses
mockingbyrd
Joined: Apr 06, 2012
Posts: 1145
Location: New York
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My S.O. is older. We're just at the same stage of life and have adult responsibilities a lot of guys my age aren't capable of handling. Plus, I've always gone for brains without ego and that's a hard mix to find in undergrad.
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Bun
Bunnymen
Joined: Jan 09, 2012
Posts: 3250
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 4:33 pm Post subject: |
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The only time I was with someone who's exactly my age, I would have been about 8...  My gf is a little younger than me.  |
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Kurgan
I'm always right
Joined: Apr 07, 2012
Age: 24
Posts: 1696
Location: Norway
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 4:39 pm Post subject: |
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| My ex was 8 years older than me. |
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DaBeef2112
Snowy Owl
Joined: Dec 19, 2011
Age: 42
Posts: 144
Location: Toronto
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 4:49 pm Post subject: |
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My wife is two years younger, so id say about the same age. However my brother, cousin and grand father all were with women a decade older and I suspect all of them are aspies like me.
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SilkySifaka
Lemur
Joined: Apr 23, 2012
Age: 27
Posts: 1396
Location: UK
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 5:02 pm Post subject: |
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| My boyfriend is 7 years older than me, I am 26 and he is 33. All the people I've dated in the past have been older than I am, usually by 5-10 years. It wasn't a conscious decision to date people older than me, it has just worked out that way. |
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blueroses
restless, but going nowhere
Joined: Feb 11, 2007
Age: 30
Posts: 1599
Location: Lancaster, PA
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| The age range of my ex's has been from 4 years younger than me to 8 years older than me. I found it much easier to get along with the guy 8 years my senior than the guy 4 years younger. But, they had very different personalities and backgrounds, so it's really like comparing apples to oranges. |
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Caesaran
Raven
Joined: Mar 31, 2012
Posts: 111
Location: The Divide
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 6:57 pm Post subject: a bit off topic |
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I think most Neurotypicals would consider us aspies dating some younger/older
a bit estranged but it's not really that big of a deal, people probably at least before the 1920's went out with younger partner.
Going off topic a bit, I have a wierd habit of attracting younger persons to me though but i think most of us aspie give off the "adult" vibe.
anyways, talk about your relationships with younger/older partners, How sucessful were they were. |
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DogOfJudah
Deinonychus
Joined: May 01, 2012
Age: 25
Posts: 345
Location: Staffordshire, UK
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Always younger and always shorter XD
Did have a thing for a little while with someone older, felt like having another sister tho.
As for how they went I'd say pretty well, I'm all up for the long haul with my last one lasting for 2 years and the one before 2 and a half.
I have a tendency of having horrible moments of depression when everything is going well tho and destroying it all... I'll learn one day
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rabbittss
Phoenix
Joined: Dec 30, 2011
Posts: 1348
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 8:57 pm Post subject: |
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I tend to go after girls who are younger than me.. usually about 3-4 years but sometimes as much as 5-6 years.. I'm not interested in anyone under the age of 21. On the other hand, 30 is my upper limit. I'm closer in age to the 30 year olds than the 21 year olds, but in terms of my maturity level I'm closer to the 23-24 age bracket and thats really where I feel most comfortable..
This is mainly because, lifestyle wise, and responsibility wise, I'm not ready to be in a relationship with some one who has already met more of lifes benchmarks than I have and that I won't meet for some time. |
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Bloodheart
Grisha's Gal
Joined: Jan 18, 2011
Age: 30
Posts: 2168
Location: Newcastle, England.
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 9:27 pm Post subject: |
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My boyfriend is 5 years younger than me - but I usually go for older men.
I completely rejected my boyfriend at first as he was so young and I didn't think he'd be willing to commit to a relationship, certainly not to the sort of commitment I needed. There was big attraction so initially he just started out as someone for me to 'play' with, but as time went on he pushed for a relationship which showed to me he was willing to commit and I eventually agreed to start a relationship with him.
Turns out I had been approaching men wrong all these years. I'm a classic 'daddy's girl' so I seek older men - I prefer men much older than me but I often ended-up with men just a few years older than myself, I'd go for such men thinking they'd be more willing to commit where as in my experience many older men are single for a reason such as a fear of commitment and they see younger women as a bit of fun.
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Caesaran
Raven
Joined: Mar 31, 2012
Posts: 111
Location: The Divide
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| Posted: Fri May 04, 2012 12:25 am Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | urns out I had been approaching men wrong all these years. I'm a classic 'daddy's girl' so I seek older men -I prefer men much older than me but I often ended-up with men just a few years older than myself, I'd go for such men thinking they'd be more willing to commit where as in my experience many older men are single for a reason such as a fear of commitment |
The fact that most that most other males will not commit saddens me but to view a woman as an entertainment commodity, My heart aches in sorrow. It is the right of every woman to be have a gentle farewell filled with a passionate kindness, Leaving a wonderous kiss instead of entrenching scar that shatters. A sweet memory to pave a new future after it.
I kind of believe in commiting without marriage,It is a true test of fidelity and passion to remain faithful without the bondage of religion. |
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crmoore
Phoenix
Joined: May 19, 2011
Age: 32
Posts: 573
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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| Posted: Fri May 04, 2012 10:19 am Post subject: |
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I clicked "near my age" since that's who I'd PREFER to be dating, but I ment to click "single." Serves me right for not reading the whole poll.
Anyways, been single all my life, never had sex, never been kissed, never been on a date, never held hands with a girl, never even asked a girl out for a cup of coffee. So in short, I'm the oldest "relationship rookie" you can think of. |
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